Friend picking on me on holiday and I snapped

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Have been on holiday for four days with friend in Turkey and she hasn’t stopped making comments to me the whole time.

Ever since the airport, it’s been this sly little things and I don’t understand. I’ve just snapped at her and now she’s gone off saying I’m unreasonable and I don’t think I am.

Started with putting my case down, “you’ve got a lot of black in there are you here for a holiday or a funeral?” Then at the bar “why are you having that cocktail, why are you wearing that to go down to dinner, why why why” questions.

Constantly listening to stories about all her family members including great aunts, sisters lives stories but tried telling her about something I’m going through and got a “I’ve already heard this you typed it on the group chat” And then resumes to show me pics of her aunts dog :/

Sat on the sunbed, not feeling the most confident as I’ve gained weight recently but friend is bigger than I am. Never mention her weight ever to her. she keeps I think hinting people find me gross?

“That lady keeps looking over at you?” Me “oh is she, I don’t know why” “yeah she keeps giving you really dirty looks” I was like erm ok.

Then today at lunch, “that lady over there looked at you so disgustingly when you were eating that tomato with your hand” I did pick up a bit tiny that I couldn’t cut but usually manners are brilliant “she obviously thinks you’re disgusting”

I was like ok, then got up and wiped my hands and she said “are you seriously leaving that tissue you’ve wiped your hands on your dirty plate?” And I just snapped.

I actually don’t think that holidays with friends are for me. Had this once before when I was younger I think tensions run high when you’re away with someone.

my mum actually fell out with her best friend of 15 years on holiday and they never spoke again apparently it’s common to lose friends when holidaying!

This year I went abroad by myself for the first time and it was amazing!!!

I went on holiday to a Greek Island on my own and it was so relaxing.

(I did retire to my room with books every evening so I didn't have to deal with hassle from men though).

Hiya OP, glad you've managed to maintain those boundaries.

Have you been having a nicer time since?

This. It's fucking annoying to this day and wasn't even slightly funny the first time!

I disagree. To just throw something in to a completely normal post like "I snapped and farted" for no apparent reason was hilariously bizarre

She was VIDEOING you after you asked her not to? She's a right bitch.

And now you've called her out on it, she's gone DARVO. Horrible.

I would have told her to Fuck right off! Don’t let her speak to you like that nip it in the bud!
Holidays sometimes bring out the worst in people.
I fell out with a good friend over a holiday and we never spoke again. She later died and I do feel sad that we didn’t make up but it was her choice and I wasn’t going to force the issue.
I walk away when I feel a friendship is at an end.But this time she made that choice and I didn’t pursue it .

Holidays should be a pre requisite before marriage.

I stopped talking to a friend after a disastrous holiday in Tunisia. I was so upset by her comments that I flew home early. I'd known her since childhood and she could often be difficult but the holiday seemed to push her to another level.
This was in the late 90s and I haven't spoken to her since.

Narcissist, usually reserved for men only on here, but hey ho....

Jesus how much longer have you got with bitch from hell?
tell her to fuck off outta of it
soon as you on home soil put your phone in her face. YOUR BLOCKED BITCH
😂😂😂😂😂

She is an insecure fool. Her problem, not yours. And she is not a real friend. I can't say I've ever fallen out with anyone when travelling - or on hoilday.

I fell out with someone on my first ever girls holiday when I was about 18. There was three of us and one of the girls brought back blokes every night and was shagging them in the living room on the pull out sofa. Me and the other girl were so fed up and it was so cringey. Not cool.

This person is not your friend. Much love, the experience sounds ghastly.

Reminds me of a tale- I have 2 cousins who are also cousins but not sisters as they are from my DM's siblings. They are a similar age and got on like a house on fire. In their late teens they went to Spain together for 2 weeks. Elder one drank lots and got drunk every night, picked up a different old man most nights and took him back to their shared room for the night and locked other cousin out so that she had to share with some friends they'd made. When they got home they didn't speak for years

My friend got divorced in her early 50’s and went on a holiday with a couple of women she had met socially.

1 of them also in her 50’s literally shagged any man she could get her hands on. She disappeared for 3 days/nights with a bloke she met in a bar then when she finally returned (after he’d flown home) my friend and the other lady in the apartment came back from a night out, they were greeted with the sight of this woman’s naked backside in the air giving another bloke a BJ on the sofa bed 🤦‍♀️

I used to have a friend like this and being in her company 24/7 was just so draining. We used to go on the occasional weekend away and god it was so stressful.

Some examples of things she used to say included
"Why are you putting your suitcase on the sofa?"
"Why aren't you drinking more? We are supposed to be having fun"
(After someone complimented her on her hair) "No one ever compliments you on your hair, do they?"
"You've ruined your outfit with those shoes"
"I'm not a child!!!!" when I offered to help her with something.

Unfortunately I soon learnt she was like this all the time, not just on weekends away. She suffered with anxiety and I think she projected this onto me but I still don't think her way of dealing with it was acceptable.

Tell her to stop with the negative comments or go home because you are here to enjoy yourself not listen to her .

Bloody nora! I bet they didn't know where to look!

This has happened to me twice now. The first person we haven’t spoken or seen eachother since and the second was my best friend and we have barely spoken since. Shame really, but she was absolutely vile so I don’t want to know

Sounds like you’re on holiday with a 12 year old.

I had a friend like this for way too long. It never got better, the comments just changed in content as we went through different life changes.

This friend fucked about in her education and had a job she hated, I focused on my education worked hard and got a good job. She used to make sly little digs and did air quotes around me ‘working’ from home. 🥱

Just want to say I was always supportive of my friend. Would never have tried to make her feel bad and always tried to big her up and give her ideas on how to improve her situ when she complained to me.

We’ve been eating and doing things separately which she seems overly sad about. She keeps being extra nice to me when I was in the room getting ready saying that I could borrow her perfume, clothes etc if I wanted or that she could do my hair and keeps trying to sit by me in the pool.

this says to me she’s still thinking the same but she’s being less direct about it now.

why can’t she just let you be you. Ffs your hair and clothing and style are your choice surely?

People are odd on holiday. I fell out with my mate on a holiday and when she came back to the uk she proceeded to have an emotional affair with my husband for revenge because I told her some home truth's when I was drunk 😂some people cannot cope well out of the country something gets into there head up on that plane trust me😂

She doesn't like you. Don't go away with her again. She sounds horrible.

Go home early and leave her there. Block

You sound like the stronger one out of the two and she's trying to make you feel insecure, because she is. Still unforgiveable. Friends don't do that.
When you get home you should send a msg quoting her bitchy comments and then let her go, block or slow fade.