To be envious of these female Doctors

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Dd has been ill recently so we’ve had to go to a range of different private specialists.
Ive noticed the majority were female-amazing, but also that they were young, good looking, trendy etc. The child psychiatrist was wearing smart clothes-wide legged trousers etc, but with really nice Gazelles and she walked out to my dream car. The female gp we have is beautiful, so kind and warm and was saying her husband was a psychiatrist etc.
I’m not one to be jealous or superficial normally, but I think them also obviously being very smart and the list of their educational achievements makes me more envious. I wish I’d studied harder at school, instead of having too much fun with my friends, in a way.
I don’t know, I felt a bit rubbish as a 40 something mum with my Primark bag, fairly old Quasqui and mediocre teaching career.

Been a doctor for nearly 20yrs….look decidedly average, dress mainly in m&s, car needs a wash, still renting. On the rare occasion that I go out in the evening I don’t tell people what I do for a living unless really pressed because it’s really not that ‘cool’ & I’d rather talk about other things. We don’t all have family money, exclusive educations, fabulous wardrobes and perfect lives!

99% of the world would envy you your wealth and career!
I'm a teacher too.

But these were private doctors and the OP obviously is in a position to access private treatment so can't be doing that badly.

The child psychiatrist was wearing smart clothes-wide legged trousers etc, but with really nice Gazelles

Trousers and trainers that you could easily also wear

Mediocre teaching career! Cheers for that!

I have a pair of gazelles and a nice car on my mediocre wage 😂

Nothing mediocre about a teaching career! That takes amazing skills that most people don't have

You're doing an important job - setting the Doctors of tomorrow on the path to success

My DD was born with a heart issue (all sorted now) and her consultant was young, beautiful and Irish, with a great lilt to her voice. She was married to another dr who was equally as gorgeous and she had 2 sets of twins very close together.

I was always amazed at how she was so clever, put together, mumsey and a generally nice person.

Just remember though that to get where they are, they've made a lot of choices that probably involved sacrificing other areas of their life (e.g. spending lots of time studying, giving up a lot of their twenties/thirties working long shifts and unsocial hours) and could have regrets in that area. They could easily be looking at you and being envious of aspects of your life that they don't have

This. I worked in health care for years, know, and are friends with quite a few consultants (most of whom do private work in addition to their NHS work). They worked bloody hard to get where they are and they have sacrificed and still do sacrifice time with their families to get and stay at the level they are.

My friend who is a consultant plastic surgeon (he specialises in facial disfigurements/ reconstructive surgery as well as cosmetic) works from 7am until 10pm every day. He does ward rounds on Saturday mornings to see his private patients and is sometimes called out over weekends due to emergencies etc. He loves his job and is amazing at it but it has come with huge sacrifices and I know he doesnt see his wife or teenage boys as much as he would like to.

So dh is a Dr, not too far off retirement now, he's never been glamorous or well groomed 😂. And our car is leased we don't even own it. Most of his female colleagues just look like any other working woman, they don't swish around like models. I saw a private Gynae this week and what I noticed most about her was how kind she was, I've no idea what she was wearing.

I briefly worked as admin in a paediatric department of a hospital and some of the consultants were so beautiful and stylish. I don't doubt the work they did to get there though, so I can't say I'm jealous

I'm a teacher and my sister is a doctor. Not a chance I'd swap places. And we live in similar size houses, drive similar cars etc. I'm sure she's got loads in pensions and whatever but her lifestyle certainly isn't different enough to make me at all envious of her job, which frankly sounds far less pleasant and fun than mine!

I've no doubt op that someone will be looking at you thinking they wish they were you! I used to work with a woman who had her babies really young and it was funny because I really wanted a family but hadn't met the right person at the time and I remember her telling me she wished she'd waited and she really envied me because I was starting out well in my career and had money to spend on myself and going out having fun etc, whereas I really envied the beautiful relationship she had with her kids and how rich her life seemed to be with love for them.

I think this maybe says more about your confidence and sense of investment in yourself. Maybe it's time for a new haircut or having some fun with your wardrobe and building up a collection. I'm nearly 40 now and I feel like since having ds that I've fallen into such a routine of wearing the same frumpy clothes, wearing much less makeup and scraping my hair up when really it could do with a wash and ideally a colour! I think it's just a sign that you need to carve out a bit more you time?

I think you should just take a little prescription from them, OP. Go out this weekend and get yourself some wide-legged trousers and new shoes. Have a haircut and a grooming session. Maybe get your car valeted. You'll feel better. There is nothing more remarkable about being a doctor than a teacher.

This is very funny and describes me very well😅 Part of the problem is that, on days when I am not well turned out I find people (staff and patients) don't trust me or take me seriously. I need to look the part given what I'm doing so patients have confidence in me.

There is nothing mediocre about a teaching career.

I'm sure you too would look great if you didn't have to dress in clothes that can all go in a hot wash!

And think, at least you don't have 6 figure student debt

They probably have less stress being a private doctor.

lot of consultants etc don't do very much.

Lol yes there’s a super human doctor in our village who looks like a super model, has three kids, works almost full time but somehow also manages to grow her own vegetables and press her own apple juice, not to mention the triathlons. Her husband looks like a A-List celebrity as well. They’re like a different species.

This^

Teaching is truly incredible- Be proud! You are the foundation for tomorrow's doctors, vets, educators, engineers, lawyers and countless others.

Teaching is not a mediocre career!

I’m always impressed by teachers. I think they are fantastic. The job can be tough, and they are looking after the education of our future generations. They have such a big impact.

Thanks from me to all teachers - and I think you should be paid more too.

A mediocre teaching career?

They aren’t all that intelligent, just good at memorising information, from my extensive experience with the profession

I think a lot of parents would be envious you’re able to take your child to a private healthcare facility.

Get your hair done and put Gazelles on your Xmas list!

A teacher and a doctor are both some of the most valuable careers anyone could choose to do for the benefit of society.
You are equal to them in every way. If they are working privately then of couse they can afford an expensive car. But being a teacher, a good one is amazing and so important.
You can't just suddenly decide to start studying medicine now. You're already highly skilled in a massively valuable career. So be proud of yourself.