For not saying good night?

[safeatd]

My boyfriend lives with a female room mate. Shes alright, we’re not friends though but will chat if we’re in the same room.

Tonight me and my boyfriend have been out, I’ve come in tired, gone straight to the bedroom and in to bed. He has gone in the living room to say hi to her and her friend.

Thye live in an apartment, the bathroom and his bedroom are the first rooms so I’ve not walked by or through a room and ignored them. But apparently my boyfriend is annoyed because I look rude and she’s also commented that I’m rude.

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I think just grow up. You asked for advice on whether entering someone's home without acknowledging them was rude. People said yes and you've answered with pedantic, over the top sarcasm. I wasn't rude, goading or sarcastic to you, so no, I don't you think to phone her to wish her goodnight.

I honestly don’t think OP did anything wrong.
Shw was the guest of the boyfriend not the flatmate.
It’s not like she ignored his parents or the person hosting her and bf would tell the flatmate she was there so no surprise.

As long as OP is polite and friendly when she sees flatmate that is fine

I have never lived with one of my best friends because I don't understand the need for all of this drama. If you're tired, come home without a word and go to bed, absolutely fine. On days/nights I'd be there catching up with her, she'd be flummoxed if housemates didn't go out of their way to come into a communal room where they could hear us talking to say hi/make polite chit-chat/say goodnight. It was so tedious! It was her house, so they probably knew that's what she wanted. From my POV it interrupted our evening. I would have hated to live like that. In this case as you don't live there, slightly different manners apply. All it would have taken would have been for your boyfriend to say: "Goodnight, safeatd has just gone to bed btw. She says goodnight, we're both shattered." She is more rude for saying you're rude tbh.

You sound very dramatic and childish.

It would have taken 2 seconds to say hi/goodnight. It's just basic manners.

Gosh, this has been quite a rollercoaster. FWIW Op I don’t think it’s rude not to say good night to OH’s housemates if you haven’t naturally encountered them en route to bed. I wouldn’t feel the need to seek someone out to say goodnight in your situation. Your initial responses seemed petty hostile tbh but sounds like you had some broader issues in the relationship. Glad you sorted it…

I should call my landlady every night to say “good night” because I’ve entered her house and now acknowledged her.