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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

687 replies

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

OP posts:
Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:07

Oh hell no I’m defo 100% straight male. Perhaps I should have made this clear

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 01:08

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

👍🏻👍🏻🤣🤣🤣

PyongyangKipperbang · 13/09/2024 01:08

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 00:58

Sugar babies is mainly having sex for money.

Its really not. Sex may come into it, but that isnt how it is understood to be. Sounds like sex workers and their clients have rebranded what they do to make it more socially acceptable....depressing as that is. I personally find the Sugar Baby/Daddy thing far worse than a straight up "I want to shag you" "Ok, it will cost you £XXX" transaction.

TheCultureHusks · 13/09/2024 01:08

Yes I would suffer sex-missionary for 1m. Better odds than OMAZE 💥

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:09

If I could make money for it then I’d consider it but there’s not a market for single fathers lol

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 01:09

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 13/09/2024 01:07

Quordle and Octordle if it goes on too long.

You might need Semantle then. That can take hours.

JudithOx · 13/09/2024 01:09

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:38

No.

It's not just about the money.

I feel it would take away a bit of my soul. It would damage me.

I read a marilyn monroe book. She slept with a movie studio owner to get a part in a movie.

She said that she totally regretted it as

she "felt she had given away part of her soul that she couldn't get back"

Edited

I definitely would! Sex means nothing unless you want it to. No piece of my soul would be lost in the process, I can assure you!

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 01:10

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:49

Does nobody wonder about the psychological damage it would do to you?

@Abbylikeswine

you're assuming quite a lot there!

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:10

Agreed judith0x

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:10

PyongyangKipperbang · 13/09/2024 01:08

Its really not. Sex may come into it, but that isnt how it is understood to be. Sounds like sex workers and their clients have rebranded what they do to make it more socially acceptable....depressing as that is. I personally find the Sugar Baby/Daddy thing far worse than a straight up "I want to shag you" "Ok, it will cost you £XXX" transaction.

What did you think sugar babies was.

It's always been sex for money.

I remember reading an article years ago about American women who do it.

They described how they have to meet their sugar daddy three times a week for sex, then the sugar daddies give them money.

It is prostitution. Its just called sugar daddies and sugar babies, as there is usually an age difference, and it an ongoing arrangment of the older man paying the younger woman for sex

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 01:11

TheCultureHusks · 13/09/2024 01:08

Yes I would suffer sex-missionary for 1m. Better odds than OMAZE 💥

Would you suffer missionary sex with a portly middle aged man who voted Reform and talked constantly about fishing... for a 5 bed house with a spa pool, in the Cotswolds?

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:12

I’d say just a finger would work too lol

herecomesautumn · 13/09/2024 01:12

I'd pay myself.

Garlictest · 13/09/2024 01:13

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:49

Does nobody wonder about the psychological damage it would do to you?

Haha, no, it wouldn't do any! I've had a lot of uninspiring sex with both long-term partners and strangers. Some of it wasn't my choice. I imagine I would find the money quite inspiring enough, I'd be consenting all the way and I've never viewed myself as a vessel of chastity, thank you.

Anyway, to echo a PP - these days I'd probably have to pay him 😂

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:13

Let's throw something into the scenario.

Say if the man was old, fat, smelled bad.

Would you still take a half a million pounds for sex with him.

These kinds of men are not usually kind nice and good looking

takemetoyourdollshouse · 13/09/2024 01:14

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 00:12

And I don't think it would be any more psychologically damaging than anything else I've experienced in life only this time I'd have 100k to help me get over it..

A good extension of this discussion is body parts.
Me and a friend who works in insurance were discussing that girl who got the payout from alton towers when her legs got crushed on the Smiler.
And how she may actually have considered it a lucky thing to have happened to her as she can now walk again with prosthetic legs and live a relatively normal life.. but she got 1million plus payout at 18 so she never has to worry much about money...
So we were discussing what body parts we'd give up for how much money..
Apparently there's a list of how much body parts are worth in terms of insurance and/or in court cases regarding accidents that weren't your fault!! There's a whole list of what say, losing a finger, or an ear, would be worth financially

Unfortunately, a £1 million payout for an 18 year old with no legs isn’t a huge sum. It would have been calculated based on the cost of future prostheses (needing replacement every certain number of years) different prosthetics for different activities (swimming, resting, running etc) specially adapted housing, adapted car, not being able to reach full earning potential etc. Many things which are costly and wouldn’t necessarily be available to the same standard on the NHS. Yes, she could spend it on whatever she wanted technically and wear NHS prostheses (which I’d be surprised if an 18 year old
would want to do) but still it wouldn’t mean that money would never be an issue as unfortunate as it is, that amount doesn’t go a long way over a lifetime even if you have your own legs. That, coupled with stump pain etc. I’d never chose that. I agree that the guidelines for how much you get for body parts is rather fascinating (jsb guidelines)

Mylittlespuds · 13/09/2024 01:14

Honestly, I just couldn’t bear the idea of money being on the bedside I would feel cheap and paid for afterwards personally. I suppose it depends on each person individually. Some people might not be that bothered but I’m someone whereby it would affect me psychologically more afterwards so I couldn’t do it. I can’t explain why really but it’s just a thing in my head, it’s transactional. I suppose I think sex is something special between two people so that transactional thing for me would be a huge turn off for my head! Offer a young rich kind man in my youth that I could love be loved and share my life with I would have snatched your hand off. I think it’s definitely a personal choice this question and different horses for courses. I very interesting question to ask and it’s nice to see lots of different answers.

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:14

Garlictest · 13/09/2024 01:13

Haha, no, it wouldn't do any! I've had a lot of uninspiring sex with both long-term partners and strangers. Some of it wasn't my choice. I imagine I would find the money quite inspiring enough, I'd be consenting all the way and I've never viewed myself as a vessel of chastity, thank you.

Anyway, to echo a PP - these days I'd probably have to pay him 😂

If you do research into it, a lot of studies show that women who do prostitution, do end up becoming psychologically damaged

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 01:15

Mossyeyes · 13/09/2024 00:10

Of course I would and I wouldn't regret it at all. It's life changing money. It would leave the same impact on me as if he has put his finger in and out of my ear.

I'm happily married and I think dh would be a bit possesive but I would talk him around - it's 1 million pounds.

All this talk about losing your soul. My soul is already leaching out in a toxic work environment every day. I have another 20 years to work.

I would 100% swap that for a 10 min shag.

@Mossyeyes

You only have to do it once, not 10 times!!!

🤣🤣

on a more serious note, sorry to hear about your work situation!

PyongyangKipperbang · 13/09/2024 01:16

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:10

What did you think sugar babies was.

It's always been sex for money.

I remember reading an article years ago about American women who do it.

They described how they have to meet their sugar daddy three times a week for sex, then the sugar daddies give them money.

It is prostitution. Its just called sugar daddies and sugar babies, as there is usually an age difference, and it an ongoing arrangment of the older man paying the younger woman for sex

Edited

I am not getting into this. You are sadly uneducated on the subject.

Older men paying younger women for sex is a tale as old as time. The sugar baby/Sugar Daddy thing is very very different. I will leave you to find this out for yourself.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:16

Nope that’s not a thing I’d say at all

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:17

PyongyangKipperbang · 13/09/2024 01:16

I am not getting into this. You are sadly uneducated on the subject.

Older men paying younger women for sex is a tale as old as time. The sugar baby/Sugar Daddy thing is very very different. I will leave you to find this out for yourself.

It's you who's wrong actually.

Go and read up on what a sugar baby is

EmmaGrundyForPM · 13/09/2024 01:17

My instinctive reaction is no, not for any amount of money. But thinking of it the other way round, I'd be fine with DH doing it for £500k. He wouldn't though.

DimplesToadfoot · 13/09/2024 01:18

10 years ago I'd probably say yes, but now after being single for so long and most definitely out of practice, the thought of getting cramps rules me out, so no lol

WinnyMoms · 13/09/2024 01:21

Back in the 90s I would probably have actually paid to have sex with Robert Redford.