To think this is disgusting?

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Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

You could actually get several showers from the amount of water used for 1 bath. I demonstrated that to my husband years ago.

Sorry seem to have messed up the quote function - I meant the OP's husband not yours!

Mumsnet: owning a loo brush, leaving food out overnight, washing your bedding less than twice a week, using dish cloth more than once: grim 🤮
Also mumsnet: pets rubbing their arses on pillows, shoes on in the house, sharing bath water 🤩

Different strokes for different folks.

We've got a new en suite and I've barely used the shower because I'm a bath person. The only time we use the shower is when we have guests visiting then we let them use the main bathroom & we stick to the en suite.

Funnily enough I've never thought at least no pubes today but maybe I will next time I shower, after this thread.

It’s 2024, not Victorian times, bath water’s not that precious.

Bathing kids together to save time and water is one thing. Bathing in an adult's already used shower water? Boak, and that's not just modern sensibilities, I'd have been horrified as a child 40 years ago if an adult had expected me to take a bath in their grim used water.
If that water is really clean enough to bathe the children then Dad didn't really need a shower after all, did he? He can always use the water after the kids have been in if he still wants a wash.

It's good to save time as well as water.

We are under some time pressure in the mornings but do both have a strong preference for a bath. Plus it's what we've always done. Actually, back in the day we might have got in the bath at the same time which I guess some people on this thread would find really disgusting.

It's not going to hurt anyone but feels a bit gross. A grown sweaty hairy man isn't quite the same as young kids sharing a bath.

I'm sure they'll be alright and no harm will come tho

At first reading it's 🤢
But then when you logically think about it it's it really that bad

Mumsnet can be so gross sometimes 💩💩💩

There's definitely faecal matter in that water - I wouldn't want my kids sitting in that, yuck.

But would you be ok with jumping in a bath that your FIL has been in and left pubes behind?
As said, we aren't that hard up anymore. The children object, so you should be led by them.

Now it does seem really disgusting, I agree. But as a child it was often shared water or no bath at all and we didn't give it a thought. (We didn't have a shower).

And hygiene standards have improved since then. For most people.

And I bet if you time traveled back and asked people/kids if, money and hot water no problem, they would prefer to have their own clean bath rather than getting the third/fourth round of manky water, they would say yes!

Everyone in the house should have a right to a nice shower or bath.

I wouldn't bath in someone's shower water and I wouldn't expect my kids to either.

It's not the worst thing in the world but it is a bit grim.

How those of us born in the 70's took our baths (last).😂

That is also gross. But times have changed now and people have showers and bathtubs installed, not tin ones that have to be brought out once a week for everyone to sit in everyone’s else’s dirty water. There’s no reason now to expect kids to sit in a bath full of dirty water with bits of dirt, used soap, dead skin and pubes in it when they could just have a fresh bath or shower if you don’t want to use too much water.

It's absolutely grim. Is he a tight arse in other respects too?

We also used to chuck piss and shit out of the windows and into the street.

Now we have a Japanese bath (it's enormous) and the correct use is to shower before you bath so that you are completely clean before. Obviously a reaction to having to share bathwater as a 70's child 🙃

This is so disgusting, I don't want to believe this is a genuinen post.

Well if your children object that's a reason not to ask them to share second hand water but OP didn't say her children objected.

And no, I wouldn't share bath water with my FIL but I share a lot of stuff with my husband I wouldn't with him.

It's gross sorry, the water is dirty. There's no need to wash your kids in dirty water. I know it was norm in the past but things have moved on. All the sweat and skin particles and pubes, in your kid's bath.....

I think it's alright as long as he's generally a clean person and it's not his weekly shower. One of my kids will often get a quick bath before school in my used bath water. It saves time, money and water, when there's lots of us in the house that need to get ready and out the door of a morning. I don't think this is much different.

I was born in the sixties and I lived in a place of intermittent great water scarcity. I got the bath water second, after my mother (my father bathed in the mornings and us at night). (My little brother and I shared the same bath until I was eleven, after that he got the water last). It's not just in the Victorian era!