To cancel our first holiday together 6 days beforehand

[Chickenrun12]

Hi all, I'm trying to understand why my boyfriend would ask me this before I cancel our holiday. We have been together about a year and we are going to Thailand on Wednesday, he has never left Europe so we are both looking forward to it. Early today I mentioned I had read there are ALOT of massage places offering happy endings where we are staying thinking we would both have a have a bit of a laugh about it so I was shocked when he said 'I could get a hand job and you could watch' I laughed and said yeah right thinking he was joking but he carried on by saying 'it wouldn't be cheating if you were in the room would it'. I asked if he was joking and he said no. I couldn't believe he'd even suggest it. I said OK maybe I can get a happy ending from a man whilst you're in the room (I would never) and he got very annoyed saying it's totally different and why would I even say that. This is our first holiday together. I have planned and paid for this holiday as a gift and I just cannot believe he would even suggest it. He did apologise after I told him how upset I was.

For context he slept around alot whilst we were seeing each other but not officially together whilst saying if I ever slept with someone else he would never see me again. He swears blind he has been loyal since we have been official and I believe him (maybe stupidly). Any thoughts? I feel like not going at this point but maybe that's an overreaction

No I'm not on Ketamine. I'm on Promazine.

Don’t you dare apologise.

You have nothing to apologise for.

Some people on this website are absolute vultures. They get a kick out of being patronising, pedantic twats with absolutely no empathy or the ability to imagine how difficult some vulnerable situations can be.

Absolutely good on you for leaving the relationship. Good on you for seeking help. Good on you for accepting the help. That in itself takes courage. Please never ever allow anyone to make you feel bad for talking about your experiences.

I hope in time you can move on from this point of your life and you can look back and see how far you’ve come. Look after yourself, and be kind to yourself ❤💐

This^

It was brave of you to update OP, and so many women end up in awful situations which they feel for whatever reason, they can't walk (or indeed run!) away from.

When people such as yourself come forward with horrific stories like this, you never know who is reading - and possibly something sinks in for them as they read about your experience they can then look at their devastating situation, and it helps them see that they too need to leave a terrible man.

Good to hear you are getting help.

I wish you well 💐

I think you've been through a terrible experience where you were taken advantage of and coercively controlled. It's good to see that you're getting support and help.

I'm also pleased that you have split up from this man. That may not have been easy.

I'm sorry that some of the posts on this thread have been so mean to you. You don't deserve that.

You will recover from this and in time I hope you can find a partner who is loving, kind and supportive. I wish you the very best.

@Chickenrun12 Please bin him off and go to Thailand on your own/with a friend. You deserve so much better!!!!

She finished him off, then ended it. A sort of buy one get one free deal. As if.

It was 'wrote a basic porno sketch' and watch the comments come in. Not believable in the slightest.

I don't know, I could believe it. We were in the bar area of Koh Samui which isn't even all that wild and whilst walking back with my boyfriend in the early hours a working girl came out touting for business. When she wasn't successful with her enquiries she pulled down my boyfriends shorts and boxers and grabbed hold of his genitals in one swift movement IN FRONT OF ME!- and tried again. Some of the working girl bars definitely have a bit of a maffia fleecing type vibe to them from the outside, although I've never been in.

I hope you left them a bad Tripadvisor review …..

I should think so, if six of them couldn’t even get him to finish.

People are only going for it due to the race element imo. If she’d said he got gobbled by six Welsh chicks in Cardiff there’d be less people taking it at face value.

😂😂😂

Good point.

The ‘anal fingering’ would be a deal breaker for me 😄

Jesus Christ. This happened!!! I know to some people this seems unbelievable but it happened.

How sad that some of you witches find this funny.

Do you really think a “porno troll” would go to the effort of coming back 45 days later after first posting the thread, just to troll? Seriously?

I know the ones with the sick minds. And it isn’t the OP.

What baffles me is how was the bill worked out?
I mean, apart from the drinks he got different things on the menu from six of them. These various services are not handed out free. Maybe there was cash handed over each time, I don't know. - but it all sounds a bit messy, so to speak.

Oh I believe there were people aggressively touting for business. What I don't believe is that it was inevitable that OP ended up in one of these dodgy bars and that it ended the way it did. And you kind of proved the point by extracting yourselves from your situation without ending up in an 8-some where you eventually had to do all the work.

'People are only going for it because of the race element' what is actually wrong with you people?

I give up telling you its the truth. It absolutely is what happened and I don't need to prove it to you at all.

As for how the bill was worked out I don't actually know. They kept bringing trays of tequila shots but I have no idea how the pricing worked out. It was just one final bill at the end, paid on card and worked out at £428.

Why are you posting your bank details on a website

This is the transaction from that evening. I guess I'm trying to 'prove' I'm not lying. I don't know why I even care as this whole update and being called a liar has actually just made me feel more shit and I really don't need it right now.

Go on holiday and take a friend or your Mum with you. Bin this loser off.

Sorry, OP. I'm sorry this happened and I'm
sorry the twats on here are bullying you about it to make themselves feel better on what is touted as a 'supportive forum'

They're just random people, not all of them are nice, and it is easy to be anonymously rude. Don't take it personally! There are enough good people on here who wish you well and understand that people make mistakes. Enough of us are glad you have got away from this man and hope for a joyful future for you.

What an awful update. At least you know now for sure what a wrong 'un he is. Hope he's going to pay you back.

Op I hope you're on the way to becoming a stronger person. Please look after yourself x