OH bought me a thong bikini

[desparateidiot]

I am 46, I have lost a lot of weight recently and I am feeling really comfortable in my body atm. More than I have for years.

Going on holiday at the weekend and my DH (that stands for dickhead, right?) made a joke about me wearing a thong bikini bottom and jokingly I said yeah, thought we were messing about. I have actually bought myself 2 bikinis showing more flesh than I would have normally shown, but I literally sunbath, I don't walk around in just my bikini

DH (dickhead again, yeah?) only went on amazon and ordered me a black pair of bikini bottoms, more or less a thong 😱

Am I too old at 46 to bare more flesh? I would quite like the confidence to do this but in the back of my mind I'm like, anyone looking at me will be thinking old woman in a thong, is it not just for younger women with perfect figures, or is it acceptable?

Why do you keep calling your husband a dickhead?

Wear whatever you want, and whatever you’re comfortable and confident in! X

It’s more important what you want to wear and what you’re comfortable in, whatever your husband’s opinions are on this are secondary.

Yeah I would think old women in a thong and to be honest there are a lot of younger women rhst wear them where it doesn't look good.

Wear what you want to and feel comfortable in. Stop describing your husband as a dickhead for trying to affirm you!

There was a similar thread a few weeks ago. The answer was a unanimous, no.

And stop blaming your husband- it's you that's debating wearing one.

Thongs are wrong on anyone, just no

It's my pet name for him

My mum is 63 and she will quite happily wear a thong. She says the tan line is better. I don't disagree.

I would normally side with the woman but I think here your DH is trying to let you know he likes how you look and your body confidence.

Wear it if you like it (keep it just for the beach & wear shorts over for wandering about?) or send it back if you don’t!

Do you do a lot of weight training OP? Squats, lunges etc? Because, tbh, if you don't, the fact that you've lost lots of weight doesn't negate the fact that you're in your late 40s and your glutes may not be up to the job of holding your butt cheeks up or disguising your cellulite.

No judgement honestly, I have great admiration for women of all shapes and sizes who wear bikinis with confidence but I'm afraid that I'm another one who thinks that thong bikinis are not flattering on most women - sorry

But who's going to see tan lines on her arse?

Try it! Once you are on the beach with all sorts of people of different ages, shapes and sizes you might feel more confident!

Congratulations on your weight loss and in feeling comfortable in your own skin. Any tips?

People will be vile to you because they hate to see someone who is happy so they will pull you up on various things rather than saying congratulations

I just came back from holiday a couple of weeks ago and so many women were wearing them so just go for it if you want to.

I personally hate them and think they are really um not very classy.

I’m 45 and wear thongs for underwear. I wouldn’t wear one as a bikini. It’s not a good look regardless of age.

No to things at any age. Arses everywhere? No thanks.

Auto cucumber is shy. Thongs.

It's not about your age. Nobody should be wearing a thong bikini. I don't want to see the bared butt cheeks of the most perfectly formed woman (or man) out there.

Nearly half of all women in some resorts I’ve been to are now wearing thong bikinis - go for it :)

Her boyfriend? Not that he cares much. Not that it matters. She will see it and she feels better without, that’s all that matters. In all the years of going to the beach with her nobody threw tomatoes at us. And what people think in the privacy of their heads is not really any bother to us. I am in my 40s and have no plans to stop wearing thongs any time soon.

@Finnulafishface

She's 46, not 86 !! FFS

@desparateidiot

he's not a dickhead! He obviously thinks you'd look good in it!! Don't knock it!!

obviously up to you if you wear it or not, but if all you're doing is sunbathing not running up & down the beach. What's there to feel uncomfortable about if you're happy to wear a bikini?

I think they look awful , even on ‘perfect’ bodies…just, why? If you want to flash your bum go to a nudist beach

So if you dont want to, send it back surely? Why the need to ask - do you want to use it? No? Return.

Why not try it? You can always get changed if you hate it. Especially if your DH has already ordered it.

FWIW I think thong bikinis look uncomfortable and gross, but as I’m not the clothes police I’ll just have to hope they go out of fashion sooner rather than later!