Partner hates me

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My partner hates me he's always accusing me of causing arguments looks at skinny women when I'm a very big size 18 I'm trying to lose weight im nearly 1 stone down I think he hates e because I don't look attractive my stomach isn't flat ky boobs aren't perky I'm a brunette not blonde skinny or attractive in any way he tells I'm to big to wear nice clothes and that I should cover up im so insecure and don't deserve to live because I don't look at certain way I'm so insecure we're always arguing and I'm always crying

Why can't he just go now, he doesn't need a house, he can stay in a hotel or with his sister, of course he won't commit suicide or his sister gets custody of your children. He's a manipulative control freak, you have to let him go, he really isn't worth all this upset, once he's gone you can be at peace with yourself.

I’m sure he can go and stay with a slim pretty blonde, can’t he as he gets on so well with them.
Thats a pop at him BTW.

This sounds like more drawn out dramatics. He's not actually gone, is he? What do you think you'd actually lose if he goes? Very, very little. You might even gain peace of mind. All this arguing, shouting, crying etc sounds awful for the children. He sounds unpleasant and you know yourself that not wanting him to go out is unhealthy. It's spiralled and you're both miserable.

Please, OP. This is the time to say, "Yes, this isn't working. Time to call it a day and put our children first as we separate."

It's okay to end something that isn't working. This isn't working.

This drama is what keeps you together isn't it. You're trauma bonded.

The kids come off worst. So on that level, you're both incredibly selfish and need to urgently put yourselves on track - separately.

Just a heads up, you'll never lose significant weight whilst youre with him nor will he face his own anxieties because you'll never be different people until you are separate.

Do it for your kids. Take him up on his word and get him moved out.