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Skinny shaming is so accepted

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chickenbhunalambbhunaprawnbhunamuchroomrice · 17/09/2024 13:59

I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this, but skinny shaming is so wildly accepted and tolerated due to slim people being at an advantage due to their body size. As if it's acceptable, because they're slim. I've been body shamed my whole life for being slim. Right from when I was at junior school, to now at 30 years old.

I was relentlessly bullied at school and college. I am not an anomaly, I am a 5'5 size 6-8 female with a normal BMI. I don't need to be shamed about my body. The only people who have ever shamed or bullied me about my weight have been fat or obese people. And I'll be honest I'm trying my hardest not to judge them for their eating habits and size, but when it's a running theme I am starting to think that only fat people have a problem with slim people.

'Skinny privilege' shouldn't be an excuse to exempt bullying and shameful behaviour.
Stop trying to normalise skinny shaming just because it's the 'more desirable' image. It's not our fault that agenda has been pushed so much.

AIBU to think that skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming, and that slim people aren't to an advantage on this? I don't believe in the whole 'well at least you're skinny and being shamed.' Interested to know others thoughts.

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chickenbhunalambbhunaprawnbhunamuchroomrice · 20/09/2024 18:40

bundtcakes · 20/09/2024 18:11

@chickenbhunalambbhunaprawnbhunamuchroomrice

I was always skinny, from a young age. I did lots of sports and dance too so was eating well. I used to do modelling too (in my teens, only catalogue, hair and makeup modelling). I was told by many people that I was too thin. I was even asked if I was anorexic - imagine if I had been! People would tell me to eat more. It wasn't out of concern either that people made these comments. I hate to say but it did seem to be people, men and women, who were overweight and insecure about their own weight, who made these comments and felt somehow that they had the right to.

I'm probably more 8-10 now than 6-8, but I have a real dislike for body shaming of any kind, especially skinny-shaming.

The anorexia comments are so below the belt aren't they. And you're right it never comes fe concern! As if strangers and people who aren't a huge part of your life are concerned enough about you that they have to comment. If it did come from a place of concern, it wouldn't be told via skinny shaming either. I like you was eating well when I did gym, I was told I was too fragile and wouldn't be able to take the injuries. I was a gymnast for 15 years and never so much as broke a bone. Bruises and spreading of course, but that would happen if I was 5 stone heavier, maybe even worse as they would be more impactful lands!

I really hope you're at peace with it all now. We shouldn't put up with it, and no one had any place to tell us we should put up and shut up as we're the 'desirable size' as we evidently aren't with all the shaming and bullying.

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chickenbhunalambbhunaprawnbhunamuchroomrice · 20/09/2024 18:41

Bruises and spraining**

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