Making packed lunch

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This has come up quite a few times in our house and wondering if I'm mean or unreasonable. It's mostly light hearted.
Since day 2 of secondary school my DDs have been responsible for sorting out their lunch for school/college, either taking in food or buying food but even now they tell me friends still get their lunch made for them. Some of these kids are 17!
I thought they were winding me up but have actually had it confirmed by parents that they make packed lunch. So I'm wondering if I'm unreasonable to say no, do it yourself (or take money in).
I am a SAHM for our youngest (4) with additional needs so I could do it but it's one less thing if they do it. DH also does his own lunch event though apparently everyone he works with has a wife who does it.
So do you make packed lunch for your kids at college or secondary school?
YABU you should make your kids packed lunch
YANBU they should make it themselves.

I was just thinking that some of these things are a result of the benign neglect experienced by dc of single working parents 😅. My now 11 year old has years of experience making her own lunch. She's a whizz with the air fryer and can make lots of basic pasta dishes. She can work the washing machine and dryer and sometimes does but her older sister who is 14 loves doing laundry for some reason and is a bit more reliable at hanging things so they don't crease 😆. She was also the only one in her dorm on her class residential a couple of weeks ago who could properly make a bed including duvet cover on to duvet which they were required to do. She did all the girls beds in the dorm!bas a pp said I think some people have no idea what children are actually capable of managing themselves and the independence and self esteem it gives them

I do lunches for my 15yo dd but that's because she's out most nights doing sport training and then trying to fit in homework etc around that and doesn't have much free time at all. If she was just mooching around at home and the shops I'd get her to do it

Funnily enough my kids had their year 6 residential last October and they said exactly the same. There were kids who had no idea how to make a bed.

I was brought up by a mother who was one of 8. She and her younger sister cooked Sunday roast lunch for 10 every weekend from aged 13. That was after cleaning the entire house!!!!

Mine have made their own lunches from secondary. They also had the option of buying some from school and we provided money for that on their school account but they often preferred packed lunches as what friends had. I chuck mine in my box 2 mins before I leave the house in the morning, they have previously liked to be more organised and do theirs the night before. Fine. My youngest in primary has school dinners still.

I'm 42 and a very good cook, my mum still makes me lunch if ever she's seeing me. I love doing the same for my dc. Of course they should be able to make it, but something about looking forward to your lunch warms me up. Our culture is based on love through food anyway.

Amen to this!
So much easier

My 7 and 9 year olds make their own lunch and I just check it after to make sure they haven’t snuck in anything silly like a whole packet of biscuits