pregnant sister drinking redbull

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i've had 2 children myself, and did no drink any energy drinks due to the fear of what could happen. my sister is 36 weeks pregnant, drinks a 355ml of redbull a day and has multiple coffees a day.

i have told her multiple times that she shouldn't be having so much caffeine as it goes straight through to her placenta and she doesn't listen to me or anyone, she hides it from her boyfriend. i think she forgets it's her own child she has put at risk here, no one else's. she also occasionally vapes.

am i being an *hole for calling her out?

Yes if you've told her multiple times there isn't anything you can do

I'd definitely not drink that crap when pregnant- it's only 9 months after all.

Because people can be selfish, and they carry on drinking booze, taking drugs and vaping {or whatever} throughout pregnancy and don't like the thought of ''being advised what to do''

Pregnancy is 9 months.

So worth being careful for that time to give a child the best start in life, surely.

But people will disagree.

No one is offended.

They're just confirming that you're an asshole for repeatedly 'calling out' an adult woman.

That really doesn't surprise me. Imagine the effect on a baby, it's awful

Tell her once fine. Tell her multiple times she's got a right to be upset with you. That's just being a nag.

This is what I would be saying to her at this stage. She clearly knows the risks if she's hiding it from her boyfriend, but knowing she's setting herself up for a few weeks of a crying baby who's missing their caffeine intake might give her a different perspective. If she still doesn't listen after that, you've no choice but to drop it! She's been informed, it's her choice after that!

I find this attitude absolutely baffling, first it's her sister, not some random acquaintance, if your own family can't offer a view ( for good or ill) who can?

Secondly because it's her sister the child has up 50% of her genes, it's not her child but it is close to being that, she should be helping and offering advice if only for selfish genetic reasons.

Caffeine is a risk in the first trimester.

She's 36 weeks. Leave her alone.

I'm with you on this if I had my way I'd ban energy drinks all together horrible things. However I smoked all the way through my first pregnancy and it honestly made no difference what people said to me I just wasn't interested in hearing it, the first 20 weeks I was still drinking and doing drugs I just didn't care. You just can't make people do things they don't want to do

And also throughout the pregnancy as you are giving your baby a caffeine addition who is then forced to go cold turkey once they are born......
"Some reports suggest that children exposed to more than 500 mg of caffeine per day in the third trimester of pregnancy were more likely to have faster heart rates, shaking, increased breathing rate, and spend more time awake in the days following birth"...

Yes YABU.

You've said your piece, you've told her a number of times. Unless she's deaf or has memory issues, she's heard you. She's aware.

What she does from that point is up to her. Going on and on about it and 'calling her out' will achieve nothing.

YANBU, but she's obviously aware now and has made her choice. She sounds irresponsible but there's nothing you can do. Poor kid though.

Is this true or something you’ve dropped into get people on side, because you haven’t had the reaction you might have liked?

No it's a risk all through unfortunately for things like low birth weight and increasing the risk of miscarriage and still birth.

It's an addiction and she'll need to wean herself off it slowly.

The withdrawal effects from caffeine are brutal but you seem to have no empathy for that?

What are you doing to help her with her tiredness/ cravings/withdrawal symptoms?

@MinervaMcGonagallsCat you have no idea what you are talking about!

@PurpleDiva22 thank you!

@Fastback are you serious? this is mumsnet not jeremy kyle!

@unmemorableusername she stopped at the start. she stopped when she found out and started again at 29ish weeks because someone on tiktok said it was fine.

i have said that if she drinks a redbull, she can of course have one but to try cut down on anything else caffeine related EI coffee, coke etc but she hasn't. this was when she started and from then it has snowballed even with the vaping.

behind her boyfriends back, our parents and her in laws. like i said, it is only her child that is the real victim here.

i'm not her boyfriend? i don't live with her? you don't know our relationship and the type of person she is.

if she has cravings, she has the choice to control them or give in. i am not going to be watching her 24/7 to make sure she is being a good girl and not vaping or downing 50 redbulls a day.

i wouldn't be surprised on the memory issue part as she tells me the same stories every time i see her.

i get it. but nicotine & drug addiction are completely more horrible to control then a caffeine one. like i said before, she stopped and the decided to get back into because of a tiktok.

@NormalAuntFanny i completely agree. people are making it out like it's the only thing i mention to her! the first time was at the start of pregnancy & she did stop. then the second time was when she started drinking then again at 28/29 weeks or whatever she was and then recently due to the growth declining. it has been mentioned 3 times during her whole 36 weeks of pregnancy FFS!

@stripybobblehat

that's a bit different than the sister doing what she's doing though.