Not removing sunglasses - unreasonable?

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Met up with a friend yesterday, who introduced me to her sister.

We sat outside, it was sunny.

The sister did not remove her sunglasses the entire time (2 hours).

It bothered me. I couldn't see her eyes.

Aibu?

What about if You wear prescription sun glassess my mum does and is blind as an bat without them so If she took them off to greet you she basically would not be able to see you. If you did not know my mum you would have no idea how bad her eye sight is and she should not need to explain or apologise to every one she meets for not taking her sun glassess off.

If they are proper dark and really don’t show her eyes, then yes she should have taken them off to say hello - it’s only polite to show your face during an introduction.

After that fine to put them back on.

Well she only needs to take them off for a minute so the other person can see her - then she can put them back on, and see them. Sorted.

Well I must have been dragged up!

Never heard of taking your sunnies off to say hello!

That's hilarious!

I wouldn't lift my glasses and have never met anyone who has done so .. UK here

Live abroad and almost permanently in my sunglasses, even indoors sometimes, not because I’m a dick, because it’s so bright and I suspect I might be autistic too, I feel much more comfortable in my sunglasses

It'd be a bit like a comedy sketch wouldn't it?

There are a lot of things I was taught as a child that it was rude to do and wearing sunglasses when talking to someone was one of them.
It may be outdated, I've yet to meet anyone who does it, I do it because it's ingrained in me although I'm more relaxed if the person I'm with is wearing them.
It doesn't cross my mind it being right or wrong and these days it is not wrong.
But it was definitely a thing I was brought up with.

Morecome and wise?

Yes!

The Two Ronnies had come to mind but that didn't seem right!

MN just gets weirder and weirder. You were outside and it was SUNNY!!!! She's actually the sensible one protecting her eyes.

I don't get why it would be rude? I wear mine all the time when sunny and all the time even when it's overcast, purely because it's better than squinting all the time and I also like the protected from the world feeling sometimes. My eyesight is fine and not ND.
Have I been rude this whole time without realising? 😂

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But perhaps she can't properly see the OP without them on, either because they're prescription, or because the sun dazzles her eyes,

I hear where you’re coming from, 100%

what I’ve learned is that a lot of people have social anxiety and glasses really are a way of feeling less vulnerable. Also, people on the spectrum don’t necessarily like eye contact, fyi.

I always, ALWAYS remove my sunglasses when meeting new people. ALWAYS. if it’s sunny, I will return them but when I meet anyone for the first time, I remove them.

Eye contact is HUGELY important to me though, so I really understand where you are coming from.

I'm autistic and wear my sunglasses inside! Especially if I am working or watching a movie/shoe thats too bright.

Do not see a problem with outside at all

You know millions of people have light sensitive migraines and conditions. I do and when it goes of I projectile vomit (as well as the pain I will suffer for hours afterwards)... would that be more preferable to you?

How bloody rude to have disabilities right?

Glasses are literally a medical device (yes, even tinted ones).

Even if she hasn't got pre-existing conditions, wanting to protect your eyes from UV on a sunny day while outside is hardly rude... its actually the medical advice (eyes need protecting just like skin does with sun cream). You might not choose to but that just makes you lapsed in your own self care.

I'm amazed she thought her children would give a shiny shite too!

I'm incredibly sensitive to light and end up with migraines so I pretty much wear my sunglasses every time I step outside,

Yabu

I like to protect my eyes from the Death Star with its wrinkle rays… perhaps she vain like me.

Yes just as people in wheelchairs should stand when meeting you too and deaf people should vocally say hello ffs.

Just get over your disability just for ONE MINUTE so I can feel more comfortable or else your the rude one.

The ableism on MN never ceases to amaze.

It was very bad manners!

Good manners are to make eye contact with someone when you are introduced.

The sister should have briefly lifted her sunglasses from her eyes at that point, said “hello / nice to meet you” then could put her glasses back on.

Anything else is being rude and she sounds like an asshole who thinks she’s better than you. Badly brought up not to know this is rude!

Exactly this!!
That’s why I raise them initially so they can see my actual face.

I find that really irritating too. I think you should reveal your eyes when interacting with others. I dont know where to look if someone keeps their sunglasses when socialising and talking to me.