Can't sleep without s*x

[OopsyDaisie]

I wonder if this is actually a thing? But I'm pretty sure I am being lightly manipulated, for lack of a better word.
DH sometimes says he won't be able to sleep if we don't have sex (like, physically being awake, not because "he loves me so much he won't stop thinking of me" kind of thing). If I keep saying no and tell him to sort himself out if he needs it to sleep, he says it's not the same thing...
AIBU to tell him to stop acting like a 15yo?

There's nothing 'lightly' manipulative about this. Of course he can sleep without it.

Of course it’s not a thing. And it’s a really gross way for him to pressure you into sex.
‘Dear’ husband indeed.

Yuck.

Of course he can sleep without it.

Yes you are being manipulated.

FFS. That would be such a turn off to have sex every night because he cannot sleep without it. What a mood killer.

Yuck. Yes he manipulating you.

It’s a want not a need. Tell him to grow up and have some self control.

I don't know how you could bear to have sex with him at all.

Its disgusting that some men actually think like this. Keep saying no. Fucking gross.

So if he were single he'd never be able to sleep?

I don't think so

No one should be pressured into having sex they don't want. It's called sexual coercion.

Lightly manipulated? He is being straight up abusive. Ever heard of coercive sex?

AIBU to tell him to stop acting like a 15yo?

Yes, that would be U. See it for what it is and get out of there before things escalate, which they will.

He is telling you who he is, a man that cares not for you or your feelings, not for your connection or love, just for his cock. Listen.

He’s a sex pest.

I’d be doing a very scientific experiment to see exactly how long he could go without sleep.

I always sleep better after sex/masturbation (remember Viz referring to the soporific effects of wanking as a ‘Pullaby’) but I’d never use the fact to manipulate or coerce my partner into sex?

Tell him he should ask his GP about a referral to a sleep clinic if he has this ‘issue’ 🙄

Eww

I suspect that nost of us sleep better after an orgasm. But this is not about love; it's about him wanting a physical release.

He wants to use you as a wank-vessel.

It's not acceptable.

It’s very manipulative

Tell him to stop treating you like a blow up doll

You are not being ‘lightly’ manipulated. This is sexual coercion and it’s abuse.

Honestly imagine the peace of sleeping alone and not having to deal with this crap.

Thanks all for commenting, it's hard to see from perspective in the middle of things...
He has a higher sex drive than me so I sometimes wonder if that's all there is to it but clearly not.
@olika not every night, occasionally he will play that card (more often than id like to admit though...)

He's definitely being manipulative. Like you say, if he’s “struggling” that much he can sort himself out.

This is the perfect opportunity to tell someone to go fuck themselves and technically not be rude.

That’s awful - having done it even once, ever, would make me rethink being in a relationship with him.

It’s emotional blackmail. He’s telling you his well being will suffer if you don’t have sex with him every night.

I've said this exact thing last time.

This is the perfect opportunity to tell someone to go fuck themselves and technically not be rude.

This made me laugh

It’s honestly insane that you’ve had to say something like that to your spouse and still try to brush it off like oh he’s such a 15y old boy.
Boys will be boys.
eugh.

He's a dickhead who has no respect for your boundaries. No means no. He may well find sleep comes easier after an orgasm but he has hands and can sort himself out as you've told him. Horrible to pressure you in this way, what an utter creep. I'd be honestly wanting to end a relationship over this.