For not wanting to attend a friend's destination wedding?

[emilydispleased]

My close friend is having a destination wedding, and while I'm happy for them, I really don't want to attend due to cost and time commitment. AIBU for not wanting to go?

That’s given me a super idea, where are the Olympics to be held next time?

@AtYourOwnRisk I’m green-lighting the donkeys. 🫏 They’re IN.

LA

@KateDelRick I agree with you.
Not sure why @NinaPersson keeps having a go.

Thanks 🙏

where have I had a go? @KateDelRick is contradictory in saying ‘have the wedding you want’ and then having a wedding abroad is ‘acting in a selfish manner’. What is the difference?

My point is that a couple should be able to choose to have the wedding they want as they are spending a lot of money on it.

It’s just a difference in priorities, some people are all about showing off in front of hundreds of people, some people want to keep it more intimate, and if they choose to do that abroad, that is ok too.

I'm going to agree with a Destination Wedding Olympic thread! I've heard of some crackers!

I'm reluctant to attend weddings in the UK, no way would I go to one overseas no matter how close a family member/friend they were.
YANBU.

Wish them well and decline the invitation. Just say that you are unable to attend. If they press for details say cost and time away are the two factors that stop you from going on this holiday. It’s unreasonable of the couple to expect people to pay out for their decision of holding a holiday wedding.

Yes I think I agree that having a wedding the couple want is a bit selfish.

I think its definitely a change from weddings that parents paid for, unfamiliar family attended and fandoms attended because of family politics etc
Now couples are paying for their own wedding day and many family members don't keep in touch there's less interest in inviting family.