Just found out he's married

[suusbsbsklckx]

Been seeing a guy for a few months, so not long at all but it's been amazing.

we just click, have amazing chemistry, everything has been perfect. I honestly felt like I'd met my person.

and today i find out he's actually
married, and has a child.

I feel sick. I feel disgusting, the guilt is eating me up. And I feel awful with myself that there's a part of me that doesn't even want to end it. I feel so strongly for him that I don't want to let him go and I know that's an awful way to feel.

i know I need to end it. But I just need the harsh truth of how stupid I am to even consider seeing him again

This

I'd be sending that message to his wife when you let her know that he pursued you, presented as single, and you were horrified when you found out he was married with a child.

F** that. Just block him and concentrate on other things. I actually felt like throwing up when I read what he had said about him never saying he was single though on dating app. This is a man you should not touch even with a stick. Well I would probably (accidentally) hit him with that stick.

@Edingril Thank you for this. I agree, it is a great way to let the lying toe rags off the hook. I was only telling my story to give some solidarity to the original poster. Yes, naive was probably a better word than stupid. I was naive. And trusting. It didn't occur to me that I was being fed a load of BS and I was so shocked that he could do this for quite a long time. I didn't really want it to be be about me.....was just trying to get across to the OP that she wasn't alone in having this sort of thing happen but she will be okay, as I am. I agree that some people have been harsh. Thank you. And OP, if you're reading this, I understand the guilty feelings. Even though you've done nothing wrong, I don't know about you, but I kept thinking I could have walked past this bloke's wife in the street and not even known. Poor woman. Makes me cringe.

Why on earth would people advise you to see him one last time!! Please do not do this OP, he will lure you back in and then use the excuse that ‘you knew what you were getting into’ to treat you like shit. You’ve been cheated on, as well as the wife. Please distract yourself in whatever way possible and block him. Yes it will be hard but the pain will be so much harder if you stay.
Don’t be in a position where you look back to today and wished you’d cut him off. So sorry OP

He seems to have zero remorse. I would be contacting his wife with screenshots and blocking him.

Well that last fuckwit message should give you the strength to forget him. What a Prince amongst men!

You've done nothing wrong. He's despicable. I'm sorry you experienced this. No doubt this will cause you to have trust issues.

he said he never told me he was single so really he wasn't lying

He is an utter cockwomble. What an XXL size prick.

The only reason to see this prize wanker again would be to dump a pint over his head. Preferably a pint of horse piss.

He definitely sounds like a pro at this. He has probably had lots of affairs.

You have done nothing wrong. I am so sorry he did this to you, what an arse. Please be kind to yourself, you have nothing to feel guilty about.

You don't owe him anything so no need to see him or explain anything.

Please tell his wife and send her the messages. If his profile is still active online, please also send her that. She can then chose what she does with that information.

Apparently up to 33% of people on dating sites are married.

Hope you're feeling better today.

He may have presented a charming facade , but now you know him better . He is a cheat and a liar . He is also someone trying to blame you for his lies. I am glad to hear you know you need to end it . When you feel sad remember who he actually is not who he pretended to be .

Saying "I never said I was single" is absolutely disgusting. Of course you assumed that. You've dodged a MASSIVE bullet if he lies so easily. Tell his wife - he'll be back on the sites in no time and she deserves to be told.

You are not pathetic you are human. Chemistry is very powerful and all consuming, there is nothing else which compares in terms of the high you get from it and the person. I was the OW once, like you I was deceived. It was many years ago and it was very difficult to end. However I went on to meet someone else and I am very happy. I am aware the person concerned has gone on being a serial cheater and wrecked untold hurt on several other women since. I realise now I had a lucky escape and I hope in time you will too xx

Absolutely this, this is an emotional abuse and she needs to know

The fact he was on a dating site adds a whole new layer and shows exactly what type of man he is. Actively looking for a bit on the side to cheat on his wife with. Oh my god, no words. I'm so sorry it was you. I am a wife and mum and would encourage you to find a way to make her aware.

@suusbsbsklckx a guy I knew told me " if you had asked me if I was married I would have told you" . What planet are they on ?

I also strongly suspect that this is not the first affair for him. He’s too casual in his actions and his words. This suggests that he has done it before and got away with it.

You are not his first affair partner @suusbsbsklckx and you won’t be the last. Get out now while you can hold your head up high. The moment you meet up with him would be the moment you lose the moral high ground. And you will never forgive yourself.