Not removing sunglasses - unreasonable?

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Met up with a friend yesterday, who introduced me to her sister.

We sat outside, it was sunny.

The sister did not remove her sunglasses the entire time (2 hours).

It bothered me. I couldn't see her eyes.

Aibu?

I’d keep my sunnies on if I needed to, especially as they’re prescription and I’d need them. Otherwise I’d be going between normal glasses and sunnies which is a faff.

Maybe they were prescription or, like mine, Reactolite and if she took them off she wouldn't be able to see much.

You were taught by people who didn’t know what they were talking about, then. Sunglasses are to protect your eyes from the sun. The sun doesn’t magically fade from the sky because you’re in company. Saying it’s rude to wear sunglasses in company while sitting in the sun makes no more sense than saying it’s rude to wear (eg) a scarf while chatting outdoors in the cold.

The only people who haven’t been brought up properly are the ones who rudely expect people to squint uncomfortably into the sun for two hours solely so that you can have a good old stare at their eyes.

Is this a thing, that people would be upset about?! I have very pale blue eyes and struggle with sun, I wear sunglasses even in winter sometimes. Why would you need to see her eyes? Unless this is a drip feed and you were playing poker ?

Yes you are.

I wear sunglasses when it's bright. They are prescription.

If I go inside somewhere I will keep them on or I can't see! I will say sorry if talking to a person for a long time inside and say they are prescription.

But I'll be dammed if I'm apologising for wearing sunglasses outside whether prescription (I have various eye conditions and I'm really light sensitive too) or not.

Get over yourself 🙄

What, like a comedy spy revealing that they’re in disguise?

Unless this is a drip feed and you were playing poker ?

I think the only possible drip feed that would make a difference here would be if the sunglasses had ‘FUCK’ painted on one lens and ‘OFF’ on the other.

Would it really kill you to raise your sunglasses for all of 15 seconds to acknowledge and make eye contact when introduced to someone new? It’s basic manners.

Is it really beyond your intellect to understand that many people - like me - wouldn't be able to see your fucking face if I raised my sunglasses.

Do you ask people in a wheelchair why they couldn't just stand for a second to shake your hand?

What's with it with ablist people 🙄

I do agree with this, it's nice to greet someone with eye contact for a minute or 2, then pop them back down, and the PP who says it's like no one is home if they are black glasses as so much of a conversation can be about eye contact.

Not unreasonable. She could have removed them briefly while saying hello, for example.

Why though? What would be gained by seeing both of my eyes turning into my nose while I said hello!?

How weird!

I find it weird that it wouldn't bother you.

What a completely weird thing to think. The person is talking to you, engaging and clearly therefore someone "is home".

What's your view on people who are blind ?

Yup.

Expecting people to take sunglasses off on a sunny day is extremely inconsiderate. DH has prescription ones, he wouldn't be able to see across a table without them. I've been advised to wear them by the optician because she detected a spot of macular degeneration a few years ago , and my eyes are pretty sensitive to strong light.

It was sunny and you were outside - why would she remove her sunglasses?

I wear prescription sunglasses (swapping over to normal glasses when overcast or indoors) - if I'd taken my sunglasses off, I wouldn't be able to see you clearly.

YABU

My best friend has photophobia, and has to wear sunglasses, even on grey days and even indoors.
If she was expected to take them off to "properly" greet someone, then her eyes would be slammed shut, and I bet people like you would bitch about that too.

I do hate talking to people who are wearing those mirrored sunglasses where you can't see their eyes AT ALL, and you are just greeted by your own reflection.

Whose norm ? My glasses, both regular and sunglasses are a medical item that I need in order to be able to see. How I use them is my business. I (hope) you wouldn't ask someone to remove a prosthesis or quickly hop out of their wheelchair.

I've been thinking about this. If I was meeting two people at a cafe and they were already sat outside when I arrived and one of them lifted their sunglasses as they said hello I think I'd find that properly odd. Because why.... I wouldn't expect them to stand up, remove a hat, curtsey.

😂

Crikey, it seems there are a number of posters who agree that it's "manners" to remove sunglasses when greeting someone. Someone mentioned when shaking hands - I rarely do that either in a social setting. Clearly I am dragged up. Who knew! I hug/kiss friends and say "hi" to people I don't know that I am being introduced to.

Posters who have said things about eye contact - on a work edi training - that some people find eye contact very uncomfortable and that insisting on someone "look at me when I'm talking to you" is akin to tying someone's left hand behind their back to try and force them to write with their right one. It's forcing someone to ignore their discomfort to fit social norms.

That’s what happens when you sit outside.

Mine are polarised, if I did that I wouldn’t be able to see my screen 🤣

Wondered if my longsightedness was getting worse as I couldn’t read my phone without taking my prescription sunglasses off. Then realised what the problem was 😳

Yep people here have made up themselves that it rude but think its entirely ok for them to demand disabled people give up their medical aid just for their own sense of importance.

Do they hear themselves? What you can't stop your disability for even 15 seconds to a minute... how dare you. Your medical condition makes ME uncomfortable don't you know. Obviously my made up comfort comes about your actual physical comfort that has been diagnosed by doctors etc...

It would never occur to me to do it. Fuck that.