How many baths a week is excessive?

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I like to have 2 one at the weekend and one mid week. Is that excessive? I had a week where I was having them every day as my legs ached so much and my DH told me that was too much. He's making noises again as I was thinking of having one tomorrow so that will be 3.

I've just had a hot bath. It was very soothing

Three is my rule. No more than three a day or it gets silly. But usually just one.

I used to have one every night. I don’t now, but that’s because of kids rather than choice. Have the bath!

Alright, OP's husband might be a selfish thoughtless arsehole, but evil? No.

OP, I have a bath every night. We are all electric, so we have a tank heated by an immersion heater. Luckily everyone else loves the shower so one tank a day does us.

I think you need to stand firm with your DH. Tell him, you will be having as many baths as you want, as you are an adult and don't need his permission.

My DH seems to spend at least an hour every night soaking in the bath. We only have one bathroom, so I sometimes have to remind him to not start running the bath until I've got washed and ready for bed (the water pressure is too shit to run the bath and any other taps in the house). That's the only reason I've ever given it a second thought.

If you work too, then he definitely doesn’t have any right to judge how many baths you have!

(Not that it should matter anyway but I thought his excuse was financial because there’s only one wage coming in).

R U serious? The majority of people I know have a bath/shower daily most of the time

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Yes, mine does

Every day for me

Perhaps have the bath after your child has gone to bed. Then he can't object to looking after them. Just have the bath.

This is so weird. Probably two a day is excessive as your skin might dry out? It’s up to you. Why is your husband telling you how much you can wash and relax?

I have a shower (morning) and a bath (evening) every day. If I have time in the morning I have a bath not a shower. So 14 a week doesn't seem excessive. 3 a week is fine unless you can't afford the water.

God of my husband questioned me on my bath usage he would be told where to go. we have moved in to our newly built house and I spent an age finding the right length bath for the main bathroom. I call it my bathroom and paid extra for an extra large water tank. my body aches most days but even more at time of month or days have to go into office. a hot plath really helps the pain and I sleep so well after it. I would ignore his smart comments and go lock yourself in tje bathroom now

Dunno if this is relevant to you op but I just watched the a YT money show "I will teach you to be rich" where he interviewed a couple in which the husband was very frugal despite both earning very well. He thought it was his job to push back on anything that cost money, did it as an automatic thing really. Anyway, I was wondering if listening to that would be helpful to you/your spouse? (The couple isn't the most relatable but the guy kinda reminded me of your husband.

He shouldn't want you to be in pain because of a bath. Would you two consider counselling?

I take a bath every night and all my family members including my husband and 2 teenaged children do as well.

I have one bath per day in the evening

I don’t have additional showers unless I do strenuous exercise

Yeah I need to think about all this tomorrow thanks though.

I would say up yo 2 a day. So 15 per week would be excessive.

It could be that he is just careful about money/wasting water.

But he has no right to dictate to you when you can and can’t have a bath.

Its also his child too and you shouldn’t have to ask him to look after his own child.

It’s worth nipping in the bud though.

My uncle was in a controlling relationship and one of the things that came out of it was that he had to ask to use the bath.

It started out small and nothing you’d think much of and then it ended up so bad that she put tape in the tub so he could only fill it up to a certain point and he’d have to ask her permission to have one.

Anything that makes you feel like you’re walking on egg shells or you’re concerned/not sure how to bring up saying something so simple like having a bath, could be a cause for concern.

8 is excessive

They weren’t be rude to you, more about the situation that your controlling husband is forcing you into. It is not good.