My mum has bought DD a dress knowing we won’t like it.

[Glasscabinet]

It’s DD first birthday soon and my mum has asked me to collect an outfit from hers ready for DD birthday.

My mum was laughing as she said that neither me or DH will like it/to our tastes but in her eyes it’s lovely.

What planet would I dress my DD, on her first birthday, in an outfit that caused a round of laughter over.

One hand I could be polite and pretend that DD got it dirty or I could straight out refuse to accept it.

What a waste of money and material. If anything I’m actually quite annoyed.

It’s awful, kind of thing people who put crowns on babies and get them to smash cake would buy. You don’t have to dress her in it. The skirt would be nice for dressing up.

Charity shops will struggle to sell it, as it can only be sold to a family that has a one year old named Lily !

I also wouldn't lie about a poonami -- just say 'Thanks mum, here are photos of her wearing the dress, the dress is really not to our taste and not very practical for a baby, so we got her redressed after the photos'.

It's beautiful.

The only issue I'd have is that I'd want to have the joy of choosing the outfit for my daughter's first birthday. So I'd say that's lovely and we can dress her up and do a little photoshoot with it, but then I'd put my outfit on for her party. She can have more than one ... after all, it's her birthday : )

You never know! A soon-to-be one-year-old Other Lily might love it!

I always bought my DGC clothes that I AND their parents liked. Therefore no waste of money and we were all happy.

Now they're teenagers I buy the clothes they like and I dislike the least!

I'd lose the skirt as well.

The T shirt is acceptable {especially for a few pics} but the sombre sludgy colour and mass of exploding fabric around the waist?

Very impractical.

Headbands on babies are naff anyway- there was a trend for bald baby girls to be put in them- {as a baby I was bald as a potato} 🥔 but head bands weren't around then.

Ironically bald babies tend to have very luxurious, thick fine hair from 2 and up.

I’m as middle class as they come and a gigantic snob. Like, next level.

But even I think the snobbery and denigration of this harmless little dress is just ludicrous. If you get all stressed out about this, how in the name of all that’s holy do you handle life’s REAL stressors. Jesus wept.

Your daughter will like plenty of things you don’t. So will her grandparents. You are her mother, not her controller. Why is it such a big deal to put her in the dress? If she’s like most one year olds, she’ll need more than one outfit per day, anyway.

Unless there is a massive backstory you’re about to drip feed, just let it go. Seriously, life is too short to kick up a fuss about something this trivial.

I think it's adorable, and us grandma's do like to buy things we think will look gorgeous on our grandchildren

Stick it on first thing in the morning, take a few photos and then give her a nice sloppy breakfast

Absolutely. The dress is hideous but that’s not the real issue. The underlying point is the OP’s DM is deliberately disrespecting her buying a dress she knows she hates and finding it funny.

@Cheeseandcrackers40 to be honest if I was the granny I'd be fine with that.
Life should be a bit of fun sometimes.

Don't forget to 'go NC', OP. That's the important thing. Wait until your daughter starts disrespecting your parental 'rights' and asserting her own.

I honestly can't believe the fuss made over a damn dress. It's such an insignificant thing and it's a dress. Not something that has permanence or any sort of importance. But go ahead and make a real drama out of it.

Honestly, I would be furious. Your mum surely knows that you will want to put your DD in something that you think is nice for her first birthday and this present looks remarkably like an act of aggression!!!! I'd be inclined to say Ha ha, very funny Mum, you know we hate this kind of thing. Can you take it back to the shop because Lily will not be wearing it? That might stop her doing it again.

it's a farkin dress - stick her in it, and take a picture of her eating a massive chocolate cake in it.
And your Mum likes it. Not exactly skin off your back to do something to please your Mum (unless she has form for being a total cow and riding roughshod over your wishes).

Remember .... one day you'll want her to look after your kid for a weekend when you want to go away.

My mum passed away years ago. I would have let her dress my DD in old men's y fronts if it meant still having her here

🎯😂

My lovely in laws basically clothed DS as MIL loved buying clothes so much.

I was very grateful to her- She soon learned what I/DS liked as a style- had MIL her way, she'd have dressed him like Prince George.

I think this too. Unless there are other major issues in the background I would think this was just a bit of banter and probably not worth the hassle of a fall out or upset. I hope you all enjoy celebrating little one's first birthday and it's remembered for being a lovely day and not the start of a family disagreement.

It’s not my cup of tea, but if it makes your mum happy, put her in it for five minutes, take some photos for your mum, then change her into what you’d like her to wear and drop the outfit off at the charity shop. If your mum asks why she’s not wearing it all day, then either tell her the truth; you think she looks ridiculous and you couldn’t look at her without laughing, or tell her you gave birth to her, so you get to choose what she wears on big occasions.

And you think OP’s mum is the bitch? 😉

That’s minging. Don’t blame you OP. My mum is like this buying shit for my baby and I just refuse now. I’ve told her so many times, don’t buy stuff because we don’t have the same taste. So when she turns up with “I saw this…” I just say no, it’s horrible mum, hope you kept the receipt.

I can see that it might not be to everyone's taste but I think it's adorable and would make a nice keepsake for your DD, especially as DGM bought it.

If most adults look back at their baby or toddler pictures, there are outfits that no doubt were considered very stylish then but look quite funny to modern eyes. That's half the fun with these OTT "special occasion" outfits. A bit of gentle humour instead of taking it so very seriously.

The dress is very "of the moment" with the ruffles, the twirly writing and the bows. I like the fact the age is on it. Some of my fondest photos are of outfits with "I am three" on or suchlike.

If you can't stand it, I'd at least put her in it and take a few pics. Perhaps if some of us are DGMs ourselves in the future, we might like to occasionally see our DGC in some clothes that we love too...

‘Furious’? ‘Act of aggression’? Are you always so dramatic?

I'd feel the same. I hate tacky nonsense like this.

I think that people tend to ride the mountains, then 'crash' at the molehills.

If OP and her mother had a 'healthy' relationship, the mother wouldn't have bought it, but would have compromised.

Yes, it is a waste to buy something that will only be worn once.

People need to think about the precious resources that are wasted producing tat like that.

She could have given the money to a charity if she has too much money.

Sorry, didn't mean to quote the OP, but i can't delete it.