Partner hates me

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My partner hates me he's always accusing me of causing arguments looks at skinny women when I'm a very big size 18 I'm trying to lose weight im nearly 1 stone down I think he hates e because I don't look attractive my stomach isn't flat ky boobs aren't perky I'm a brunette not blonde skinny or attractive in any way he tells I'm to big to wear nice clothes and that I should cover up im so insecure and don't deserve to live because I don't look at certain way I'm so insecure we're always arguing and I'm always crying

If you were to split, and you kept the kids the majority of the time, it is most likely that you would get the tenancy and he would not.

This.

You need to prioritize your children. You are subjecting them to an extremely toxic and permanently damaging environment. Every single day.

Stop obsessing over what he thinks and says. You must focus on the children you chose to create. This is SO unfair to them.

Its my own insecurities I don't like my body it's disgusting at the moment when I see him noticing women who have a nicer body and looks it upsets me i feel inadequate if I ask him how clothes look on me he will give me an honest answer which I didn't like he will tell me if something doesn't suit my body I'm trying to lose weight so I can wear nicer clothes rather than having to hide behind layers we aren't talking this morning either he can't see why I'm in a bad mood the way he spoke to me yesterday I want an apology every time we fall out I blame it on my weight and looks thinking we wouldn't argue if I was thin and pretty enough because I'd be happier if I was happy I do wake up in bad moods because I hate myself im depressed about the way I look.

In all honesty op it’s really difficult to see how much of this is you and how much of it is him. Monitoring what he looks at on his phone and even tv is abusive. Him commenting on your body when he knows you have such self hatred is also abusive. Your relationship is toxic and you need to get out for the sake of your children and focus on your own mental health.

It's me who's the problem my partner has his own issues don't think I help him. Either he didn't call me an ugly fat bitch at all that's my own words that I tell myself I am iv lost weight he hasn't even noticed but would notice attractive women but not me I just want to be seen as beautiful by somebody I never get any compliments he's tried before and given u I think I'm to blame not just my partner I'd be lying if I said I was all innocent I hate msyelf 😭

you should never ever change your self for anybody else or want to change yourself for anyone else why would you want to be with some one who makes you feel like worthless

OP, if you're in a council house presumably this is to house yourself and your children? He doesn't need to be there.

unless they are not his kids it’s also to house him, arguably she doesn’t need to be there if you take that line, it’s ludicrous.

He's never cheated iv never mentioned that's he's done that go away you nasty person get of my post your a bully with nothing better to do you wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me saying MYSELF was very big at a size 18 leave me alone your a very nasty person you like to say people down and jump at every little opportunity you can get leave me alone..

This is really sensible advice Op.

The best solution is to leave. If you are not going to do that then what is your plan B. If you manage to lose lots of weight he will find fault with something else. You said he " liked Holly Valence before she aged". Well you are going to age( as is he). If you stay in this relationship you will always have this treatment.

Oh he knows about it all go away your horrible bully

Go away and I wouldn't be quoting you would I

I doubt any women are looking at him or are interested, stop putting yourself down, he's just a man, there's nothing special about him, you will survive without him and all this unnecessary upset, concentrate on being happy with your children.

You’re deeply unpleasant. Do better.

I think that may be you. You’re purposely pressing the buttons and being cruel to someone who is feeling very low. I’m certain you wouldn’t do that in real life but behind a computer you’re faceless.

Agreed. Sounds like a grim life tbh. I’d take my chances and leave.

I am feeling very low Im having to go to work sobbing my heart out today Im just as much as a problem as my partner is he knows all about my insecurities and the way iv accused him etc he know it's all but someone else thinks they know it all when she doesn't I ain't trolling id never make this up honestly I wish my life wasn't like this I wish I wasn't facing any of these issues it hurts to be bullied of a complete stranger as well..

He is bored of yes he depressed because he's tried but I don't see myself as god enough I'm comparing it i hadn't of mentioned size 18 being big I wouldnt be getting trolled to hell..

Don’t worry, I think they are gone.

I hope so I really ain't trolling I wouldn't make this up I wish my life was better but not at the minute it isn't I don't need someone to keep going on at me its making me feel worse 😭

I lost 3 stone when I told my ex DH to fuck off.