To tell Children's Services it is a malicious referal from school

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So DD's school have today told me they are referring us to Children's Services. Ever since I made a complaint they have been trying to off roll her. They are not putting in proper support for DD leaving her struggling and then not wanting to go in the next day. Apparently this is all my fault. I feel this is just another tactic for me to be so fed up with the school I pull her out.

Ed Psychs have to have been teachers, I thought?

I understand your point but honestly, noone has asked for a list of changes a week in advance. What I asked for was a list of scheduled church services. I am asking for information that is freely available. It took 6 months for that to be finally be sorted. Someone plans these things, someone must know. It shouldn't take 6 months to get this information. There is loads of information they could give us. DD's new HOY has been really good with this actually. She's given me all sorts of information that no-one could manage in Y7. I'm really not asking the earth.

They're not struggling with staff as such but expecting the Senco to teach I think is unreasonable. I'm sure the Senco job in itself is one full time job if not more!

Thank you for the kind words.

Ed. Psychs don't have to have taught.

Calendars change a ridiculous amount in schools. Usually for legitimate reasons. However being given one shouldn't be hard. Just prepare for it to change.

It's so strange they take such personal offence at a complaint being made.

I honestly don't know whether to drop my complaint or continue to pursue it. It's made difficult by my email address being blocked so don't know how to get hold of the governor person. But how independent are they really?

Primary school? My sons did this!!! Did the exact same to me because he had undiagnosed ADHD and instead of helping me.. a young single mum at the time.. recognise the signs and get proper help they told me I must be doing something at home to make him act out! I’d had made complaints about the lack of support for him and that’s what I got. Children’s services came round and in 5 minutes told me the school had completely wasted her time and I never heard from them again! Schools 100% do this!! I’d let them come to their own conclusions though rather than speak out but they will see very quickly it’s the school and not home.

I will msg you, pls read it, i have been thru the same and it'll include very very important information.

I'm not waiting for the school?? I've already asked for an EHCNA as I've said multiple times and I've put in a SAR too.

Or do they just think they are so powerful they should never be criticised?

In my experience definitely the latter!

It's not been going on for years! She joined the school less than a year ago.

My DC were on a Child in need plan when I had a mental breakdown. That was in 2017. So 7 years ago. So obviously the case closed many years ago. This is however irrelevant to this thread.

My past mental illness has nothing to do with my DD's SEN now. I don't have to drag up everything from my past just because I am.looking for advice. And it's not the done thing on here to go searching for someone's past .

No, I don’t mean autistic behaviour, so you can stop with the manufactured outrage.

I was talking about schools and parents in general, as you seemed to be in the post to which I was responding.

Hmmm…

If you want to escalate to the governments just send a letter recorded delivery to the school addressed to chair of governors. The head can intercept and not pass on if they choose but you can escalate further and have proof that it was delivered.

It's really clear from all of your posts that you are a wonderful mum and fierce advocate for your daughter.

I just wanted to let you know that it's really obvious you are fighting on behalf of your daughter because you know her best because it can feel like the world's against you when this sort of thing happens.

It’s so annoying. This is the sort of thing that makes people suspicious about every question.

The OP obviously does need help but it sounds as if she is knowingly wasting people’s time by leaving out salient points (the most charitable interpretation) and trading on their goodwill, in an attempt to get sympathy.

That is incorrect and I'd thank you to drop this now. CS have never been extensively involved. My DC were on a CIN plan for around a year.

A couple of years ago now I asked for some help around my ASD DS's education from EH. They were useless and ended up sending a referal to CS due to me 'not engaging' - this was because they wanted an appointment while we were on holiday in another country!! That referal was opened and closed in a month. And I never did get any support with DS's education but I sorted it myself so all good now.

I would expect it will be the same now. They'll probably see all the professionals around DD and sat they can't add anything and promptly close the case. If they can genuinely help, though I would of course welcome that.

I really do, thank you

Thank you so much and I'm glad your DS found somewhere that suited him.

But yes, I was told that DD's needs could be met, that they will make sure her needs are met even before getting an EHCP so don't worry that it takes a while to get.