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Sharing a bedroom with brother for holiday

123 replies

Grungousto · 30/08/2024 13:46

We have a cottage that we all adore in the Lake District - stunning views, impeccably clean and a lovely pub in the evening just a 2 min walk away that is dog friendly. And a very decent price.

I usually share a twin room with my mum (divorced) but this year she will be bringing her partner along. This means that if we stay in this cottage my brother and I would have to share a room which is has 2 twin beds. We get on well but just seems a tiny bit odd for people in their 20s.

There are 4 very nice bathrooms. So plenty of space to change etc. it would only be for a week and the rooms are only to sleep. Ie we aren’t a family that spends a lot of time on bedrooms.

what would you do?

OP posts:
CurlewKate · 30/08/2024 15:08

Can't see the problem!

Conniebygaslight · 30/08/2024 15:13

Perfectly acceptable IMO

Simonjt · 30/08/2024 15:17

Can’t see the problem, if you don’t want to thats fine, but you’ll have to find a bigger property and fund your own portion plus the additional cost associated with a bigger property as sleeping on the sofa prevents others from using the living room.

Original poster
Grungousto · 30/08/2024 15:35

AgentJohnson · 30/08/2024 14:47

I’ve shared a room with a friend’s brother who I hadn’t seen in years. We only stopped talking when the sun came up. I really don’t get the trepidation, is there back story?

not at all. We get on well

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ClivetheDestroyer · 30/08/2024 15:50

I don't think this is weird... I would happily share a twin room with my brother and we're both in our 30s.
Although I can't see the situation arising haha as we both have families now! But we did share a bedroom for a few years when we were little.

FloordrobeIsGoingToGetME · 30/08/2024 15:53

I hate sharing with any adult other than my DH, wouldn't share a room with my sister, let alone my brother, so it's a no from me!

ExtraOnions · 30/08/2024 15:55

…have you never seen Schitts Creek? Just cos-play David & Alexis

AcrossthePond55 · 30/08/2024 15:56

Wouldn't bother me a bit. Back in our 20s my parents took my DB and I to Hawaii for 2 weeks. DB and I shared a room (2 beds obviously). We used the bathroom to change clothes, etc. No big deal.

Sure, we could have asked for 'girls in one room, boys in the other'. But in sharing a room DB & I could go out partying without the folks even knowing we'd left the room lol.

It was share a room or not go to Hawaii. Easy choice!

ErrolTheDragon · 30/08/2024 16:02

It's fine, so long as you get on ok. When I was about 18, my parents, mid-20s db and I went to a keycamps type thing in france, original plan had been I'd share with dm but for some reason she really wanted to be in with DF . Complete non-issue even in a tent.

From what I've seen of my mid 20s DD and friends they're relaxed about mixed sex sleeping (between themselves not strangers!) ... they just behave like respectful adults.

ginasevern · 30/08/2024 16:07

@tarheelbaby

"I have shared a room on and off with my sister throughout our lives. A few years back she was in London briefly and we shared a hotel bed. Over the summer, on holiday, I frequently shared a room with one or both my teen DDs."

I think you're missing the point somewhat. Your sister and teen daughters (presumably) aren't men. The OP has already said she was happy to share with her mum so she's not griping about sharing with someone, she just finds it a bit embarrassing to share with her brother as an adult.

abracadabra1980 · 30/08/2024 16:10

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest as long as my relationship with the brother was a good one.

abracadabra1980 · 30/08/2024 16:11

Sparklytoe · 30/08/2024 13:55

I routinely share with my adult son.

We just give warnings to avert eyes 😆

🫣
Love this!

simpledeer · 30/08/2024 16:12

My DC are in their twenties and have holidayed together several times, sharing twin room.

If you get on then why wouldn’t you? Nothing weird at all.

Clearinguptheclutter · 30/08/2024 16:13

I don’t see the issue. I’ve often shared with my dad since becoming an adult

presumably there is a sofa option if either of you is uncomfortable

JC89 · 30/08/2024 16:14

I shared with my brother when we were in our twenties, why is that a particularly odd age? It was probably less awkward then than as teens with embarrassing changing bodies!

AgileGreenSeal · 30/08/2024 16:14

You take the room and brother take a blow-up bed in the living room- you can use the bedding off the other bed for him so it’s just a question of bringing an inflatable bed.

Hatty65 · 30/08/2024 16:19

I wouldn't be keen, my DB is an arsehole, and I'm too old to want to share rooms any longer.

However, my DD2 (28) and DS (20) frequently go to various cities together to watch gigs and comedy shows and happily book a twin room in a Premier Inn or somewhere. It doesn't appear to bother either of them.

Obeseandashamed · 30/08/2024 16:20

I shared with my brother on a family city break not that long ago. I'm in my 30's married with kids and he is a single in his 20's. I wouldn't do it again. It was very awkward and he would walk around in his boxers a lot, slept in just boxers, played music constantly and I found it uncomfortable. Maybe it was just my brother being inconsiderate but I wouldn't do it again.

Flopu · 30/08/2024 16:21

I don’t get the problem, it’s easy enough to get changed etc just say look away or go in the bathroom.

if he needs tv sound to fall asleep he can wear a sleep headband and listen to Malcolm tuckers dulcet tones!

TwinklyAmberOrca · 30/08/2024 16:23

My brother snores so hell no!

But if he didn't snore then I guess that would be OK.

So what happens if you get a partner? Or your brother wants to bring a partner??

Obeseandashamed · 30/08/2024 16:23

Obeseandashamed · 30/08/2024 16:20

I shared with my brother on a family city break not that long ago. I'm in my 30's married with kids and he is a single in his 20's. I wouldn't do it again. It was very awkward and he would walk around in his boxers a lot, slept in just boxers, played music constantly and I found it uncomfortable. Maybe it was just my brother being inconsiderate but I wouldn't do it again.

I should probably also say, it was a twin room and I never mind sharing with my eldest son when the two of us go away.

halava · 30/08/2024 16:26

My brother and I occasionally go away together as we enjoy certain significant (for us) places to explore. Neither of our partners are remotely interested! We always share a twin room and have the greatest laughs ever, it's like being kids again. No problems whatsoever.

Look on it as potential fun and a great way to bond.

brieandbacon · 30/08/2024 16:27

I'd have such a laugh sharing with my brother (and I'm over 60!) No issue at all.

Yozzer87 · 30/08/2024 16:29

No I wouldn't like it. Not the fact that it's my brother but I wouldn't feel comfortable not wearing a bra around anyone that wasn't anyone I live with or a close mate and I like privacy to fart or do other things alone, so no.

UrbanFan · 30/08/2024 16:29

I don't understand why you wouldn't share a room with your brother. I have brothers and sisters and see no problem in sharing a room with any of them.