To feel slightly suspicious of dp

[wwyt]

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

I did see this op but are you able to explain a bit more about the background to this? It’s just I can’t help but wonder if it provides a piece to the puzzle. Do you think- horrible though the thought is when you have Dc - the parents might be encouraging or even facilitative of Dp finding another relationship? I just keep feeling your lack of relationship with them holds the key to why he is vanishing round there. Is the relationship so bad they would want it keep it from you if one of them was very ill? ( I know someone like this)

Are you the real Taylor swift

50 to 60 with the hair left completely undied looks absolutely old. Even these days - you see the school mums when we leave the hair not done for few months, suddenly look like the gran, not the mum

This is so odd, my guess is he's found someone local on fabswingers, sorry

It s not some kind of game, there aren't any prizes, no need to make guesses that really don't make sense. Or does fabswingers have a filter for women available pre breakfast living withing walking distance of the in laws with bobs ( may or may not be elderly)

I'm sorry if my post sounds flippant that wasn't my intention, I'd be exactly the same as the op trying to find out what he was up to good or bad.
It doesn't look like something good.

On fabswingers you stick your location on and can see who's nearby, you send them a message and arrange to meet. You don't have to care or filter for an age group, as long as he's happy with what she looks like theyll probably meet.

Thing is leaving two hours early for work and not providing any reasonable explanation , it would be pretty hard not to be onto him wouldn't it. If he's having an affair he's making it blatantly obvious

Do you have a joint bank account?

The idea of saying you want to go for an early walk tomorrow sounds appealing to see his reaction but I wouldn't do it. It will leave you with no concrete evidence and will just further make him aware that you are on to him.

Surely an affair you'd not go every day at 7am!

You'd see them a few times a week, not very single day. (I mean maybe first few weeks it's exciting but after a bit you'd calm down to less regular)

Regular session like that sounds more like an extra job (could be one done from parents house?) but does he have any other particular skills if he actually is a welder? Maybe working on commissions for art work? But hiding the money so doesn't lose it in a divorce.

lol.

@wwyt this is a slightly odd response by someone who is on here looking for genuine advice to a genuine problem which seems to be genuinely upsetting you?

Are you able to walk to his parents street ? Would there possibly be someone hanging around waiting for him ?

@KaleQueen sorry it's just that person was continuously replying being smart so I was being smart.

@Bluestone12 it's great you think I'm a troll, what a crazy random story to make up...

Funny you've been replying all day and making so much time for a "troll post".

Kindly stop replying now , do something better with your night

I would recommend the following:
Plan as well as you can to end the relationship (sorry, he’s clearly been lying to you about something)
And try your very best to get clear evidence of what he’s been doing. For your own confidence in your next steps and also because a quick browse on here (and personal experience) will tell you that men very very commonly deny deny deny as long as they can, and make you out to be the villain for not trusting them. So you almost certainly will get no truth from him unless you have your own evidence that he can’t deny.

@Bluestone12 I'm getting impression you have a very sad unhappy life 🙁

I feel really sorry for you, take care of yourself xx