pregnant sister drinking redbull

[handsoap]

i've had 2 children myself, and did no drink any energy drinks due to the fear of what could happen. my sister is 36 weeks pregnant, drinks a 355ml of redbull a day and has multiple coffees a day.

i have told her multiple times that she shouldn't be having so much caffeine as it goes straight through to her placenta and she doesn't listen to me or anyone, she hides it from her boyfriend. i think she forgets it's her own child she has put at risk here, no one else's. she also occasionally vapes.

am i being an *hole for calling her out?

@handsoap
The thing is, the more you tell your sister not to do something, especially given the job you do, the more she is going to do the exact opposite. I rather suspect that every time you lecture her, she goes home and has a Red Bull, just to spite you. You need to accept that she is her own person and you are yours. Keep your opinions to yourself and you may find that she actually reduces her intake because it's not on her mind so much. She's going to have all and sundry giving their opinion on what she should and shouldn't be doing during her pregnancy, be her sister, not another judgemental voice, she knows your opinion. Only offer it if she asks, unless you don't want a relationship with your new niece or nephew.

Excellent assessment

No offense but shes the b hole tbh my sister did the same 5-7 little cups of coffee everyday and a pack of cigarettes what is this!! How are they gonna be parents if they cant even control themselves. But i talk from experience leave her be if shes hiding it feom her bf shes not rlly mature enough so if you pressure her shes just gonna hide it from you too

Also my suster gave birth 3 months ago and her baby is sooooooo small the dr told her she should wake her up every 1 and a 1/2 hour to feed her or she could literally die also shes 3 months now and stilll sooooooo tiny

There's no way you're a nurse.

You've said your piece, I'd leave it alone now.

Ultimately, it's her body and her choice. Attempting to police a pregnant woman's body is a slippery slope.

If you've got such a solid opinion and literally everyone else is wrong why have you bothered doing a post.
Obviously literally everyone who doesn't agree with you hounding your sister about her life is clearly wrong, and you're right.

Let her do what she wants, you've told her the risks, she knows the risks - leave her be, jeez.

If you wanted silence, you shouldn’t have started a thread.

So basically, you’re just posting here hoping that everyone will join you in slagging her off, then. Nice.

Your family relationships sound dysfunctional and you should probably take a step back and be less enmeshed in the details of your sister’s pregnancy.

don’t really care about other people’s pregnancies

Weird statement from someone who claims to be an NCU nurse

OP, you need to learn a very valuable lesson in life. That is, that you cannot control anybody else.

It matters not what you think, whether you like or dislike what she does, and whether you feel you are right or right, or in fact whether you have facts right or wrong.

It's all inconsequential because women have (or should have) autonomy over our own bodies and lives, regardless what others think of it. Regardless if others feel we are making the wrong choices, regardless if they impact someone else, to some degree.

Your body is yours. Your pregnancies were yours. Your children are yours. Your choices are yours. Her body, pregnancy, children and choices are hers, there's not a thing you can do about it, so back off.

People who try to force their ideals on others are tedious, tend to not be very nice people, and have controlling tendencies. Not nice characters. Look a bit closer to home, first.

Of course you're not being unreasonable.