Cousin is having a child-free wedding… but he has children and his children won’t be there?!

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Whatdoyoureckonh · 03/09/2024 18:00

My cousin had a crappy divorce. He has two children, aged 9 and 11, and is getting married again. I got the wedding invite the other day and just went on the website to have a look at the details and read that it’s a child-free wedding. I told my mum and she said that his own kids won’t be there.

Don’t you think that’s a bit crap?! To not invite your own kids to your wedding???

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Ericsfurryface · 25/09/2024 13:29

HauntedbyMagpies · 23/09/2024 20:26

@Ericsfurryface You can’t be serious? Oh that poor little boy

You need to get a grip. My stepson is in his thirties now. We have a very good relationship and he survived!!

HauntedbyMagpies · 25/09/2024 14:00

@Ericsfurryface You need to get some respect and some empathy! He may well have 'survived' as do many stepchildren with uncaring step parents. Doesn't mean they weren't hurt and emotionally damaged by it! You may think you have a good relationship with him, but I expect he doesn't feel the same way!

Ericsfurryface · 25/09/2024 16:10

HauntedbyMagpies · 25/09/2024 14:00

Utterly melodramatic over reaction to a sensible decision.

Gogogo12345 · 05/04/2025 13:19

Always28 · 03/09/2024 18:37

My dad didn’t invite us to his wedding when we were children, and it’s still something that really stays with me and that I have discussed in therapy! I don’t think he realises to this day that it was any sort of big deal (his wedding was tiny and last minute).

I’m sure it’s not meant badly by their dad, but if he literally hasn’t invited them, I think it will have an impact on them. Someone should ideally maybe talk to him about that if he’s just not really thought how it might make them feel 🤔.

I didn't go to my mum's wedding when I was 11. Tbh I can't say it's ever really affected me

BettyBardMacDonald · 05/04/2025 13:21

ABirdsEyeView · 23/09/2024 21:49

Is it really that weird to think weddings are an intimate thing between the bride and groom, and that it's a bit odd for children to watch their parents pledging themselves to someone who isn't their other parent?

If I was getting married again I'm not sure I'd want my dc watching it - they might get upset.

I'm also not convinced it makes someone a terrible parent if they want to focus on their partner at their wedding and not be looking after kids. It inserting imo to want to enjoy a day that costs an arm and a leg.

It's what happens afterwards that matters wrt the children - are they loved and made welcome in the home, given time and attention and supported? I don't think the wedding day itself has to be all important.

Totally agree.

Weddings are adult events.

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