To think this is disgusting?

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Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

Adding to the off topic note:
Another example of the devaluation of our vocabulary by lack of thought.
It may be unpleasant, but I would not class it as disgusting.

Unless you're under severe financial pressure I'd say it's a little on the OTT side. A lot of men get very grubby/sweaty throughout the day. Especially if he does a manual job or works outdoors or does lots of exercise. So I'd feel his shower could contaminate the clean water for the kids. I'm sure nobody will die, but just how much money are you actually saving?

I’m on the it’s really disgusting and I wouldn’t do it to my kids. Who cares if people survived growing up. There is a huge difference though if you can’t afford the water and cost to heat the extra bit. But then DH can knock off a few beers a week and pay for the extra water. But if choosing between basic food and heat it’s different to a a bit more water for a baths especially if your child has expressed they don’t want to use the water.

I’m not usually anal at all about these sort of things but it’s a no for me on dad’s hairy arse water in my bath.

Repulsive.

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. You cannot clean in dirty water. Ew.

I know people who happily share bath water but I’m not one of them. So not disgusting and not particularly unusual, but I wouldn’t do it.

@Flopsythebunny yeah and a lot of people smelt a lot worse than they do now. I grew up in the 70s, I remember "ripe" classrooms. Yuk.

It does sound a bit gross, but I guess really it’s no different from sharing a bath. My DH often used to bath with my 5 year old DS, until quite recently. That was for reasons of time saving rather than water saving though, is water really that expensive that he can’t shower separately? As long a good deep bath of water is used and everyone washes themselves properly, they‘ll all come out clean - the odd pube notwithstanding!

I think bath sharing with multiple kids can be gross, the way my IL’s do it anyway - the toddler still coated with food from dinner, and all in about 3 inches of water 🤢

Same, and I was the youngest of 6...😭
I like my own clean water for bathing and showering, if anyone wants to use it after me they can feel free but I'm never going last again.

I'm not a typical MN germophone at all, but this is not acceptable for your kids. How are they supposed to get clean in already dirty water? Yuk!

People of my parent's generation shared a tin bath in front of the fire. Dad first then the kids.

To me, it's gross. Not because I am obsessed with germs or anything but just because it's not very pleasant sitting in someone's water that they have already used to clean themselves. I prefer showers anyway and hate baths.

With regards to cost- a quick shower gets you super clean and doesnt waste nearly as much water as a bath anyway so why anyone would prefer a bath that uses more heat energy AND has soap scum and pubic hairs from the previous person is somewhat baffling to me.

Ugh, just no.

Its nasty and showers are better anyway.

Who gives a flying toss what happened years ago?

Years ago, most people had outside toilets but I highly doubt anyone would choose to move their toilet into their back garden out of some weird nostalgia for the past 😂

No issue. This has been the case since way back. My grandparents were in the time when a bath was carried into the house on Sunday morning and hot water poured in via buckets. Then dad had the first bath, mum had the next bath, then older siblings, then younger siblings piled in together in the manky cold water. Then they would all go to church nice and clean😁. It was strictly a once a week event.

By the time I was born things had evolved in that there were baths inside (or some places they were in an ‘outhouse with the loo, but they were plumbed in, but the room would be freezing in winter), and plumbed in, but even when I was a child the standard was the bath was filled and then everyone in the house hopped in one after another with younger kids sharing.

People these days may think it’s odd, but the fact is no one ever became ill from bathing either once a week, or sharing bath water. No young child died from mucking around drinking manly used bath water.

Edited to add, personally, I have showers but just because it’s convenient, not because I believe sharing bath water is unclean as such, just can’t pearl clutch over it.

Oh so disgusting op. Truly revolting as much as sharing bath water. Yes people did it in the past and thankfully we have moved on from then. A 2 min shower costs not that much and you can get properly clean.

It's revolting! Bad enough sitting in your own filth, even worse when it's another person's.

I don’t think there is anything dangerous about it, but it gives me the irrational icks.

if it’s of interest, I took a tangent and found that it will save you 30p a bath times 365 baths a year is about £100 a year.

Is he hairy and does he wee in the shower 😬

I think it's gross.

I wouldn’t personally do it but when I shower, it tends to be after a run or work out so the water wouldn’t be very nice for DC to bathe in… My youngest DC share a bath still so that saves on a bit of water and older DC shower rather than bath now.

I certainly wouldn't want to get in it.

Can the adult male at least spend a couple of minutes allowing the most filthy water to wash away before putting in the plug if saving water is a big issue?

It would be better the other way round really. Children have less sweat/skin/hair being washed off so should go first.

Yuck...disgusting and pretty selfish to make the kids wash in diluted dirty water. Just yuck.

Surely if you want to save water it should be the other way round. Kids first and then adults use the kids water.

Gross.