Horrid friend

[Flute56]

Ive had an on off friendship with someone but i think i need to get rid once and for all. What stops me is that when we get on its like weare best friends untill she finds something to slag me off about. When i try to defend myself she doesnt like it anď closes down her wassap so i cantwassap her. She has done this before and after a few days opens her wassap so i can message again and then she acts like my best friend again. I need to tell her what i think and put my valid point across but cant do it on wassap and so would it be agood idea to weite a letter instead and post it to her. Im not upset but just annoyed. I had a very toxic mother who died and i was free from her and now it seems ive got it again from this friend

You know what you need to do op for your own mental health. You worth more. Find a friend who appreciates you and doesn't ignore you to punish you. You right it is toxic. X

Delete her number and do not reply to her again.
You have replaced your toxic mother with a toxic friend.
You know ehat you have to do.
Stop engaging with her.

She's not a friend, it's OK to walk away from anyone who doesn't bring happiness into your life. If you've said your peace you can walk away and delete. Life is too short for consistently, inconsistent people.

Block. Dont engage

No need to write a letter, just distance yourself and be unavailable or send a simple massage saying the friendship isn’t working out, wish her the best for the future and block.

I need to tell her what I think

Don't waste your time. Just stop communicating with her and block and delete.

Why do you even bother communicating with her? Stop entertaining her drama and just block her.

You're free right now unless you engage with her drama by messaging with a telling off. Stay free, don't fuel her antics.

Writing or messaging to tell her the why is utterly pointless, it'll only come back to bite you on the arse. Usually there can be a conversation even if it ends the friendship but from what you say about her its all a load of one sided drama with you walking on eggshells. So don't bother to JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain), you'll only waste your time tying yourself in knots she'll just use it to fuel her usual drama this time with you being the one causing her a problem (and she'll have proof in writing). Block her number and move on with your life. If she contacts you another way be vague that you deleted whatsapp or whatever and be noncommittal about future contact, you're just busy and will be in touch soon (then don't).

If you feel you've replaced your mother with a similar personality maybe get yourself some counselling. You cannot change other people, only yourself but people treat us how we allow ourselves to be treated.

You didn't comment on the writing a letter part all I need to know is is it worth writing a letter because I obviously cannot whatsapp her and she hasn't blocked me I know that for a fact but she's set up her WhatsApp in a way where I cannot get a message through I'm not sure even how you do this because I thought it was either completely blocking or having full access I've looked at the settings but I can't find anything else

No just block her, she’ll understand how you feel when you have no more to do with her.

Don't waste your time fucking around writing letters. She isn't going to suddenly change into a decent human being just because you tell her what you think.

Block her number for good and move on. She's not a friend, never mind your best friend.

Just looked online and found this
. To stop someone from WhatsApping you without blocking them, you can mute their

Interestingly ive never muted anyone. Ive only blocked

I cannot send a message because she has muted me and messages won't go through that's why I wanted to write a letter in state

Isn't muting the same thing as blocking because if you mute someone they cannot message you and if you block them they cannot message you either so I don't understand the difference

If writing a letter would help to express how you feel, then write one, but I would advise not to send it.

Clearly the relationship is over for you both and engaging over a different style of communication won't come to much.

Sorry you're going through this and hopefully you can move forward without toxic friend.

If you mute someone, they can still message you, you just don’t get a notification when they do. You need to block. And don’t send a letter, that’s just a recipe for further drama and an escalation of this person’s toxic behaviour.

Muting just means they will receive any messages you send, but won't be notified of them. Blocking is different because neither calls or messages can reach you.

Ok so when I try to message this person she hasn't blocked me the custom messages don't go through because all I get is one tick and if the messages go through you get two ticks so I don't know what she's done

Please don’t bother writing her a letter, she’s not going to suddenly see everything from your point of view and acknowledge she is a manipulative cow.

Just block her and carry on with your life.

She might have reply notifications off, so that senders don't get told when their messages have been received and read.

Block her. She manipulates you. Life is too short.

I wouldn't write back and block her. Life too short and you deserve a friend who doesn't treat you like this

Don't even stress about it. Just block her number and be done with it. She's not worth writing a letter to.

Don’t WhatsApp and don’t write, just delete her number, and move on with your life.

Writing a letter, letting it all out, telling her exactly what you think of her and her crappy behaviour.....and then not sending it, is a good idea.

@Flute56 Im so sorry this is happening to you.

This is a toxic relationship. You are persistently forced to play her game and only you can stop that. You must end all communication. Block her. Be in control.

Have a look at this it might help you.https://www.healthline.com/health/toxic-friendships

Good luck finding some real friends who value you x