pregnant sister drinking redbull

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i've had 2 children myself, and did no drink any energy drinks due to the fear of what could happen. my sister is 36 weeks pregnant, drinks a 355ml of redbull a day and has multiple coffees a day.

i have told her multiple times that she shouldn't be having so much caffeine as it goes straight through to her placenta and she doesn't listen to me or anyone, she hides it from her boyfriend. i think she forgets it's her own child she has put at risk here, no one else's. she also occasionally vapes.

am i being an *hole for calling her out?

She has to want to control her own behaviour. She's chosen to do this, and you know she doesn't listen to anyone, so you'll just have to wait and see what impact it has on her baby.

I'd be more worried about the taurine in it. That shit rots adult stomachs, never mind all the other crap in it that wouldn't be good for a baby aswell

You continuously telling her isn’t going to change anything. She knows.

If you've raised your concerns with her I don't see what else you can do? It's not illegal, just ill advised. I have never heard of foetal caffeine syndrome so my guess is baby will probably be fine. It's better that heroin and vodka.

have told her multiple times that she shouldn't be having so much caffeine as it goes straight through to her placenta

Are you sure about that?

You cannot be your sister’s keeper.

She has free choice. All you can do is advise her that it’s not recommended. And support her if there are any issues with the baby once born.

There won’t be any issues with the baby. It’s caffeine, not heroin.

OP, your sister’s choices are none of your business and lecturing her isn’t going to achieve anything.

Yeah it’s not great but she’s obviously aware she shouldn’t be doing it and choosing to anyway so I’m not sure what you can do about it that will have any impact.

my two SIL both smoked cigarettes, weed and drank energy drinks (but wouldn’t eat smoked salmon or drink alcohol etc because it might harm the baby 🤷‍♀️) through all of their pregnancys. They 100% knew the risks, hid their behaviour from midwives but simply didn't care enough to actually stop. They had rationalised it to themselves and no one could say anything that would make them stop. Luckily for them their babies were unaffected, but it meant they then felt free to do the same with their subsequent pregnancies.

YABU You got to make decisions for yourself. She gets to make decisions for herself.

YABU, you don’t get to tell another woman what she puts into her body.

Assuming she is an adult, mind your own business.

My sister smoked through all of her pregnancies. she knew she shouldn't but did anyway. Her life, her baby, her decision.

A couple of caffeinated drinks a day (inc Redbull) is within guidelines, but more than that is also her choice. Presumably she'd know by now if her baby was growth restricted and she's not really at risk of preterm birth as she's now 36 weeks, however stillbirth remains a concern. Her informed choice, though.

It's not your concern. If someone was telling me what I should and shouldn't do I'd tell them to piss off. Currently 34 weeks pregnant myself.

I got told to drink a can of coke a day during my 2nd trimester

She's a grown up. It's not up to you to tell her anything multiple times, nor to 'call her out'.

She's making her choices in pregnancy, just as you made yours.

You sound tedious actually. My first couple of pregnancies were full of people who had kids telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing because they felt they did pregnancy better than me.

Leave the woman be.

For what reason?

TBH there is little proof that caffeine causes problems with the fetus. It may cause lower birth weights which may cause diabetes type 2 or obesity in later life. ( Taken from a Penn university statement)

Severe migraines which left me unable to string together a sentance

I was told the risk of high caffeine intake was increased chance of miscarriage during the 1st trimester. High caffeine intake was described to me as a pot of drip coffee or 4 espresso drinks a day.

I was assured there is no risk to drinking moderate caffeine in 2nd-4th trimesters.

her baby has dropped multiple percentiles in weightt/growth. i have been a NICU nurse for 11 years.

i'm not sure why people are offended i'm telling her it isn't good for her or the baby. why has it become a crime to care about my sister and her child?

im not asking advice on what else i should do in this situation. i'm asking if im being unreasonable to show concern for her.

She probably knows it's not great for her to do it. She isn't going to stop just because you told her to.

yes, yes i am! over 500mg of caffeine a day in no way shape or form is good for fet growth & development. never mind my sisters general health and sugar intake.

Do you have any idea why it works for migraines?

I always have Coke in the fridge because it's very effective when I've got a migraine. I can't figure out why it works as tea or coffee doesn't have the same affect.

I think you need to Google a bit further, particularly the RCM key takeaways and the research referenced by NICE