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Sharing a bedroom with brother for holiday

123 replies

Grungousto · 30/08/2024 13:46

We have a cottage that we all adore in the Lake District - stunning views, impeccably clean and a lovely pub in the evening just a 2 min walk away that is dog friendly. And a very decent price.

I usually share a twin room with my mum (divorced) but this year she will be bringing her partner along. This means that if we stay in this cottage my brother and I would have to share a room which is has 2 twin beds. We get on well but just seems a tiny bit odd for people in their 20s.

There are 4 very nice bathrooms. So plenty of space to change etc. it would only be for a week and the rooms are only to sleep. Ie we aren’t a family that spends a lot of time on bedrooms.

what would you do?

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Westfacing · 30/08/2024 13:48

Either you or your brother sleep on the sofa?

TheClawDecides · 30/08/2024 13:49

I'd do it, but then I sometimes share a twin hotel room with my 25 year old son if we go on a mini break, as it can work out much cheaper.

Hankunamatata · 30/08/2024 13:50

Wouldn't bother me sharing a room. Not really any different to someone sleeping on sofa. Youth hotels loads of people share a room.

Andwegoroundagain · 30/08/2024 13:50

Why wouldn't you share a room with your brother? I have and still would! I mean he's my brother after all !

Dinosweetpea · 30/08/2024 13:50

Personally I wouldn't go or I'd find more suitable accommodation for you all.

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Westfacing · 30/08/2024 13:51

You don't say how many bedrooms there are in total and who else is there, in addition to your mum, her partner, and brother.

tarheelbaby · 30/08/2024 13:52

Did you not occasionally share as children? Surely you know him well? As long as you are both considerate, it should be fine unless there's some back story.

I should think that you could manage it - all kinds of people share rooms for various reasons.

I have shared a room on and off with my sister throughout our lives. A few years back she was in London briefly and we shared a hotel bed.

Over the summer, on holiday, I frequently shared a room with one or both my teen DDs.

Rocknrollstar · 30/08/2024 13:53

My DC did this. I don’t see the problem.

Imnotarestaurant · 30/08/2024 13:53

I don’t have a brother but if I did I would share a room with them. You’re just sleeping (in separate beds).

DelphiniumBlue · 30/08/2024 13:54

I'd share with my brother and we are in our 60s!

Sparklytoe · 30/08/2024 13:55

I routinely share with my adult son.

We just give warnings to avert eyes 😆

Idontjetwashthefucker · 30/08/2024 13:55

Not seeing the problem

TheFlis · 30/08/2024 13:57

It’s not ideal but I have done it before when we travelled abroad to see a relative, although that was a hotel so decent size room. You just get changed in the bathroom and don’t sleep naked, no big deal!

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Grungousto · 30/08/2024 13:59

Westfacing · 30/08/2024 13:51

You don't say how many bedrooms there are in total and who else is there, in addition to your mum, her partner, and brother.

My 3 sisters and their partners are going. Each will have a double bedroom.

Same with my mum and her partner.

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KreedKafer · 30/08/2024 14:00

I don't think it's 'inappropriate' in any way - it's not like you're suddenly going to lose the plot and go full Flowers In The Attic because you share a room for a couple of nights on holiday. However, not everyone is comfortable sharing rooms at all as an adult, whether that's with a sibling or a parent or a same-sex friend, and I think it probably depends on how relaxed your relationship with your brother is. I hate sharing a room with anyone, to be honest, so it would be a no from me - for some reason I just hate it. But I wouldn't hate it more if it was my brother.

pinotnow · 30/08/2024 14:03

It's odd that you describe it as odd for people in their twenties, imo. I mean it's odd for people in their twenties to share rooms with their parents if it comes to that, but you were happy to share with your mum because the accommodation suits you in other ways, which is what people do on holiday. I can't see that it's any different with your brother, since you clearly get on.

BobVanceVanceRefridgeration · 30/08/2024 14:09

I recently shared a twin room with my brother when visiting family for a funeral. Only room available

We're both early 40s and didn't find it weird at all. He still farts like a trooper....

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 30/08/2024 14:10

What's "odd" about it?

Andoutcomethewolves · 30/08/2024 14:12

I wouldn't give it a second thought. Just pack some pyjamas and get changed in one of the bathrooms or tell him to avert eyes or clear off out of the room for a bit so you can get changed!

TheChosenTwo · 30/08/2024 14:12

I don’t find it odd at all but I prefer sleeping without anyone else in the room (I begrudgingly put up with dh 😂), I snore and fidget a lot so I’m hyper aware of this if I ever have to share and end up not sleeping very well myself because of it.
So I’d take the sofa personally. Obviously this then means that you’ll be up when the first person comes into the room but I’d take that over sharing a room.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 30/08/2024 14:13

As long as my brother wasn't snoring, I couldn't care less!

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Grungousto · 30/08/2024 14:14

My brother doesn’t fart but he does fall asleep to tv shows like The Office or The Thick Of It which I hope he realises isn’t happening

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Violet17 · 30/08/2024 14:15

I cant see a problem with it. It is twin beds, not a double bed you are sharing.
As other posters have said if either of you find it an issue then one of you sleeps on the sofa.

Ottersmith · 30/08/2024 14:18

I don't really understand, I only have sisters. Would people with brothers not share? Why?