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Original poster

How many baths a week is excessive?

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:16

I like to have 2 one at the weekend and one mid week. Is that excessive? I had a week where I was having them every day as my legs ached so much and my DH told me that was too much. He's making noises again as I was thinking of having one tomorrow so that will be 3.

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Thingsthatgo · 19/09/2024 20:40

Is it because you spend a lot of time in there? I would be a bit miffed if my DH spent an hour in the bath and left me holding the baby 3 times in one week.

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:41

AlisonDonut · 19/09/2024 20:37

Do you live in a flatshare with your child's babysitter?

This is nuts.

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No need to be quite so rude about it it's my life!

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honeylulu · 19/09/2024 20:41

Is it because he doesn't want to look after the child?

lavenderboux · 19/09/2024 20:42

I have a bath every single day. If my DP says anything at all, it's only ever encouraging me to have one as he knows that's my little bit of much-needed down time at the end of a manic day to check in with myself!

Olika · 19/09/2024 20:42

Surely you have told them you need them for your leg.

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:43

Thingsthatgo · 19/09/2024 20:40

Is it because you spend a lot of time in there? I would be a bit miffed if my DH spent an hour in the bath and left me holding the baby 3 times in one week.

Maybe though our kid is a bit older now and I spend Waaaay more than 1 hour with her

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:43

honeylulu · 19/09/2024 20:41

Is it because he doesn't want to look after the child?

I'm wondering if that's it now..

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:44

TomatoSandwiches · 19/09/2024 20:39

A partner trying to control how often and the means by which you bathe is controlling and abusive, he doesn't get a say op, especially if it helps with pain management.

Tell him his behaviour is not on.

Is it though? I thought hang on that's not on. Then I thought but maybe he has a point. I don't know there's other little things like if I buy the fancy bread instead of the cheap stuff he complains. He's quite tight when there's no need to that tight in our situation.

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:45

Growlybear83 · 19/09/2024 20:38

I meant do you have two baths a week and then shower on the other five days. I don't really understand the issue with having baths if that's what you prefer

Yes that's a normal week

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suihi · 19/09/2024 20:46

I have a bath most nights.

BirthdayRainbow · 19/09/2024 20:46

Why do you think he gets to dictate how often you wash? It's none of his business. Bathe when the kid is asleep...

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:46

TomatoSandwiches · 19/09/2024 20:26

I shower in the mornings and have 2-3 baths in the afternoon or evenings with Epsom salts, my bath is 1 meter deep though so I'm mindful of not filling it everyday.

A meter! Gosh!

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MonsteraMama · 19/09/2024 20:47

I'm so glad my husband is also a bath and shower fiend so we can both have as many baths as we like and long languishing showers without it being an issue.

Can he explain why he thinks it's too much? Or does he just resent you having time to yourself and leaving him to, god forbid, look after his own child?

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:47

BirthdayRainbow · 19/09/2024 20:46

Why do you think he gets to dictate how often you wash? It's none of his business. Bathe when the kid is asleep...

I don't know really. I guess it isn't his business is it. But he's going to be annoyed and do the whole sighing thing if I go ahead regardless.

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StolenChanel · 19/09/2024 20:50

I shower every morning and have a bath most evenings. DP does the same and DD sometimes has a bath in the evenings as well as her morning shower too.

BirthdayRainbow · 19/09/2024 20:50

cuu · 19/09/2024 20:47

I don't know really. I guess it isn't his business is it. But he's going to be annoyed and do the whole sighing thing if I go ahead regardless.

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So? Ignore him. Like you would if your child was having a tantrum..

Princessfluffy · 19/09/2024 20:50

Would you be happy to ration his baths if he had chronic pain?

User0311 · 19/09/2024 20:50

I love a bath, at least once a day sometimes two

gotmyknickersinatwist · 19/09/2024 20:51

cuu · 19/09/2024 20:34

To book the bathroom and so he looks after LO

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Does he book the bathroom in advance to ensure you don't have other plans and are available to look after your child?

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 19/09/2024 20:51

cuu · 19/09/2024 20:37

Not on the same day no

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To have a shower first thing, go out or stay in and to later decide on a bath isn’t excessive and especially if the bath is to relax or for pain.

I couldn’t be arsed to have a bath first thing though, I mean I have done it, but I see baths as more relaxing bed time stuff.

TomatoSandwiches · 19/09/2024 20:51

cuu · 19/09/2024 20:47

I don't know really. I guess it isn't his business is it. But he's going to be annoyed and do the whole sighing thing if I go ahead regardless.

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Buying the bread is one thing but comolaining and behaving in a way deaigned to stop you from having a bath to firstly clean yourself AND to manage pain is not something a loving caring husband does, sorry.

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cuu · 19/09/2024 20:52

gotmyknickersinatwist · 19/09/2024 20:51

Does he book the bathroom in advance to ensure you don't have other plans and are available to look after your child?

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Ha! No he wouldn't

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Princessfluffy · 19/09/2024 20:53

Where is the love OP?

Dybbuk · 19/09/2024 20:53

Sorry OP, I can’t imagine how miserable it is to live with someone like that. Of course you’re not doing anything wrong.

Frosty1000 · 19/09/2024 20:53

I'd say do whatever you want, multiple baths a day is excessive but one a day isn't.