Skinny shaming is so accepted

[chickenbhunalambbhunaprawnbhunamuchroomrice]

I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this, but skinny shaming is so wildly accepted and tolerated due to slim people being at an advantage due to their body size. As if it's acceptable, because they're slim. I've been body shamed my whole life for being slim. Right from when I was at junior school, to now at 30 years old.

I was relentlessly bullied at school and college. I am not an anomaly, I am a 5'5 size 6-8 female with a normal BMI. I don't need to be shamed about my body. The only people who have ever shamed or bullied me about my weight have been fat or obese people. And I'll be honest I'm trying my hardest not to judge them for their eating habits and size, but when it's a running theme I am starting to think that only fat people have a problem with slim people.

'Skinny privilege' shouldn't be an excuse to exempt bullying and shameful behaviour.
Stop trying to normalise skinny shaming just because it's the 'more desirable' image. It's not our fault that agenda has been pushed so much.

AIBU to think that skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming, and that slim people aren't to an advantage on this? I don't believe in the whole 'well at least you're skinny and being shamed.' Interested to know others thoughts.

I am really surprised and horrified by the amount of horrible personal comments women( fat or thin) have had to endure!! Why do people think it's OK to make personal remarks about anything to anyone. Men are always making remarks to my overweight husband. Sometimes before they even say hello. Who ate all the pies, then? When Hello would be more appropriate!! He hates it and so do I. Wtf! I'm the one who lives with him, why does it upset others that he is fat??

I hate being skinny shamed.
In other news, my diamond shoes are too tight.

This with bells on!! Why should we accept nasty comments and harsh judgements from other people to make themselves feel better?? Whatever happened to women building each other up, not tearing each other down? I don’t comment or care about other people’s weight, in fact I only ever make nice comments, so why should I accept it from them?

I mean if you brought up in real life the fact that it’s so hard how fat people are always making fun of your size 8 body, literally everyone within earshot would rightly think you were a massive twat.

No one should make comments about anyone’s body, especially not nasty ones. But people on this thread are making skinny shaming out to be some kind of massive deal when it just isn’t.

The more you post, the more you come across as totally unreasonable. But continue to do you.

Are you thin? Do you like being thin?

My mum does it to me all of the time. Throughout my childhood she was totally obsessed with her weight and was constantly dieting. Since the menopause she has put a lot of weight on and struggled to shift it so I’d say is a size 18 at a guess from looking. It’s the biggest I’ve ever seen her anyway. As a result, she’s constantly making comments about my weight and how skinny I am. Things like “there’s nothing left of you” and “you’re all skin and bones” and “you have no bum” (not true). I think she’s just insecure as fuck and takes it out on me because I look after myself.

‘Just as bad as’ not ‘worse than’

she has not said one is worse than the other. Just that shaming someone’s body for their weight is just as bad if they’re skinny as it is if they’re fat. It’s not a race to the bottom

You clearly haven’t read all the posts…… 🙄
ignorance once again

I am yes, and I am okay with my build now, that was not always the case though. No doubt not helped by the unpleasant comments that I used to receive for being so. Do people honestly believe that there are no slim people who wish that they could put on weight? Those people exist, they just do not talk about it, for obvious reasons.

Yes, she asked if other people think that skinny shaming is as bad as fat shaming.

Appropriate responses to that question are - yes it's equally as bad, no it's not as bad or actually it's worse.

All responses have been represented on the thread. You think the two are equally as bad as each other - that's a totally valid response. But other people who think one is worse than the other aren't wrong for answering the question differently to you, and they didn't invent the comparison - they're just answering the question they were asked.

I have empathy for people who are actually in a bad situation. Not people who will manufacture a bad situation for themselves out of anything when they have things pretty fucking good.

When I was at school in the 70s and 80s, being a super skinny was definitely not fashionable or an enviable aesthetic. I was treated like a freak! Boys wanted boobs and curves and confidence. So did I!

As I’ve said before, of course I know there are unusually skinny people who will have major issues with their bodies.

The kind of body most people on this thread seem to be talking about - size 8, even size 10 in some cases - I doubt many such people want to put on weight, unless they have a health-related reason to do so.

Why would you want to put weight on when you are slap bang in the middle of the ideal, in beauty terms, and healthy too?

I think there are frames that are super-skinny which do attract attention, I had a friend who people used to think had an eating disorder but she was just very small framed and ate very little as her stomach used to swell up easily for some reason. I also work with young people and those who have visible EDs will attract negative attention for that, although I don't know if people say that out loud. I do notice it, as I'm very attuned to it if they need help, but I would never comment ever.

I was slim (size 8/10 in old money) and whilst I did get the 'oh you are so skinny' 'your legs are so thin' 'how can you just have had a baby' I think this was mainly admiration/jealousy than genuine dislike of my slim frame.

I have far too many bad habits and hang ups to judge anyone on their body shape. I was simply going on statistical probability which is why I said probably, not definitely. Everyone knows that being a healthy bmi is better for your health than being severely under or over weight.

But the OP, whom you described as 'slim and healthy', has said chemo is a factor in her weight. You immediately jump to slim=healthy even when we're talking about someone recovering from a gruelling disease and treatment regime. You then went on to anticipate how the fat bullies, who are miserable about their own bodies, would suffer joint problems and die early and said that was a comforting thought - I think it's pretty indicative of the fact that you do judge people based on their body size. It's really unpleasant to speculate that fat people will die early and to say that's a positive thing because they made mean comments!

Why would you be skinny shamed for being a normal weight, I don't understand.

Can you please quote where I specifically said 'can you give examples of when fat people have skinny shamed you.' Please. As I have no recollection of asking the posters to do that.

Why would you want to put weight on when you are slap bang in the middle of the ideal, in beauty terms, and healthy too?

You do realise that there is not just one standard of beauty, don't you? I felt that I did not measure up to the standard that was important to me. I still don't, but am at peace with how I look now.

Your post last night at 21:25.

This is the quote @chickenbhunalambbhunaprawnbhunamuchroomrice

I posted to see if other slim people had been body shamed. Especially from overweight or obese people.

Fair enough. I stand corrected.

'Someone posted earlier about covert eating disorder indulgence on MN. The OP posting all those pics of her (perfectly nice, normal, slim body) is setting off alarm bells for me and I think it might be something to do with that.'

@PeachTree500

I posted those as I was asked if I was underweight, I was told I was underweight, and I was asked if my shape had changed over the years. I was also told I was in denial and I must be very thin. I posted to everybody can see that I am a normal, healthy weight. I'm proud of my body, if I want to post it, I will.