Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

No. The idea of a man that thinks he can buy me is repulsive to me.

I think it would have psychological consequences for many who have said yes. Every time you bought something you would be reminded of some grotty man who bought you. <shudder>

I do wonder about the psychological part too though, wish I didn’t think like that

I disagree.

I think letting someone pay for me like I was an object, is really damaging.

I was reading an article about sugar babies.
They are young women who have sex with men for money.

In the article, the three women said that they had all come out of the situation: feeling traumatised and depressed.

Not if they have terrible breathe, plus you'd have to look them in the eye while they're grunting away and presumably it wouldn't be someone you'd sleep with willingly under other circumstances. Eww plus they might be dripping forehead sweat all over your face. Nope, doggy please.

I'm mid 30s with lovely partner, two toddlers and naff all cash (despite us working 8 days a week between us).

Does your partner / spouse mind in this imaginary scenario?

If mine was for some reason okay with it (he wouldn't be), I'd do it for £500.

More likely it would be him that needed convincing. I reckon he'd turn a blind eye for £10,000. Will check with him tomorrow when he's awake.

For £500,000, I'd do it whether he agreed or not!!

I remembered this quote from long ago - essentially the 'joke' is to put down women.

https://quoteinvestigator.com/2012/03/07/haggling/#google_vignette

Nope. Every time I'd step foot in the front door of my brand new home I'd be thinking "what a fucking mug that man was giving me half a mill, I'd have probably done it for 50k".

A prostitute who is genuinely choosing to sell sex is not a victim or some second rate human.

When lots of very wealthy people choose to be prostitutes as a career choice you may have a point. Until then, no. And it'll never happen.

Obviously I'd love the money... but I don't think I could bring myself to do it. I'd hate myself afterwards.

I’d do it for a tenner, will not lie

Sure, so long as the other person wasn’t hideous.

Not really because in this senario you have a choice, and there are plenty of grotty men who still manage to get laid so someone is putting out and not minding.

Some men would shag a buttered roll so not everyone has high standards male or female

Same.

Wouldnt give a crap if people knew either, I’m in my perimenopause, over 40s life stage where I don’t care about others opinions enough anymore. The gossip would be yesterday’s news soon enough anyway.

It's true that the wealthy are not seen working in the sex work area, but at the same time the majority of those who are strapped for cash dont take up sex work.
Speaking of sex workers I doubt that clients would be paying much more than say £200-£300 each- maybe less. So this thread is very much hypothetical/a thought experiment.

Exactly how can a prostitute "genuinely choose to sell sex"

When women only do it when they need the money.

How is it a choice, if you're doing it because you need money.

If there was a twenty year old extremely poor man, and I give him 100 pounds to have sex with me, do you think its wrong then?

I suppose it depends on your views involving sex firstly, I don’t see any harm if it’s something you can make money from, as a single father of 3 children I considered it myself. All I would say is keep it very private and stay humble.

Yeah I think I wouldn't actively swap my legs for a million quid.. but if that had happened to me and I could still walk and lead a relatively normal life I think I might be okay with it.. like it had panned out OK in the grand scheme of things.
We were discussing wether we'd give up a hand for a million.. and I just don't know.. definitely a finger. It is life changing money tho. Could really benefit the children.

Not really because in this senario you have a choice, and there are plenty of grotty men who still manage to get laid so someone is putting out and not minding.

I think it's likely it would mess some women up who think it wouldn't bother them.

I do know someone that used to be an 'escort' to put herself through uni and she was very blasé about it at the time. it really fucked her up for years afterwards and impacted her relationships with men and other parts of her life.

I see what you mean about the sugar babies but in their cases they are not just selling sex. They are literally selling their whole selves. They look, act, talk and think in the way their sugar daddy wants, in order to get the lifestyle. They really are selling their souls. But the OP's scenario is one quick shag. Thats it.

There is a huge difference.

And just because you would have a problem with that doesnt mean that other women would, or should.

I am 51. 20 years ago I would have felt the same as you. So maybe the cynicism of middle age plays a part.

ETA I want to add that I am not "letting" or allowing someone to pay for the use of me. I would be CHARGING them a fee for what they want. Again, small but significant change in the dynamic. I have it, they want it, so I will charge what I want. They dont want to pay it? Ok, jog on. Prepared to pay it, fine. One quick shag and then jog on. Either way, I win.

Surely whether you'd even think about saying yes would depend a lot on your own specific circumstances and stage of life, and the particular man involved. And whether he wanted to do something like film it (and therefore blackmail me later and not give me the money after all)

A woman who is young, free and single and for whom casual sex is routine to them is surely not going to turn down the offer of a paid-for quick shag with a decent-looking unmarried bloke with good personal hygiene. But then morals.....what if the bloke was say, someone in a job for whom it would be ethically dubious to pay for sex. Like someone in law enforcement working with trafficked women or something. Yuck.

Actually probably ultimately I'd wonder about the bloke's motives if it was someone who would ordinarily be able to shag someone casually without paying for them. Why would he be offering money? He'd be on a power trip, wouldn't he? So not for me.

If I knew there was a twenty year old man who was struggling to pay his bills and buy food.

If I give him 100 pounds for sex.

Has he consented to that sex?

He was in desperation for money

Some do it for the money some enjoy the sex and some like both

You considered selling sex to men?

No the sugar babies in the article that I read, just had sex for money. They didn't do anything else.

Yes other women can do what they want. I'm just pointing out the various problems that I would think would happen.

Nah I wouldn't.. or if I was it would only to be like 'wow what a fool he was'

I think this might depend on how sexual you are..
I know some people can really only have sex if they feel an emotional connection.
I've never been like that. I honestly think I could have sex with literally anyone (as long as it wasn't violent) and feel either neutral or good about it.
And I don't think about it at all in terms of it meaning anything about who I am as a person.