Row over which Supermarket?

[JessiePink]

AIBU? I do the food shopping in our household.
We both work, and we both car share (it's really annoying and we have had rows over this but we cannot afford two cars).
I tend to do the food shopping Wednesday after work. I work in the next town to where we live.

Around the corner from where I work I jump on the motorway and come off at the next junction at the retail park, it takes me about 7-8 mins from work.
The reason I go to this Aldi as on the retail park there is also a Food Warehouse and a B&M and a Home Bargains in case I need any cleaning bits also.

My husband is constantly on my case about going to this particular retail park. He cannot understand why I want to go (in his words) all the way over there.

I explain when I'm at work it's literally round the corner and takes me 10 mins. I also explain that as there are multiple shops it saves me from driving here there and everywhere for my bits.

He doesn't understand why I cannot go to the Aldi which is still in the town where I work, but closer to our home (it's a really small Aldi!) and I am WASTING PETROL according to him!

I've gotten to the point now were I tell him to do one and I will food shop were I want seen as I'm the one who does the shopping and I'm the one who does the cooking!
It feels controlling to me!

We have a joint bank account together as he earns more than me and I also have a child from a previous relationship so when we had separate money, I was always skint as I was paying half of everything and for my child too.

I would seriously order the food shopping online to be delivered from from Asda or whichever is nearer from now on, including all the cleaning stuff you need, and when he moans about the delivery charge or extra expense say it's either that or you shut up about the retail park!

It’s clear he has been actively enjoying your misery. The picking at which supermarket you went to wasn’t about the money spent as such, more like a device to use to watch you squirm, like making a high pitched noise to torment a dog, he’s a dweeb!

There have been many threads where everyone has helped a OP leave an abusive situation, you will see that now on here, now it’s clear you need to leave. You will get some good collective advice from now, let everyone help you with support and advice and help you get out of this situation, best of luck OP.

I'm so sorry OP, he's an awful man. I hope that you can see from all the responses that you've had on here that it won't get any better and that for your own well being, you should leave the relationship. I know that's easier said than done but there are a huge amount of resources out there for you and you have all of MN behind you to support you.
Be brave

I'm so sorry OP. It's so shocking when people who are supposed to love & care for us show their true selves in this way.

Call his bluff, let him go on holiday alone and while he is away make all the plans to leave, make the calls, gather the paperwork you need etc. Get your exit plan in place as you can for a quick getaway when the time comes - whether that is sooner or later. As you can bet he will make this absolutely awful once he realises you are no longer under his control.

Oh no - your last update seals the deal. Nasty, selfish man. Do yourself a favour and get rid.

@JessiePink

Let him go without you and wave him off with a smile. Then use the time he's gone to search the house for financial and other important documents & information, see a solicitor, and get your ducks in a row. By the time he comes back you could potentially be walking out the door as he walks in. Or at least you'll have educated yourself as to what divorce may mean to you. So make that solicitor appointment now for the first day he's gone.

He says what he says and does what he does because he enjoys seeing your pain. It makes him feel good. I'll say it again. He enjoys it and it makes him feel good. That's why he was off singing in the shower. My ex after he'd tore me a new one or subtly put me down used to walk about the house 'humming a pleasant tune' to himself but always loud enough that I could hear it. It used to tear me to pieces. How could he be so happy when he'd just made me so miserable? I'll tell you how, because he thrived on it. It was meat and drink to his ego. Sick. People like my ex and your husband are just plain sick.

He sounds like a total dick. I would really be in considering my options if I was you.

This is such a callous response from him.

It's time to pack your bags op. Or better, pack his bags. Or better, throw his clothes out together with him.
On another note, hope you have your finances sorted.

You need to let him go on holiday alone, (my guessing us he wont go alone anyway)
Time to shut off trying to get understanding, love & support, you need time to decide how you want to live from now on.
He wont change, so is this how you finish your days ?