How many baths a week is excessive?

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I like to have 2 one at the weekend and one mid week. Is that excessive? I had a week where I was having them every day as my legs ached so much and my DH told me that was too much. He's making noises again as I was thinking of having one tomorrow so that will be 3.

i have a bath every night. I am not a shower person. I’ll use the shower at the gym but at home always have a bath. It’s not just about getting clean, it’s about relaxing. I can’t imagine how many I’d call excessive - 3 a day every day maybe so say over 20 a week? I have a massive spa bath with jets and mood lighting, my husband bought and fitted for me as he knows how much I love a bath. I can’t imagine him ever saying I was using it too much.

He’s controlling then.

I wouldn’t like to be with someone controlling like this but then you’ve had a baby with them so…you can’t extract yourself from this relationship easily.

I’d be telling him in no uncertain terms to stop controlling me.

Then ignore his pathetic sighing, keep having your baths, enjoy them and leave him to it.

He sounds horrid op and you sound like you've been with him too long.

Ignore him - trying to control how often you bathe is super weird unless the amount of childcare he has to do because of it is truly unreasonable (it does not sound like it is).

tell DH to stfu. Have as many baths as you want, especially if it relieves any pain you have. 5 a day is excessive, time consuming and you may start to be known as mermaid, anything less is fine

I have a bath every day. Always have done even with very small children. It was expected that before the children's bedtime I'd go up for a bath and he'd do whatever parenting needed doing. No booking time or worrying.

I have one everyday but we don't have a shower

I think if you know you’re wasting water having loads of baths and you have a high water bill then of course you cut back where you can.

But a shower a day and up to say 3 nights a week, of course you aren’t doing anything wrong OP.

We've lived in this house nearly 20 years. I've had 2 baths (but quite a lot of showers).

I dislike baths. Any element of relaxation is outweighed by the knowledge that when it's all over I'll have to clean the bloody thing. But if you enjoy them, go for it. I don't think 1 a day would be excessive.

I had a boyfriend who was really tight with money. It was shite.

Yeah but as is always the case probably her DH wasn’t like this pre baby. Now he’s upping the ante being controlling knowing OP wouldn’t dare leave him now they have a baby together.

Argh. This reminded me of my stepdad hollering up the stairs when I was a teenager if I was in the shower for more than 7 minutes. Thank fuck I don’t live with him anymore… or your husband.

I honestly can't fathom a relationship where my husband seems to resent my two baths a week. I could understand if you were spending hours in there leaving everything to him, but it's clear that you're not.

Tell him to fuck right off and don't engage with his nonsense.

Fuck 2/3 being excessive. I have a shower every morning and a bath every night. I am sure plenty of others do the same, but regardless it is one of my lines in the sand, not that my DH has ever commented on it.

Do not let him dictate when you take a bath. I bet it’s more because he has to entertain his own child for the time it takes you. He sounds quite tight also so probably a combination of both

Your husband is happy for you to be left in chronic pain when a bath would relieve the pain.

Is he a good choice of person to leave your child with? Does he care if they are in pain?

I'd have one every day if it were free, but I have one a week. On a Sunday. Ingrained habit 😂 Baths really ramp the bills up.

The "IMMERSION HEATER" yelling! I remember it well....

Your husband sounds like a controlling misery-guts. If I were you, I'd start having a bath every day (although that said, if I were you, I'd probably leave him).

7 is normal. Any more and it’s on your own head!

Would he consider it excessive if he wanted three baths or the nice bread? I’m guessing not.

Try having a calm convo about the importance of baths as part of your pain management and if he still begrudges you an extra bath he is an arse.

I soak in the bath most evenings. Makes a difference to my sleep! Also shower every morning.

Once a day is normal. If my husband told me to have fewer I would leave - genuinely.

I have one every night. Unless you're on your uppers and can't afford the heating/water, 3 baths a week is not excessive. Is your DH controlling?