Why do so many women blame peri menopausal for their moods?

[needsomewarmsunshine]

It's a totally natural thing but so many on here blame it for moods, bad behaviour, petty thinking and more. Inspired by another thread becoming annoyed about two men wearing caps in a restaurant.
You don't like it but why blame it on peri ? You are allowed to be annoyed /irritated about anything you want. It doesn't need an excuse to be human, just makes women look a slave to their moods.
I've been through it and used to get pmt badly. You are women and your body is taking its natural course in life.
If someone is being a twat, they are a twat whether you are peri of have pmt.
Ready to be flamed😄

@JenniferBooth ok, if you don't want to listen, just trying to help. But from my experience, you're in the early stages of atrophy.

I will ask for a topical oestragen cream when i see her next week in case i do need it but ive really had no problems in the sex OR orgasm department No soreness during sex. . And ive already experienced what happens when trying to fix something that aint broke!

And i have an ultrasound scan and vaginal scan booked for next week so will know more then.

If the HRT you were on was pills it's likely not to have been as effective as body identical transdermal HRT and can cause more side effects as it's synthetic😂

Sorry for the 😂 that was a typo 😳

Never planned ways to kill myself before I hit peri and was refuse HRT by the doctor.

Guess I was just attention seeking and all I needed to do was to pull myself together and accept it was natural.

Its body identical Elleste Duet Conti. Pills

The oestrogen in Elleste Duet Conti can be considered body identical. It uses synthetic estradiol which is chemically and biologically identical to the hormone estradiol humans produce. The progesterone used, norethisterone, is synthetic but not considered body identical.

@KnottedTwine unmumsnetty hugs to you

@OSU Thanks @KnottedTwine If you need or want it you should be able to get it hes a twat

Because they DO !!!

@OSU I am doing much better now. One of the positives is that as others have said, the hormone imbalance can make you much more assertive so after being fobbed off with anti-depressants by two (female, middle-aged) GPs, and offered folid acid (wtf?) by a younger, male GP, I practically demanded HRT patches from the 4th I spoke to. You'd have thought that 3 GPs could look at a 48 year old who had had a hysterectomy (kept my ovaries) 3 years previously and join the dots, but that's apparently too much to expect. That was about 3 years ago and although i'm still prone to occasional bouts of anxiety which I never ever had before, I am not seeing things as bleak as I was.

Menopause is so much more than the stereotypical hot flushes. I am so grateful to the ladies who post on here about their symptoms and guve support and advice because it was reading forums here and other websites, and listening to public figures like Mariella Frostrup or Kirsty Wark talk about their experiences and made me realise that I wasn't losing my mind, that I didn't have dementia or psychosis or anything like that, all I needed was to slap a 75 mcg estrogen patch on my arse every 4 days. Have now added in Ovestin cream to the routine and that's working wonders too.

There are a LOT of people who think that all you need to get through menopause is some hearty vegan food, a bit of positive thinking and a yoga class. If that works for you then great. If it doesn't, it's not some sort of moral failing to use HRT, which can be life changing.

I always had mood fluctuations with PMT but peri was off the scale by comparison. OMG the RAGE! I can never go back to a certain local shop after I had a full-on screaming meltdown in there.

The reason I blame peri is my lived experience. I have never felt such anger over absolutely trivial things in all my life up to that point nor has it happened since starting HRT. I fear I may have to go through it again when I come off HRT, but hopefully it won't last too long.

I quite agree that women should own their justified anger, but peri menopause made me (and other women I've known) completely crazy and totally unreasonable.

Those of us who are impacted can tell the difference in our moods between justifiable and rational anger at injustice in the world and the absolute white hot out of nowhere rage or disproportionate anger at life's minor irritations

For example, throwing a plate across the room without even a pause and then immediately bursting into tears because I had no idea why I had done it other than an inanimate object wasn't quite where I thought it should be in that moment. It was terrifying as that kind of aggression is not me. There wasn't even else in the house for me to illogically hold responsible!

Within days of starting on HRT, I started to felt more like myself than I had in years and I can look back at how awful it must have been for my family to put up with.

If you haven't experienced it, you will never fully understand. And having lived it, I don't want you to, no one should have to.

Not sure if Estrogen makes you friendlier as a pp claimed. I’ve never been particularly friendly 😬. Plus I’m actually less emotional than I used to be.
I’ve become a lot more intolerant as of late and while it may be peri (mid 40s) I think it may just be mid life crisis and/or less tolerance for bullshit tbh.

I felt the same. Whilst in the midst of crazy pre-men , I wasn’t sure if it was justifiable rage from having lived a thousand little irritations and smiling dutifully through it all, building over time. It was like a fuse had been lit, and I wanted to watch it burn. I was already burning with rage, so small things would easy set me off, especially bullshit.

Now I feel like I am on the other side (mostly), and I stopped smiling dutifully.