How would you feel, if your DH bought you a bib?

[Bibblunders]

He bought me an adult pelican bib! He thinks it's hilarious.

It says on it "if you can read this, I haven't had my dinner yet". I do drop food on myself, fair enough, but I just think this isn't funny.

And, given that I'm never going to wear it, a total waste of time, because to send it back, he has to parcel it back up and drive some distance to a post office, because we don't have a post office in our town.

I don't know if my sense of humour is lacking, but I feel offended. Maybe that's too strong a word, I don't know, maybe belittled or like he's thinking I'm not sexy, if that makes sense? Maybe I need to lighten up!

YABU - lighten up, it's just a joke

YANBU - I wouldn't like that either

I can imagine my DH doing that and I'd find it hilarious and make a point of wearing it

I think it's funny. You sound super precious.

I too always get stuff on myself and frequently tell dh I should get myself a bib. But if he actually went out and got me one I’d be more than irritated! Humiliated is more like it.

So eat at the table then.
Surely it's more comfortable to sit upright than hunched over a plate on the settee?

FFS surely a joke! My DH does the washing (yes this is his job) and I am always spilling food on my clothes while we’re watching telly - I just say - you’d better be able to get this out of this top - he’d buy me a bib in the blink of his eye and I’d take it - thank you very much - I would not have any weird notion about it - if you’re messy, then you are 😆

Sounds like a great present to me (I say as I sit here wearing my adult bib that my husband bought me as a joke)

Turns out the joke was on him as I wear it every night without fail and saves my clothes from all sorts. Embrace the bib life, you won’t regret it 🤣

I think it depends how he gave it- if he genuinely finds it hilarious and thought you’d think it was funny too, then it’s fine.
If there was a sly tone to it, like he was trying to embarrass you or make you feel bad, it’s not
great.

Exactly - love the bib! Nothing wrong with it at all x

My ex mil put a bib in my table setting on wedding day as a joke

I spill food op as I try to read at the same time.

After your update I understand more. You're totally overreacting about the bib, but is it because you don't feel sexy etc and your DH doesn't usually get you nice gifts so a joke gift feels like a kick in the teeth?

If you're disabled and are actually unable to eat without spilling things, then your DH is an arsehole of the highest order.

If you're just a lazy, sloppy eater that has the phsical capability of eating properly, but instead chooses to eat like a toddler, I'd suggest you either wear the bib, or (preferably)change your behaviour and eat like an adult. Gross to need to tell an able bodied adult that they need to eat without throwing their food down their top though. Bleurgh.

All the ppl shaming the op for dropping food on her: I do it sometimes too; It’s not that unusual. And for something to be a joke, it needs to be funny - this is giving “Benidorm all inc” humour.

I would be offended as it is an offensive thing to buy for an adult but I'd also be concerned that my table manners have deteriorated and that I need to slow down and be less messy.

My GC laugh at me when I drip gravy down my t-shirt - I tend to tuck a napkin in at the neck if I'm eating spaghetti or anything with a stainy sauce when I'm out.

ll the ppl shaming the op for dropping food on her: I do it sometimes too

She must do it a lot if her husband has bought her a bib. I think everyone occasionally drops food on themselves, but most able people can eat without spilling food on them all the time.

Not sexy?? It's a bib.

Next time he tells you you have wasted money on something, point out that he bought you an adult bib

Agree with this.

It may be a ‘joke’ and also may be something he’s trying to ‘light heartedly’ make light out of… however, if it’s a joke at your expense you don’t need to get over it.
Tell him he’s being insensitive and Chuck it out. Perhaps take extra care when eating so he has nothing to point out 💪🏻💐

I need a pelican bib

It does give you a comeback next time he complains about you buying something. 'Well, at least it isn't a bib'.

I have to admit, I do normally have my napkin tucked under my chin as my bosom is a bit of a shelf and I do sometimes drop food (especially with chopsticks!).

However, I'm not sure that I would appreciate a bib as it would make me feel very self-conscious (plus my husband's life expectancy might become severely shortened).

This.

If my partner was always dropping food down themselves I think it would give me the ick.

If the OP and her husband joked about her spilling the food it wouldn't be so bad, but otherwise, it's not amusing. At best, it's a not very funny joke at her expense; at worst, it's a passive-aggressive dig intended to make her feel unhappy and insecure in their relationship.

OP, if you haven't already, I'd tell him honestly exactly why the bib felt like an insult. This is also the time to address your fear that he's no longer attracted to you. I'd get it all out on the table. You can try to understand one another better, and if he is being purposely hurtful, he deserves to be called out on it.

I sympathise with you. My neurological condition means that the food often finds the scenic route to my mouth. I usually put the linen serviette tucked in my collar when I eat. Once when I went out to a restaurant with family, I heard my gd whisper to her mother 'don't let me sit near nana, she shows me up'.