Sharing a bedroom with brother for holiday

[Grungousto]

We have a cottage that we all adore in the Lake District - stunning views, impeccably clean and a lovely pub in the evening just a 2 min walk away that is dog friendly. And a very decent price.

I usually share a twin room with my mum (divorced) but this year she will be bringing her partner along. This means that if we stay in this cottage my brother and I would have to share a room which is has 2 twin beds. We get on well but just seems a tiny bit odd for people in their 20s.

There are 4 very nice bathrooms. So plenty of space to change etc. it would only be for a week and the rooms are only to sleep. Ie we aren’t a family that spends a lot of time on bedrooms.

what would you do?

It’s more so having to share a room with someone if you aren’t on same wavelength with what time to go to bed

I had to share with my bro for 2 nights & we just got on with it. It was in a villa in Spain.
once my aunt left I got a room to myself

Can’t see a problem with it. @Grungousto the place sounds nice, would you mind sharing the details as we live going to the lakes.

I shared a hotel room with my brother years ago, we were 30s. The farting wasn't that bad but the sleep walking was a tad annoying. 😄

I think I'd just go on the sofa. My brother absolutely would not share a bedroom anyway - he won't even share a bathroom!

The only man I want to be around in an intimate situation is my husband. I'd feel uncomfortable sharing with a sister, but a male I think is verging on inappropriate. He doesn't want to see me in my skimpies.

and I'm surprised at how many people would be happy to share with their brother.

What surprises you about it exactly?

I can’t really see the problem, you’ve got twin beds, you said there’s plenty of space for changing and you get on well. You’re probably only going to go in the room to sleep anyway. I guess your options are 1) just go and share 2) don’t go and miss the holiday 3) offer extra money to get a bigger place. Is your brother bothered you have to share?

I would share but that’s becouse my brothers snorting would wake the dead

I couldn't share a bedroom with any man other than DH at my time of life (even the thought of the farting is enough to make it a hard no 😄) but might not have been too bothered in my 20s, I did occasionally let male friends crash in my uni room after a night out. Just lots of closing eyes/looking the other way. 😄

@Mikunia Wow, he wouldn’t even share a bathroom?! My DD (19) had to share a dorm room with a total stranger last year and bathrooms with several ppl. Sharing a room is completely normal at universities here in the US.

This year, she’s at least sharing her bedroom with a friend and there’s four of them to a bathroom. Too expensive to rent an apartment otherwise!

I would share a twin room with my brother, would draw the line at sharing a double bed!

I've explained in other replies, but basically it feels rather intimate to share a room and that's not an intimacy I'm comfortable sharing with my brother, so I'm surprised that others are.

Wouldn't bother me at all

I think that’s probably the difference. I don’t see a bedroom as an intimate place simply a place to get sleep - only being with a partner would change that for me.

Ultimately though only the OP can decide what she is comfy with and if not happy the the sofa is probably best bet

It wouldn't bother me one bit. I'd share a room with my brother, sister, sons. I'd even share a room with my dad if he didn't snore!

I’d rather not be around either my mum or brother if they were horny.

Its highly unlikely that I would see either my mum or brother naked in this situation but if I had to choose then I’d still choose my brother who is a similar age and I’ve seen plenty of times in swimming shorts.

If you don’t mind sharing then there’s no difference between your mum and brother.

I don’t have a problem sharing with my brother. But you are you and if you find it uncomfortable, then it’s how you feel.

What have you decided to do, OP?

Not sure why you think it’s an issue!

Then don't wear 'skimpies' 😳

Normal pyjamas are available.

I'd do it, although my snoring would annoy him so much he'd probably move to the sofa anyway.

I would be 100% fine with this arrangement TBH .You have always got on well and can change in one of the bathrooms .Its only for a week after all. Go and enjoy it and relax with Bro .Think of it as a chance to reconnect.

I hope it would never come to that!
Mind you as kids my sister and I once had to share a huge bed with our brother. Afterwards my sister said to me "oh no I'm not sharing a bed with him again - he's got a bit I don't like"!!
I think she was 7 and he was 4.