Sharing a bedroom with brother for holiday

[Grungousto]

We have a cottage that we all adore in the Lake District - stunning views, impeccably clean and a lovely pub in the evening just a 2 min walk away that is dog friendly. And a very decent price.

I usually share a twin room with my mum (divorced) but this year she will be bringing her partner along. This means that if we stay in this cottage my brother and I would have to share a room which is has 2 twin beds. We get on well but just seems a tiny bit odd for people in their 20s.

There are 4 very nice bathrooms. So plenty of space to change etc. it would only be for a week and the rooms are only to sleep. Ie we aren’t a family that spends a lot of time on bedrooms.

what would you do?

I'm same age as you and brother is 12 years younger! He keeps me active and doing things I would normally be reluctant to do, (nothing promiscuous ). Great times.

It doesn’t sound as if there’s a way around it unless one of you sleeps downstairs or you find a bigger cottage. If it’s too late to find alternative accommodation this year, you’ll have to share or one sleeps downstairs. You can find a larger place next year.

Personally, I’d rather share and have a proper bed!

I wouldn't find it acceptable - I wouldn't be prepared to share with any adult male except a partner. I'd be happy to pay extra for a single room on my own.

It wouldn't bother me at all. I've shared a double bed with my brother in the past! It was a mistake by the hotel, it was meant to be a twin room. We just laughed and got on with it.

Yeah I struggle to share a room with other people and tend to not sleep great.

I'd have no issues with sharing with my brother in theory but mine is a terrible sleeper so it would be a big fat no. 😄

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. He's your brother? If you get on well and it's only for a holiday, who cares?

@kellanse Yes, after a sleepless visit to my in-laws when we were in sleeping bags crammed into their cold basement, I’ve done that- paid up for a hotel! Now I just inform them beforehand that we’re staying in a hotel. 😂

For me it's that sharing a room feels quite intimate and I wouldn't be comfortable doing that with someone of the opposite sex.

I'm honestly amazed at how many people wouldn't bat an eyelid at it.

If you're comfortable then there shouldn't be an issue. But please do reinforce that he should use headphones if watching tv late!

Also - where in the lakes is the cottage? Sounds perfect for what I'm looking for! @Grungousto

I'm confused as to why there are 4 bathrooms. Whatever, there must be a living room with a sofa that your brother could sleep on.

I can’t see any harm in sharing a bedroom with a brother. It is twin beds.🤷‍♀️

Wouldn’t bother me at all! I share a bed with my sister when we go on holiday

My dcs (m+f) always share a twin room when we are away as a family (albeit just one or two nights usually, but would accept for a week if it's that or don't come and we are paying 😂) They are in their 20s

I find it really odd that some people would be made uncomfortable by this. He's your brother! Surely of all the men in the world, your brother is the one you know sees you as a person and not "a woman"?

I get on with my brother but I wouldn't want to share a bedroom with him for a week. A night or two I could put up with it but I wouldn't be looking forward to a holiday if I knew I had to share a bedroom with him for 7 nights.

I can't really put my finger on why. It's just grosses me out a bit....which I think is a natural response as otherwise incest would happen! He might be feeling the same as you OP. Have a chat with him about it...he might offer to go on the sofa, or go on the sofa for the first half of the nights and then swap. It doesn't seem like there's much more options really.

I would and have. We revert to kids again farting and generally being annoying to each other. Stupid yes I know.

That sounds like a lot of people in one property and I'd hate to share with any other adult. I wouldn't go or would find my own place.

I'd have a right laugh sharing with my brother. If there are 4 bathrooms it would be even easier.

Wtf my brother and I slept in bunk beds a few weeks ago and I'm 34 🤣 who cares!

Are you paying for the holiday?
Id say if it was a freebie paid for by parents I’d suck it up, even though sharing with bro wouldn’t be my top choice.
If you’re paying I’d be a bit more irked. But it sounds like there physically isn’t another room for one of you to sleep in, so there’s not a right lot you can do!

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest

@Mikunia I think several of us are thinking about the hassle and expense of finding alternative accommodation at short notice (I’m assuming that the holiday is fairly soon). I just couldn’t be bothered and would put up with sharing!

If they go again next year, however, I’d look for a bigger place

Can the partner and brother not share?

I don’t see the difference between sharing with your mum and sharing with your brother.

I would choose to sleep in the same room with my brother who is closer in age to me, than my mum.

@Choochoo21 how is sharing with your mum comparable with sharing with brother....ill try to spell it out....who would you accidentally see naked mum or brother? Imagine if mum or brother wakes up horny who would you prefer to be around?