Can't sleep without s*x

[OopsyDaisie]

I wonder if this is actually a thing? But I'm pretty sure I am being lightly manipulated, for lack of a better word.
DH sometimes says he won't be able to sleep if we don't have sex (like, physically being awake, not because "he loves me so much he won't stop thinking of me" kind of thing). If I keep saying no and tell him to sort himself out if he needs it to sleep, he says it's not the same thing...
AIBU to tell him to stop acting like a 15yo?

Was literally about to say this! Surely you’ve had a night away from each other, and he’s been able to sleep?!

Sex without consent is rape.
"Consent" that is obtained through wheedling, whining and guilt-tripping is not consent.
Anything short of enthusiastic delightedness at the activity would be a massive turnoff for anyone who genuinely saw you as a human being rather than an animated sex-toy.

Rethink your relationship. Can you sleep in separate rooms?

Obviously the hormone release from orgasm is a useful aid to sleep. He can have a wank like everyone else in the universe has to from time to time when they aren't in the at-it-like-rabbits honeymoon stage of a relationship.

If he can't control his selfishness get rid of him asap.

I am going to throw in a controversial opinion.

I am not debating he is being a massive dick!

Does he have a high power stressful job and sex helps him relax and fall asleep easier? Is he stressed from work and he has just got a really shit way of wording it? When I am stressed from work sex helps me relax.

He could be the Prime Minister. It wouldn't mean that he could demand nightly sex because he can't physcally fall asleep otherwise.

@achipandachair It's not gross to fancy your wife.

Award for the comment that most poorly represents the posts on this thread 🤦‍♀️

I remember my now ex and late. husband whining 'But it helps me sleeep!' over forty years ago.

Operative word - EX.

😱. This actually made me feel ill, man is a sex pest

I'd pay good money to see the face of the advisor batting off that question!

So what would he do if he was single? Go out every night and find himself a shag in one way or another?

He sounds like an insufferable sex pest who needs to be told that nobody is entitled to sex, but having respect for their partner / Women in general may help procure it.

Coerced consent is not consent.

Morally or legally.

I read the title and knew instantly these were the words of a man. Most people sleep better after sex but if their partner doesn’t want to it’s tough bloody luck. Trying to get someone to have sex with you for any reason other than you both wanting to is manipulative and just gross behaviour. Send him to the living room with a box of tissues

Ridiculous. He'd better take a fucking nytol then. Of course it's manipulation.

I suggest a cup of cocoa.

Why do you need to leave the 'e' out of 'sex'?

Sex isn't a dirty word.

Do you feel it is?

Maybe whoever did that is used to not being able to spell certain words fully on social media otherwise the post gets flagged/censored. It's not necessarily some big Freudian issue!

I've seen so many posts like this on MN I thought you had to leave it out on the posts titles. (As in, not write words which may trigger anything sexually in case underage people are reading or something...)
I'm very NOT one to think it's a dirty word, actually quite adventurous sexually - just don't want to do it when I don't feel like it! Without having to explain past "no" - it IS a complete sentence isn't it

Yes me too! Can they force my dh to stop his "enticing sexy dances" when he's in the mood and I'm not?

He’s a SAHP. Who seems to enjoy making it hard for OP to du anything but her job.

So he sees you as a wank sock. Nice.

Blurgh! Have you told him to stop?

”Stay awake then, you manipulative cock weasel” would be a reasonable answer.

So you’re a vessel to be used to ensure a good nights sleep? Vile.

Yes and it never gets him anything but an eyeroll and a "get that thing out of here". I don't understand what they think will happen. I'm so overcome by the gyrations I lose control? Men are muppets