Sharing a bedroom with brother for holiday

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We have a cottage that we all adore in the Lake District - stunning views, impeccably clean and a lovely pub in the evening just a 2 min walk away that is dog friendly. And a very decent price.

I usually share a twin room with my mum (divorced) but this year she will be bringing her partner along. This means that if we stay in this cottage my brother and I would have to share a room which is has 2 twin beds. We get on well but just seems a tiny bit odd for people in their 20s.

There are 4 very nice bathrooms. So plenty of space to change etc. it would only be for a week and the rooms are only to sleep. Ie we aren’t a family that spends a lot of time on bedrooms.

what would you do?

I think it’s fine if you feel relaxed with it.

Otherwise one of you has a blow up bed in the lounge.

We’ve done that loads of time on cottage holidays.

Wouldn't bother me at all

Taking the sofa seems worse in terms of privacy to me. That way, everyone is in your bedroom.

I’d happily share with my sister. Why not?

It would be a non-issue for me.

I’m with this^
I would share a room in case of emergency or similar but not in a situation when I suppose to enjoy myself. It won’t be a fun holiday for me so I wont want to pay for this, use my time/ annual leave for this.
If it’s the only way to see my family I would probably do it but cut it to as short as possible.

Why do people make such a fuss? What is the problem?

I don't think it's odd in the slightest. I share with my sisters even now when necessary. I shared a room with both my parents in my 20s when we went on holiday once and got a family room with 1 double and 1 single bed. In and of itself, sharing a room with a relative is perfectly normal so unless you have an issue specific to him I think it's fine.

Just noticed you update that it’s quite a big family gathering. It’s ok (count as an emergency in my book 😆) but you do need a longer time strategy what are you going to do when next year you or your brother will be with a partner.

I would share, as long as he isn't annoying it isn't a big deal.

I'm on my own in this but no I wouldn't share with my brother and he absolutely wouldn't share with me! He is a very private person and would be very uncomfortable with the idea.

I haven't shared a room with him since he was 12 (he's four years older) and I'm surprised at how many people would be happy to share with their brother.

Sharing with a brother is different to sharing with a sister.

My DC are in their 20s - two boys, one girl. They shared a room on holiday when they were 18,20 and 22 - we did ask and they were fine about it. I'm sure it would be the same now that they're 24, 26 and 28. We've done a lot of camping and they've travelled and stayed in hostels, so no big deal for them.

Not if you like your brother and sister equally. I would definitely prefer to share with my brother over my sister, I get on much better with my brother and my sister is a terrible snorer!

I’ve shared a room with a friend’s brother who I hadn’t seen in years. We only stopped talking when the sun came up. I really don’t get the trepidation, is there back story?

I wouldn't share with a brother or sister, friend or anyone

DadJoke is a bloke, I thought.

I have shared with my brother all through my 20s, OP. It wasn’t anything of note.

Why would it be weird?

Do you not trust yourself or your brother not to be 'inappropriate'?

What do you expect to happen?

I'm in my 30s and its not that long ago I last shared a hotel room with my brother. DH is away and sharing with his brother this weekend.

When we were in our 20s my brother and I once shared a double bed in a motel with a mirror on the ceiling for a couple of nights in Mexico.

So, yeah, twin bedroom in a lovely cottage in the lakes would be fine by me.

I'm 66 and my brother is 57. We shared a room until I was 16. I'd share with him if I had to.

Me and my brother sometimes share when we've been travelling together. Not my first choice but it doesn't put me off not to do it.

Wouldn't bother me OP - can you put your finger on what troubles you about it? Is it the gender difference, or just sharing with another adult full stop?

It's not weird - it's two separate beds. I might understand if it was just one double but even that isn't that strange. You're just sleeping!

In my twenties I would have shared a room with lots of people's brothers ! Couple of mattresses on the floor in a temporary living situation until everyone got their own apartment.

I've done it. Would rather do that than pay for a whole hotel room each. Being single in a hotel is expensive!