Horrid friend

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Ive had an on off friendship with someone but i think i need to get rid once and for all. What stops me is that when we get on its like weare best friends untill she finds something to slag me off about. When i try to defend myself she doesnt like it anď closes down her wassap so i cantwassap her. She has done this before and after a few days opens her wassap so i can message again and then she acts like my best friend again. I need to tell her what i think and put my valid point across but cant do it on wassap and so would it be agood idea to weite a letter instead and post it to her. Im not upset but just annoyed. I had a very toxic mother who died and i was free from her and now it seems ive got it again from this friend

not to be rude and genuinely interested if a mature woman would behave like this but are you still in your teens/early 20’s OP? That might explain some of your posts

Are you 12?

You, for some reason, God knows what, seem fond of confrontations and dramatic 'I'm going to block you because...'/'I'm not your friend anymore because..' declarations.

She isn't. If somebody annoys, hurts, irritates or generally pisses her off being a needy, confrontational, big Eastenders style barney type, she withdraws.

Maybe she's doing it to piss you off, but it sounds more like she's just had it up to here with the drama. Sending letter(s) to her home, demanding her attention, is weird and especially if you're delivering it yourself, is more likely to get you reported to the Police than get you back being friends or having the great big show you seem to believe is normal.

I actually did block her in the end and then when I looked again to double check because I couldn't remember if I'd blocked her or not I found out that she's now blocked me after her saying she never blocks anyone

She must have looked at me blocking her and decided oh well if she's blocking me then i will block her as well. Its childish but i dont want her drama

Friends dont slag each other off and then lies about it when challenged. I came across a childhood froend on hacebook who bullied me and she apogee for upsetting me and her exact words were i am truly sorry grom the bottom of my heart but this one will ne never say that

Last time I met up with my friend was 3 weeks ago as she asked me to play badminton but in a park not a court. It was rubbish and too windy and she said she had a rubber bat and ball which she bought from a toy shop. Isaid i wasnt doung it again as it would be better on a court but she said no

What's that got to do with anything??

Just trying to explain what type of person she is

I'm not sure the windy badminton anecdote sheds much light. Have you got any more stories about her?

I think you need to ask yourself why you allow others to treat you so badly. She is not your friend.

Oh for goodness sake. You've heard what most people think. If you're determined to engage with her and offer explanations I don't know why you posted.

You should walk away, she's not a friend.

But you do remember that WhatsApp isn't the only way to message someone, right? Text messages still exist.

Don’t text, don’t write a letter, don’t WhatsApp/TikTok/Facebook/ Twitter. Don’t answer her calls. Act like an adult, be politely distant if you do meet, and don’t get drawn back into a “ friendship” you don’t need or want. It’s not hard to do, particularly if you aren’t checking social media all the time. Walk away, move on, find new things to do, people to be with. Angst over.

I've already blocked her now

I haven’t read every post in this thread so not sure if this has been mentioned, but surely if she mutes you on WhatsApp and then she messages you on there again after a period of time, surely a message from you would get thru when she eventually unmutes the chat…? So if you wrote what you wanted to in a message on WhatsApp, maybe it would reach her once she unmutes you. I am not very familiar with the mute function however, so I don’t know if this is the case.

I totally understand you feeling the need to say your bit and defend yourself and speak out against the nasty comments she’s made etc, and whether you do that via WhatsApp or text or email or letter, that’s all fine and I’d say do what works for you in that sense - but I’d only do so if you plan on making this a final communication before cutting off contact entirely - and by the sound of it, this “friend” isn’t the type who’s let it lie. It does sound like a very toxic situation and personally I think by writing her the letter/message, you’re just opening yourself to more emotional distress and drama.

If you are intent on ending the friendship, there is nothing stopping you from simply stopping contact between the two of you. If you feel the need to get things off your chest, why don’t you write the letter with the knowledge that you will never have to deal with this person again, and then don’t send it. Rip it up if you like, throw it away - or put it somewhere safe where if you ever get the urge to contact this so-called friend again, you can re-read through the way she made you feel and the things she said to hurt you, and remind yourself why you don’t want to be around her ever again.
She definitely sounds toxic - I’d steer well clear if I were you.

I think you’re obsessed with the WhatsApp drama tbh. If you don’t want to have contact with her then don’t ffs.

😆 Not soon enough @ThePrologue not soon enough.

WhatsApp!

🤣

Is anyone else thinking of this?

Whenever she blocks you block her back and don't unblock at all.

She isn't a friend. She's a horrible, self-centred bitch. Delete and block her number, her Facebook, etc., and don't contact her at all.

You honestly sound unhinged the way you are obsessing over blocking or not blocking. Grow up.

Didn’t you just block her and not tell her why?

Silently leave her life 👌