Horrid friend

[Flute56]

Ive had an on off friendship with someone but i think i need to get rid once and for all. What stops me is that when we get on its like weare best friends untill she finds something to slag me off about. When i try to defend myself she doesnt like it anď closes down her wassap so i cantwassap her. She has done this before and after a few days opens her wassap so i can message again and then she acts like my best friend again. I need to tell her what i think and put my valid point across but cant do it on wassap and so would it be agood idea to weite a letter instead and post it to her. Im not upset but just annoyed. I had a very toxic mother who died and i was free from her and now it seems ive got it again from this friend

Write the letter to get it out and to serve as a reminder of why you don't want her in your life. But do not send it. This person has the power to upset you, so why poke the tiger? She will not have a light bulb moment, she will not take on board your side of things. She will only come back at you with more of the same and leave you even more angry/frustrated/hurt. As PP say, block her. And if you ever get the urge to have her back in your life, get out your letter to remember why it's a bad idea.

Brilliant...and I haven't even had drink yet ...

I've come back to this thread because I did actually challenge her and she told me that I was making too much out of it and she had nothing to say so basically what she is saying is that she can say whatever she likes and I should just suck it up and turn the other cheek and she feels that everybody has a right to an opinion and should be able to say what ever is on their mind

So block and delete.

She isn't a friend.

I've blocked her now and for the record I do have other friends who appreciate me but she was my longest standing friend for over 40 years so it's a shame but that's how it goes

She's shown you who she is. It's sad that a long friendship has come to an end but it also seems she wasn't a very good friend to you. This isn't much of a loss.

Wrong post.

By law everybody is entitled to freedom of speech but not when it causes distress or harm to other people I think as Time Goes On people change and grow and we are not the same people that we were 30 or 40 years ago I certainly am a very different person to what I was when I was a teenager or in my twenties and I would call somebody like my friend narcissist and I'm not going to lose any more sleepovers I'm just going to be thankful for the better friends that I've got and leave it which is a pity because I'm going on a really good holiday soon and his friend wanted to know about the holiday and what I get up to and everything and somebody said to me why don't you keep her on until after your holiday and rub her nose in it until her all the marvelous things do get up to on your holiday but that would be very very childish and I'm not that sort of person

Sorry my post wasn't very clear and I don't think you can edit a quoted post but somebody said to me for a joke why don't I keep her as a friend until after my holiday so I can rub her nose in it and tell her what her marvelous holiday

Really? How absurd. As you say, you are not that type of person.

How old are you both?

How do you know she’s ’slagging you off’?

On the face of it, feels toxic but the theme through all your responses is butt hurt at being ‘muted’ or ‘blocked’ on socials. Is this the real issue?

No being blocked is not the issue. I am surprised anyone would think this. The issue was aattitude and i have blocked her and moved on to more pleasant peoe

Snagging me off seems harsh. She was criticising me via wassap sending me critical messages which were unpleasant and when i tried to stand up for myself i either got more of the same or the silent treatment or i was told she could say what she liked and i had to suck it up. I therefore blocked her and do not want anything to do with her again

look at your responses - case in point

Does anyone know how to block a post… asking for a friend

You sound just as bad as your friend that's if it's your friend that is the one with her problem, maybe she has blocked you for a very good reason.

She did block me but then unblocked me and the reason she unblocked me was in case I changed my mind and wanted to get back in touch and I know this because a couple of years ago she told me she doesn't like blocking because it prevents people from getting in touch with her so she's hoping that one day I will think oh let's get back in touch with her and I can because she hasn't got me blocked but what she doesn't realise is that I have blocked her because of her behavior and why would I want to get back in touch with someone who has behaved as she has done so she has a very high opinion of herself which is distorted and I don't want somebody in my life like that

Have you read what you are typing? Perhaps that is why she has blocked you. You are talking about blocking, unblocking yada you sound like a 5 year old, stop watching what the person is doing and get on with your life.

She has not got me blocked right now and I am getting on with my life

Personally I wouldn't waste energy, either just say were moving in different directions and I'm going to take a break from our friendship, or just stop responding and allow it to fizzle out. You don't need that drama in your life, move on and make room for real friendships

This is precisely what I have done I've made room for other people

Yes you dont need stress or drama. Im rid of a toxic friendship too. I dont need all this drama in my 50s.

Well done