Tell me what your husbands do for you to make you happy

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Do they put you first sometimes ? Silly stuff like, letting you choose the movie or takeaway.

Do they buy you stuff they know you'd like ? Do they surprise you sometimes ?

Do they take care of you and check up on you when you're not feeling well?

Do they give you a break from things when they see you're stressed out ?

Do they take the baby / toddler / child off you, even when they're tired- because they can see you struggling ?

Do they sometimes make plans / suggestions of fun things to do together or with your kids as a family ?

Are they just nice to be around? Or do they moap around grumpy a lot ?

Do they do their share of the housework and cooking / laundry etc ?

How do you know they love you ? What do they do to show it? Apart from being there ?

At the moment. Nothing! In fact the opposite. Sorry. I’m going now because I imagine all the replies are going to be really depressing for me! 😂

Footrubs and backrubs

Not a husband and we don't live together, but he carries packets of salt in his wallet so I'll have some if there's none in a cafe. He also makes little notes on his phone of things I mention I like, or my shade of lipstick and it turns up at Xmas. If we're going to bed to sleep he'll get in first and warm up my side.

He listens. He still makes me laugh after 30 years. He gives me space when I need it. But above all, he just genuinely likes me as me. He makes me feel 'enough'.
I wouldn't swap him for the world. Best thing I ever did was stick with the man I met at 18.

My dh puts me first. If we are out for dinner as a family he always insists I go up to the buffet first and sits with the kids so I can go (disclaimer I obviously feed the kids first but he insists I'm the first adult)

Gives hugs and kisses

Priorities my running over his swimming as he knows it's important to me

Gets up with the kids to let me have kid his even when he's really tired

Is a bit of a neat freak so loves doing loads around the house despite having a full on nhs job

Always offers to go to Sainsbury's and asks me to send him a list

Many more things but that's off the top of my head, I'm lucky.

I think my husband does all of those things, he's a very nice man and an excellent father. He's not perfect but he more than pulls his weight and often makes nice gestures, as I do for him as well. I've had my share of crappy relationships and I'm happy to say that this one is totally different.

He brings me a cup of coffee in bed every morning. If he has to get up and leave at an ungodly hour he will reset the coffee machine so it brews a fresh pot for me at a time when I’ll want it.

I get it @Completelyneutralname

Also my 6 year old has picked up on how dh talks to me so now randomly calls me a beautiful woman. So cute!

Do they put you first sometimes ? Silly stuff like, letting you choose the movie or takeaway.

Letting you choose? Gosh, surely this is a conversation between most couples?

Do they buy you stuff they know you'd like ? Do they surprise you sometimes ?

No, but i don't want him to.

Do they take care of you and * check up on you when you're not feeling well?*

I prefer to be left alone and ask if I need anything

Do they give you a break from things when they see you're stressed out ?

A break from what things? He is an equal partner

Do they take the baby / toddler / child off you, even when they're tired- because they can see you struggling ?

You say this as if the child responsibility lies with you only.

Do they sometimes make plans / suggestions of fun things to do together or with your kids as a family ?

Again, normal things to have conversations about

Are they just nice to be around? Or do they moap around grumpy a lot ?

Why would anyone live with someone who does that?

Do they do their share of the housework and cooking / laundry etc ?

Again, adults usually discuss these things and decide.

How do you know they love you ? What do they do to show it? Apart from being there ?

I haven't got the vocab to explain this one, but I do know that I just know. There are no doubts and I don't need him to show it

Touches and strokes my feet every evening.

Always gets up to let the dog out so I can sleep

When I am ill (I have chronic illness) he immediately steps up and makes me rest and takes over all aspects of the house

Makes sure he guts the downstairs every Sunday before leaving for golf

Likes to surprise me for making new dinners he think I might like

He's the best

We don't live together so he videophones me every night and we chat for an hour or two. He takes me out for day trips and meals. He buys me presents - shoes, tablet, pyjamas, flowers. He's beyond generous. He makes music usb's for my car. I get lots of kisses and cuddles.

He isn’t my husband and we don’t live together (I have kids) but have been together a fairly long time and spend a lot of time at my house.

If he is at mine before I get home from work he puts the dinner on, comes out and carries my bag in and makes me a brew while I change and shower.

If he is here and I wfh he walks the dogs and walks DS (who is autistic) to the bus. Then will make me brunch.

He made me breakfast in bed this morning as he knew my period was bad. He has gone home tonight so I can have a quiet night with my son and my bed to myself. But got me a hot water bottle before he left. He always knows when I fancy time alone and gives me space. In fact I think that’s my favourite things he does. Gives me space when I need it. Never acts hurt or upset that I want to be alone or alone with the kids.

When I was sick he stayed the whole weekend to make sure I was ok and DS had someone around.

He gets up at 5am with me, if I am working in the office to walk the dogs. One dog is his and one is mine. I like to walk before I get ready for work as I will be sat down most of the day in the office so he gets up comes with me so I am not walking my dog alone.

He checks my adult daughter has got to her uni accommodation if we know she is out. Just by asking me ‘did she get home safe?’ Or ‘have to heard from dd, is she ok?’

He isn’t perfect. He can be grumpy. But usually takes himself home if that’s the case (would still be in the door step at 5am for the walk though). But all round he is a good man.

Shame I won’t marry again really 😂

He is one of the few people I trust implicitly to have my best interests at heart.
He is always fully supportive of me, and there to catch me when plans go awry.
He considers my feelings before making decisions that affect us or our family.
He's the ying to my yang which makes us a fabulous team.
He makes me feel that I am enough.

Oh and I have adhd and he always indulges my new hobby. Decorating the house? He is there to help out. House plants? He will look up which is best position or get me one I have been looking for. Painting mini figures? He will go a hobby shop and get me a set of paints.

You should be happy without any of that.

its not your husbands responsibility to “make you happy”

if you’re unhappy you need to look in the mirror because it’s down to you.

Oh gosh all these things sounds lovely.
my DH is very grumpy, sighs when I talk and implies I need to hurry up.

sometimes he buys me nice little things like a bath bomb or a bag of sweets.

DH gets up first with the kids every morning when he's not working away and makes breakfast and brings me a cup of tea.

He sends me little messages to say nice things

He encourages me to go and see friends / go to the gym do hobbies when I don't feel like it

He does nice little things like lights candles and changes the sheets to make the house nice

He does more than his fair share of house work

Says thank you and tells me I've done a good job and that he's proud of me frequently.

He's just a generally all round lovely guy and I'm very lucky to have him.

Oh and he is really thoughtful for birthdays, Christmas etc and really makes a special effort, plans trips, saves up things I've said I've liked throughout the year etc

@Farting what rot. If a poster came on here and said her DH never let her chose the film or takeaway, bought her random shit that she didn’t want for birthday etc, never did anything for her when she was unwell, left all the childcare to her, never planned anything for them to do, was a grumpy bastard and didn’t pull his weight in the house, not ONE SINGLE reply would be “you should be happy without any of that”!!!

Mine encourages me to follow my travel dreams and looks after the cat whilst I'm gone 🥰

Do they put you first sometimes ? Silly stuff like, letting you choose the movie or takeaway.
- Dh always lets me pick the movie and take away

To give examples from today:

• Let me have a lie in when the kids were playing up at 6, despite the fact we’d both been up in the night
• Snogged my brains out in the kitchen at lunchtime when youngest was napping and eldest was watching a film
• Is currently settling youngest while I finish dinner
• Told the kids to say thank you after I made lunch - although he’d said thank you himself; despite looking after the kids while I did it
• Is taking Monday off so I can do an important work meeting
• has supported me on everything today

I am incredibly lucky. But then again, so is he 😂

Posted to soon! 🤣 but dh does so much to make me happy! Looks after me when I'm unwell, brings me tea in bed, buys me treats random, meets me after work every shift if he's off! ❤️

He encourages me to go and see friends / go to the gym do hobbies

Says thank you and tells me I've done a good job and that he's proud of me frequently.

I like these too a the most so far.