Skinny shaming is so accepted

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I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this, but skinny shaming is so wildly accepted and tolerated due to slim people being at an advantage due to their body size. As if it's acceptable, because they're slim. I've been body shamed my whole life for being slim. Right from when I was at junior school, to now at 30 years old.

I was relentlessly bullied at school and college. I am not an anomaly, I am a 5'5 size 6-8 female with a normal BMI. I don't need to be shamed about my body. The only people who have ever shamed or bullied me about my weight have been fat or obese people. And I'll be honest I'm trying my hardest not to judge them for their eating habits and size, but when it's a running theme I am starting to think that only fat people have a problem with slim people.

'Skinny privilege' shouldn't be an excuse to exempt bullying and shameful behaviour.
Stop trying to normalise skinny shaming just because it's the 'more desirable' image. It's not our fault that agenda has been pushed so much.

AIBU to think that skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming, and that slim people aren't to an advantage on this? I don't believe in the whole 'well at least you're skinny and being shamed.' Interested to know others thoughts.

I agree with this. It's rude to make unpleasant comments about people's bodies. But, no, I don't believe skinny shaming is as bad as fat shaming at all. I think majority of people who say they've been skinny shamed aren't actually as upset as they make out. Fwiw, I've been thin and fat.

Is that massive chip on your shoulder weighing you down too?

I'm proud of my body, if I want to post it, I will.

So, fat people haven't actually made you ashamed of your body then?

I'm glad to hear it, but it renders the thread a little bit redundant.

I'm proud of my body, if I want to post it, I will.

So you are proud? The very opposite of ashamed.

It was pretty obvious only someone who was proud of being thin would start this thread

My ‘skinny’ daughter getting nasty comments at university which affect her self esteem would not think she has things ‘pretty fucking good’. Thankfully she has loving friends and family and not you to support her.

Right, that's not me saying 'can everyone please write down examples of where fat people have shamed you for being skinny.' Is it?

That's me asking if posters on here have found the same pattern.
You're twisting so many of my words on here to fit your narrative, and I don't have the energy to keep replying to you to untwist them.

Have a good day.

I don’t think people who have been fat-shamed are as upset as they make out.

Have I once posted that I am ashamed of my body?

No.

And just because I don't feel ashamed of my body, that doesn't mean I don't feel hurt or upset by the comments made about my body.

You're really not doing yourself any favours here.

So all the fat people who are 'proud of being curvy / a real woman / fat' shouldn't post about their fat shaming then. Perhaps they should shut up and put up too, then.

I don't really understand how that's me twisting your words. You have asked for thin women to tell you about being body shamed by fat people, that's what you said and I don't think I'm reading anything else into it. I'm not sure how you can say that it's anything different. I completely accept that you might not want to reply to me, that's fine, but I think it's an interesting and important discussion so I will post when I've got something to say.

You see this isn't the gotcha you think it is.

Fat shaming comes with a backdrop of a society which constantly tells us how awful it is. A society where we are constantly being told and lectured on how to stop being fat. The diet industry, medications etc.

They’re not actually proud of it though. Almost none of them will be. They are just trying to make the best of a bad situation. Surely you realise that.

This is inane and you can’t possibly believe it.

Agree. It's not pride...it's just not allowing yourself to hate yourself.

If they are happy with their body shape and confident, I can’t imagine they will mind rude comments about their weight.

You are dismissing the real experiences of people who have been bullied and made to feel less-than because of their low weight. That’s disgusting.

How many fat people do you think are happy with their body shapes and confident?

It's not disgusting. Have a word with yourself.

Bullying is always unpleasant. But no skinny shaming is often actually admiration and being thin is the prize in our society... everyone knows that and to pretend otherwise is disingenuous. Most people who are thin are happy that they are.

I think you're confusing individual experiences - which are valid and significant - with systemic prejudice and discrimination across society and institutions that results in disadvantage and unfair treatment of fat people as a class.

A poster has literally said that thin individuals are faking how upset they are. Not confusing anything thanks.

If thin people actually hated being thin, they could do what fat people often do and change their eating habits. Vast majority of people will put on weight if they eat more calories. There are actually very very few people who can't put on weight if they try.

You have to be underweight. I'm smaller heightwise than this and you can see my ribs. Everyone tells me I'm tiny. I'm a size 8/10. If I were a size 6 I would be gaunt. Grown women who have been through puperty are skinny at that height and size. My 11 year old (super slim) is a size 6. The comments from others suggest that you are more than slim. Only eating a 'salad' is not normal - where's the protein to build muscle? There's slim and there's skinny. If you're skinny it's easy to add healthy weight and be simply slim. This is an easy fix for you if you're that bothered by the comments.

I do find tremendously skinny women don't seem to see how scrawny they are though and continue to just eat salad and run 10 miles a week. If multiple people are telling you to put weight on they're not jealous of how slim you are - they're concerned that you're ill and putting your health at risk.
Wtaf have I just read?
Telling an underweight person to eat more is like telling an overweight person to eat less....it's far, far more complicated than that.
Someone who is underweight just like someone who is overweight will be very aware of the health risk their body weight poses.
If as a society, we really cared about weight issues, we'd invest much more heavily in the mental health issues which result from all spectrums of eating disorders.
No one should be shaming anyone. Being overweight or underweight sucks, people need support not shamming. Shamming is completely pointless and increases the maladaptive behaviour around food. Basically if you can't say anything nice, don't say it all. Unfortunately there will always be some people with no filter, they are best avoided if at all possible.
....now where did I leave my coffee and cake!

No i have never been body shamed. I simply can't believe that in a culture that eulogises the slim body shape, that people with said body shape, get as much grief and intense heat as larger people, who do not have what society deems an 'ideal' body shape

You need to have a word with yourself for dismissing people’s lived experience.

My daughter has had unpleasant comments made to her because of being thin. She has had a tough few years and she’s quite fragile. She tells me on the phone about how much it upsets her and how she is self-conscious of going out clubbing at uni because she is thin and people make negative comments. What would you say to her? That she is not really upset?