To feel slightly suspicious of dp

[wwyt]

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

Nothing much to add but just wanted to say you have my sympathy OP, it's a horrible position to be in. I hope you get some answers soon.

Any updates?

If one of his parents is very ill it would make sense. Hospice nurses are there same time every day and he could have been discussing care of ill parent in the car.

Are your see next and coloured ops posts not working? Don't be so insenstive

Another possible things that’s happening - he’s giving a neighbour a lift to work ?!

I do wonder if it’s something to do with his parents that they don’t want her to know about. Still not ok to keep secrets from your partner though. Just a ‘somethings going on with mum and she needs me’ is all it would take.

Why wouldn’t you though? It’s a fairly cheap watch. My daily watch is worth many times that and I’d chuck it on to do the school run, I don’t even get out of the car! It’s not in any way fancy or going to impress anyone so I don’t get why this guy would be trying to impress with his. If it were a nice Patek, maybe.

A £400 pound watch is a fairly cheap watch! What a tone deaf comment to make

I've heard it all now. You must move in very different circles to me @Shade17

I have read the full thread. If YOU had read it you would see my earlier post of how I said surely they wouldn’t turn you away if you turned up with their grandchild. What have you said for them to completely block you out? They can’t be that bad if he spends so much time with them.

The whole thing is beyond ridiculous anyway. Maybe this is why he isn’t around. Your behaviour is as strange as his.

As watches go it’s a cheap one, the point I was making was that it’s not going to impress anyone. It would be a funny thing to wear solely for that purpose. I’m not saying he can’t enjoy wearing it though, which is probably the reason he IS wearing it, just for the sheer fun of it. My most valuable watch is probably the most subtle, it’s one of the reasons I love it, no one gives it a second glance, I wear it purely for my own pleasure.

But in this instance she said he didn't used to wear it and has suddenly started. So it's out of character for him to wear it to work and relevant to where he's going.

Well then none of that makes sense does it.
If your most costly is your least impressive, what has the price of his even got to do with it .

And surprise, surprise, people move in different circles and for many people 400 is an expensive watch. It was as a
poster said a tone-deaf comment. Plenty of people in this world have watches they are proud of that are not Patek snd plenty others wouldn’t waste their money on one even if they could.

Perfect user name - I'm sure you throw it all the time. @RampantIvy got it spot on: "tone deaf" (not to mention, nasty and bragging).

Get over yourself

Sorry. I didn't mean to derail this thread @wwyt

I hope things work out for you

@Shade17

What a horrible horrible nasty thing to say about ' his £400 watch that I bought him he loves it. '

YOU have no idea of this families financial circumstances !!!

I think the Op @wwyt is fairly young ( compared to me as I think I am just about old enough to legally be her grandmother ) and this watch was/is a present to her DP
and from what I have read the Op is a sah mother and the young man works hard in a dirty job which involves welding - how do you think you can comment on their disposable income ?!!!

I suggest there will be MN'ers reading this thread wondering what a Patek watch is.

If you have nothing nicer to say, go and give your ' advice ' and comments on some of the Style / shopping threads...

Sorry, I didn’t even mean to derail the thread but the point I was trying to get across is that maybe he’s just started wearing the watch more because he loves it and has decided that it’s better worn than not. I can’t see it being something that you’d use to try and impress someone, but then I don’t wear any watch to impress others so maybe my view is skewed.

You can certainly love a watch without it being based on price, I prefer my daily watch to some others I own which are worth considerably more.

I’m also just being factual when I describe it as a “cheap” watch. I’m not suggesting that it’s rubbish, just trying to put it into context, it like someone suggesting driving a Ford Focus to impress others.

I know 😂😂 this made me roll my eyes a full 360 degrees. Would have to google the brand that was name dropped if I wanted to know what it cost (I don’t) as I’ve never heard of it. Ps IMO anyone paying more than £400 for a watch is loopy. It tells the time. It’s a little clock for your wrist 😂

I know you don't get on with DH's parents but for the sake of your marriage i would knock at their door and ask if you can speak to him if his car is in the drive or parked at theirs. likewise if you call his work and his dad answers ask for him to come to the phone.

I know what a patek is. And I’m sorry to say @Shade17 i don’t get the big thrill! I’ve always thought them rather disappointing for the price. They have a clever marketing campaign. Maybe op wasn’t taken in by it!

I know what a patek is

Curry paste?

at the risk of further derailment you’re digging a hole here 😂 my DH had a nice sporty ford focus when we met and I was very impressed 😂 edited to add that if he’d been driving a Maserati I would have thought he was a wanker and he wouldn’t have stood a chance 😂

I’m also just being factual when I describe it as a “cheap” watch.

Stop digging! It may not be a hugely expensive watch (compared to yours) but it's not "cheap". A cheap watch is a twenty quid one from Argos (do you even know such things exist?! 😱)
You're not being factual, your posts are sneery (and not in the least not helpful!)

Holy shit, you need to stop posting drivel

I think you’re digging yourself a hole here!