To think this is disgusting?

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Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

I remember past sharing bathwater threads and they were all weird. Families using the same bathwater. People jumping in after their blokes. Poor kids, always got the short straw. Kids don't deserve a fresh bath apparently.

Course it mostly seemed like the men went first.

Nothing changes.

I used to have an old school friend whose family did this.
It used to gross me out and still does. Rightly or wrongly.

Not me

No. Just no.

I've had a shower with my daughter and then when I'm done I put the plug in and she stays in for longer to play etc. but I wouldn't put the plug in whilst I was still showering, especially if shaving.

I think NO.
I might be aibu but
Adult male germs/ bacteria
Any leakage that's on his "genitalia" area

I wouldn’t want to bathe my children in their dads (or my) shower water. The whole point of a shower or bath is to be clean after it so washing in someone’s used water wouldn’t be for our family. I also wouldn’t bathe in my children’s bath water. I once showered over my sons bath and couldn’t help but think of all of the wee I was stood in. It’s personal preference so you do you.

If you care that much have a shower. And if you’ve time for a bath in the morning you’re not really under that much time pressure. Bathing together fine but ime it’s usually not about getting clean then is it?

No that's horrible. Let the kids have a quick shower too.

Do you know women can sweat as well

If you don't have to then don't. Some people do.

Bit gross.
Let everyone have a quick shower if you're trying to minimise water/heating.

Also born in 60s and also made to share bath water. I hated, hated, it, and have never let my family do the same.
I won't even go in a jacuzzi lol.

This is completely different to sharing a bath, I've let my baby get in if he woke up when I've just gotten in the bath but I wash him off after, then myself. I would never let him bath in my dirt, dead skin cells. Its totally unnecessary unless you have a water meter and you pay by the gallon, Even then hygiene is not an area I would scrimp on.
Even if there was a water shortage I'd let the child shower first and then I'd be the one getting in their water.

I prefer a bath which I already said, and I do consider myself to be clean. And why are you talking to me so nastily, would you do that if I was in front of you?

Ha me neither not even our own one! I’m trying to assess from this thread how normal it was to share bath water in 60’s/70’s. I thought it was pretty standard but seemingly not. Was it a class thing? My parents were working class but self made and we had money and they sent me to Independent School but we still shared the bath water. Fascinating.

I wouldn't have wanted to get into my dads pube infested bath water as a child. It's gross. We did share bath water and it was nasty. I'm glad I don't have to now.

Didn’t mean it nastily at all, it was just dashed off. I meant showers are better for saving water, I think of baths as a leisurely activity not something you do in a rush, and I think of bathing together as more about having sex than getting clean.

The government advised bath sharing/shallow baths during the miners strike in the 1970s

It did come across quite rude the way you said "if you care that much have a shower" etc when I had already explained I don't like showers, I prefer baths. I try to be polite in my responses on this thread even though I think some of the opinions are strange.

We're all different & it's personal preference so let's keep it polite at least.

I am firmly in the camp of children can use the water first then adults at the end. If the 8 year old is grossed out by it, PARTICULARLY if they are finding pubic hairs FFS, that should be respected.

We aren't in the 1950s, and OP's household isn't in poverty, we have access to enough hot and clean water for everybody.

OP did say her child objected and wouldn’t get in after seeing the pubes

@Chenecinquantecinq I think it's more to do with how you heated the water. We were sharing bath water in the 90s, totally normal in my family and DD and I did when she was little, we got a shower when she was about 11 so I guess stopped then, it wouldn't have even entered my head to empty a full bath just to put some fresh water in. Pretty sure my parents still do now although they have a shower too now and might shower off after but I doubt it.

I was brought up with an immersion heater and my mum had baths at volcanic heat.

Ok I missed that post and would say that in her situation, I wouldn't make my children share a parents bathwater.

But I still don't see anything intrinsically wrong with it, it's something loads of people do without coming to any harm and as I have said, I share bathwater with my husband and we don't mind. If someone feels grossed out by it though then they shouldn't do it/be made to do it.

@EPankhurst I agree. Really unreasonable to expect your kids to wallow about in your pube water if you can afford separate showers etc.