How much money do you give for a wedding gift?

[geordiegreek]

Hi I'm going to a wedding next month, it's a friend of mine, not best friend but a good friend I would say. She's been living with her husband to be for a number of years, already has kids, so I was just going to put some money in the card but I really have no idea how much to put 🙈 Aibu to ask what's the 'done thing'?

It's quite a fancy wedding at a posh kind of hall & im going with my 3 children if that makes any difference.

I do work although don't have loads of money to spare! But don't want to be seen as a cheapskate or anything. Just wondered what others do.

Any advice appreciated. Thank you :)

£100

100

I agree, £100 for a reasonably close friend if you can afford it and it's a first wedding. 2nd weddings we give a bottle of bubbly only (might sound harsh but DH is going to his friend's 3rd wedding, we're not giving cash as we did that already !).

What I can afford tempered by how close I am to the couple. I’ve never given £100 even for family (though adjusted for inflation I may have). There’s no rule. MN is weird about this.

£250

£100

£100 if the whole family is going - if it's just me, I would go down a bit to £75

£50

I give £50.

£100 probably in this situation if affordable

£100-£200

If you went out with your
3 kids and your partner to have dinner at a fancy place, you would end up paying far more than 100 quid. In my opinion it isn't enough, I would say at least 250.

We do £250 for friends, more for family and our closest friends but there’s no rule so just give what you want and can afford not to have.
Please don’t leave yourself short just to avoid being seen as tight.
I know lots of people see it as a ‘cover your plate’ type of affair, I don’t.

A fancy wedding where she’s hosting your family of four all day is probably worth £100, as long as you can afford it and aren’t forced into paying for expensive accommodation if you want to accept the invitation.

If it will be expensive for you to attend, £50 is fine.

£100

I normally go for £50 per adult and £20 per child attending if it's for the full day, or half that if we are just invited for the evening

£50.

£50-75 depending on who they are to me.

£50. And that was what most people gave at my wedding.

£150-£200. (I'd have said £100 if you were going alone.)

£50-£100 depending on your own circumstances, also are you getting a hotel or anything? If not then probably £100

£50-100 for the family.

We do £100 as a couple for friends, £150 for family.

When I was single I did £75/£100

£100 if just you £150+ for the whole family.

My rule of thumb is cover your plates so about 150