Mormon wives

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Watching this show ‘The secret lives of Mormon wives’ I had no idea their lives were like that or allowed to be.
Anyone Mormon here or know any Mormons?

I know some Mormons. The ones I know are nice people but it's most definitely a cult in my eyes.

The history of the church is very interesting though. The founder of the church, Joseph Smith, was a known and convicted scam artist, who married a 14 year old girl, amongst his other ~40 wives.

They also believe in "continuous revelation", this means that members of the church are still recieving messages from god. This gives them a convenient out whenever they're getting too much bad publicity because the new messages can overrule the old ones. Like when they were going to be kicked out of Utah for practicing polygamy and the leader suddenly receives a message from god saying "no, actually polygamy is wrong and forbidden." Or, in more recent history, when God decided that actually black people can join the church.

This is all on a hierarchy too so the head of the Mormon church, who is always about 90, receives messages for the whole church. Leaders of churches receive messages for their individual church. Men can receive messages for their own family and, obviously, women are at the bottom and can only receive messages for themselves or their children.

I often think this is so true, not many women genuinely have a choice. Lots of women in certain parts of the world would love to have a career, but are forced to stay at home due to cultural expectations. Whilst many women would love to stay at home and raise their children, but are forced to work due to the fact that few families can live on one income. There's no right or wrong way, but not many women genuinely have a choice in this.

I dont really get what is stopping anyone from staying at home, having a passel of kids, making jam all day and dressing conservatively if you so wish without being Mormon. Lots of cultures and religions encourage this.
Personally my worst nightmare.

It is possible but the culture we've grown up in there aren't a lot of men willing to support this

Most women trapped in these kinds of cultures- I am from one such- have no choice.

Where can you watch this programme in the UK?
Sorry if I have missed this in the posts.

I worked with a mormon lady for years. Had no idea she was Mormon until I drew her name in secret Santa and bought her a bottle of gin - someone else pointed out that she couldn’t drink it because she was Mormon! Had no idea because she didn’t bring that side of her to work I guess, other than saying she’d been to church over the weekend - but there are lots of different types of church!
Nothing remotely different about her.

I'd struggle without the tea

When we visited Salt Lake City to see (non-Mormon) friends some years ago we went on a tour of the Temple Museum (you can't see the actual Temple). Our tour guide showed us the giant font (full imersion but raised up) where people were baptised, and explained about being baptised for your ancestors so they could go to heaven. She had been done 34 times. I'm pretty sure she said it was voluntary in that the deceased person had to accept the baptism before admittance, but my memory isn't as clear on that.

The novelty of that would wear off very quickly. Unless someone's spouse earns a lot it would be a lot less ideal than it sounds.

Why would you think that the Mormon women do this? My cousin worked as an estate agent (realtor) for 30 years. Married, had a child, divorced, remarried and had two more DC. My friend, also on her second marriage is an engineer. My other cousin's children all have university degrees and work. The church is a central part of their lives though. Their social lives are entirely dependent on other church members, but their working lives are in the real world so they try to blend in.

I see. It must be all the tv shows I watched. I thought they were very traditional in gender roles

I've been wondering if some posters are confusing Mormon and Amish

In the 60s I was friends with a Morman family who attended our local church of LDS. We were invited to go to Primary (a sort of Morman Sunday school ) we went along but the main draw was the basketball court in the building. I can’t remember much about the religion but there was a scandal when the mum ran off with the Asian guy who drove the local bus .

Their entire purpose is to convert people!
They send their young people on compulsory missions around the world to gain converts. They would bite your hand off!

You don't have to be Mormon to do that. 😅 In fact keeping the extra 10% of your income would probably help to make it possible!

I recommend you balance your viewing with 'Under the Banner of Heaven' on ITVX

I was brought up as Mormon. Wouldn't recommend it. As soon as I turned 12, I was told my job was to find a returned missionary and get married as soon as legally possible. The womans job is to obey her husband and pump out as many babies as possible. A religion(cult) that was started by a con artist. They don't tell you that the golden plates he apparently translated he wasn't actually looking at. He had his head in his hat and just shouted out what was on the imaginary gold plates 😆 Then god told him he needed to have about 16 wives, especially the 13/14 year old girls of his followers. Oh, and anybody else's wife that he fancied. I feel sorry for the ones growing up in Utah where you live and breathe it, especially if lgbt.

No coffee???

Whats the point of having a sister-wife if she can’t make you a coffee?

I shared a flat with a couple of mormons. They were lovely, kind and unjudgemental.
One was a mormon from birth and the other had converted. The one who had always been a mormon wore the one piece undergarments.

I also have a cousin who converted to become a mormon. Again she is the nicest, kindest most non judgemental person you could meet.

Do Amish have coffee?

If so, count me in for that. No car insurance, no need to shave your legs and lovely fresh bakes every day.

Caffeine free Pepsi I hope!

You can have coffee but they don't believe in buttons so you have to pin all your clothes shut so I imagine that might become a pain. Also no divorce, if your husband turns out to be an abusive shit.

The religion started in 1830 so quite recent - something about God gifting golden tablets with his words on which strangely went missing.

The Osmonds always seemed to be a nice, pretty normal and happy family. Unless I have missed something huge.