Bisexual Awareness Month

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Apparently we’re celebrating this at work, which seems to consist of endless blogs about being bisexual and being “visible.” Fine, no problem with that, but why do I need to know in the workplace? Does it affect how they do their job?

I’m not being goady, I genuinely don’t see why I need to know.

Same. No work colleagues have ever known about my sex life. I'd cringe forever.

Are tou listening to the bisexual people on this thread that say it doesn't happen?

25 years of being out as bi and not a single negative incidence?

Why do people at work needing to be made aware of bisexuality? Do grown adults not know that some people swing both ways? What more is there to say after that?

Why is it the work places responsibility to 'educate' grown people about sexuality???

The majority of us don’t care what anyone’s sexuality is. We are more interested in whether they are a decent person and can do a good job in the workplace. We don’t need ‘days’ or ‘months’ of awareness.

I have similar feelings about pride, but I’ll keep those to myself for fear of being verbally beaten to death!

I'm really happy to read that a few posters on this thread have made it through life without encountering any negativity due to their sexuality. I am genuinely pleased for them.

However, it's dangerous and ignorant to assume that, just because a few Mumsnet posters say that they've not experienced something, it doesn't happen. I personally have very recently lost a whole friendship group (their choice) when they found out I was bisexual, as they had so many horrible ideas about it. (That it's just attention seeking, that it's an excuse to be promiscuous, that bisexual people can't commit or be trusted). I've had awkward experiences where people made really unkind comments about bisexual people (as they didn't know and thought I'd laugh along).

My partner says that they've never experienced racism. That doesn't mean that I'm ignorant enough to assume that racism doesn't exist. We all have different experiences. We can be grateful that we haven't experienced something hateful, without denying the experience of others who have.

Haha, wish you'd been around to tell my (unknowingly to me) bi DH that you can be bi and faithful and not always be thinking about missing sex with the gender of partner they aren't currently with. I would have had a lot less doggy style sex with him then. After I found out I read research that found that bi men were the most likely to admit to cheating in a relationship out of any group. So I'm really happy for you to date bi men but I wouldn't be taking my chances again.

This week is Happiness at Work week, surely that is more relevant? We got cupcakes on Monday, I can get behind with that.

We also celebrate Pride month by raising money for local LGB charities which again is reasonable. Plus 101 other things that generally seem to be about getting us into the office by offering us free food or fun activities to raise money for charity.

I totally agree? They should ban all talk about partners, especially the endless drivel when they decide to get married. The worst ones are the ones with kids, they never stop mentioning them. How dare they shove their sexuality down our throats on a daily basis, constantly reminding us what they do in bed, nobody cares. What's worse are the inconsiderate people who have pictures of their kids in public view, it's just pure woke virtue signalling advertising to the world what they get up to in bed. Why keep advertising it every day of the year.

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Its got nothing to do with work who I do or don’t sleep with and what sex those people might or might not be.

It’s cringe.

I can't tell if this is sarcasm or not - if it is, I love it 😂😂

Seems like tokenism to me by the workplace. Possibly one where simple measures to ensure that private lives are respected such as finishing on time are absent.

I guess I'd be classed as bisexual, I've never really thought about it. Although I'm in a relationship with a woman now and wouldn't touch another man with a barge pole.

People are getting over this shit though, surely it's running out of steam.

Why does bisexuality need a month? I thought Bi was included in Pride month??

We are accepting to the point we don't care! Which is how it should be! What you choose to do with your minge has nothing to do with work ffs!

I'm bisexual but as a woman, married to a man, no-one would know unless I told them. I don't plan to ever be with a woman again as I plan to stay married to my DH - neither do I plan to ever be with another man.

I definitely don't want my bisexuality to be visible at work because all there really is to my bisexuality now is my sexual history and my inner thoughts/feelings about who I find attractive, none of which is I would feel remotely comfortable sharing in a professional context.

However, that's me, and if other people have different circumstances and want their bisexuality to be visible in the workplace as it makes them feel more comfortable, go right ahead.

I think it's really important. Trans rights have completely taken over pride & LGBTQ+++ awareness & events.

LGB people were still fighting for equality within living memory - gay sex & marriage were only recently made legal.

LGB awareness has never been more relevant IMO as increasingly lumped together with trans +++ & 'woke' whereas LGB is very different.

Bisexual people face discrimination from all directions - heterosexual, lesbian & gay, the 'anti woke' etc

I think the awareness month at work is absurd, but I also don't agree with people who are saying "keep it in the bedroom" or "it's no one's business who you have sex with". I mean, ok, but being bisexual isn't just about who you have sex with. It's about who you want to have wider romantic relationships with, possibly including marriage and family. It's shitty to reduce bisexuality to sex, just as it would be shitty to reduce any form of romantic love to just sex.

When your female colleague tells you they have a first date with a guy they like that night, or your male colleagues mentions a weekend break with his wife, we don't think "ewww keep it to yourself". Real bisexual acceptance would be for someone to be able to mention dating both men and women at work, when relevant and appropriate, without it being a big deal.

But yeah, I absolutely do not think that the way to do that is a company wide month where you all read blogs about bisexuality.

You are aware that your "large organisation" isn't the only one....and others might do things differently?

I work for the civil service which celebrates every day/week going and it's all completely optional.

The only thing OP has actually specified as having taken place is a blog....how can it be "mandatory" to engage with a blog? How is that evidenced? Do your entire staff have to reflect on and dicuss it?

This is my point above....if it was mandatory and OP could specify that it took up a significant proportion of their working day that would be better spent doing something else, then their annoyance might be justifed....if it"s literally a few posters on the walls and a blog post on the home page you can choose not to click on then getting so worked up and annoyed on the way many people on this thread have, seems a bit pathetic.

Unless they also get as irate about every other random crap workplaces do that isn't directly linked to the actual job being done then it is a bit weird to find bisexuality the thing that pushes you to create a post and not "national friendship day" or "new wellbeing initiative" "free yoga trial" "Tom's blog on how x sport changed his life" "sponsor Amy's marathon" and all the other random office stuff.

Wasn’t bisexuality covered by the month long gay pride rainbow fest that happened recently? If every one of the alphabet gets given a celebratory month we might have to change the entire way of organising the year, with shorter months and more of them……

This discussion comes up every year with pride or awareness and it's just tedious to hear the, I'm not racist, but. I'm not homophobic, but, etc. I did love the posters above saying that excluding all bi people from their dating pool isn't prejudical when the only thing different about them is they sleep with the same sex. Just admit you find same sex relationships icky and own the prejudice, there is no other quantifiable reason for not dating them.
As for the woman with the cheating bi ex, you'd better be careful about those heterosexuals 75 percent of men have cheated at one point (68% for women) and will over 20 percent have cheated on their current partner. Sexuality has nothing to do with fidelity, cheaters are cheaters.

Black history month. World childless week. I think it’s up to the group concerned to decide how much time they want to devote to it.

And these “they can do what they like in the bedroom” are inherently phobic. If a straight person mentions they did something with their opposite sex partner no one says “why do I need to know what you do in the bedroom?”

I think a lot of what gets tagged as biphobia is really just misunderstanding. But there are thousands of misunderstood groups, why does this particular one deserve a special month?

And let's put some facts in here. Bisexuality it's still one of the least understood areas of sexuality among the general public. I've been out for over 30 years now and my mum still insists on telling my partners she so glad I've grown out of my childish phase when she meets them.
For a website mainly for women which trades on its feminist credentials in assuming you are all aware that the single group who suffers the highest levels of domestic and sexual violence are bisexual women, and that's by a significant margin.
I did a quick search and 0 awareness or campaigning on the subject.

Omg, it's like you are so close to grasping the point of awareness events, just go up on your tippy toes and you might finally get it!

It's very weird when you think about it. What makes them think they have any kind of moral or ethical expertise.

I'm almost 50 years old, I have a degree in philosophy and history, I've worked in the military, I have a pretty keen interest in politics, science, and ethics and read a lot around those subjects, as well as literature.

Some of my bosses are, while nice enough people and competent, basically idiots. A few others are just idiots and aren't even good at their jobs. My most direct boss is bright but 15years younger than me and very technically oriented. The leader of the company is probably the most well rounded but not more qualified to have an opinion on social issues than I am.

Where do they get off offering me anything about politics, ethics, or ideology? It's a fucking job, not where I look for moral guidance.

Yeah I really don’t need to know the sexuality of my colleagues. Everyone is aware bisexuality is a thing, are they not? So why an awareness month?