Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

Everyone is calling the OP controlling, have you read the thread?

It sounds like you're talking about a teenager not a fully grown man tbh.

Strange behaviour from yourself

A lot of abusers have underlying trauma, but it doesn't mean their actions aren't abusive and shouldn't be called out as such.

Yes. OP can offer no reasonable explanation other than its a strange city and she can’t trust her husband not to go for a walk outside the hotel.

she has negotiated with him that he is allowed out to 10pm.

She probably does suffer from anxiety - but when you place that moneky on someone else’s back that is controlling.

Being worried is ok, inflicting your own fears on other people is not.

Christ on a bike give your head a wobble OP. You are being beyond ridiculous in every way. Get a grip.

No, you are not. Unless the city is in Ukraine or Lebanon.

As you can see from the responses, no you are not being rational and no it's not normal.

Blimey, your family have gone on holiday with Sister Mary Funsponge of the Order of the Judgy Wimple.

You don’t get to define ‘rational’ or ‘normal’ I’m afraid.

Why so uldn’t you let them go?

I’m glad you let them out!

😁

I know the earlier thread about the North looked scary and all, but Scarborough really isn't that dangerous to be walking around at 8.30. It's not even dark then!

Also OP I know you said you are in a strange city, but your DH only mentioned going to check out the lounge area of your hotel? So he didn’t even say he would be leaving the hotel?

IF ONLY you weren’t joined at the hip☹️

Unfathomably unreasonable.

A) They were planning on going to the hotel lobby, not on a walking tour of the cities darkest back alleys?

B) Unless you're holidaying in downtown Baltimore or Caracas or Johannesburg, I'd imagine your grown adult husband and 10 year old would be perfectly safe exploring a tourist destination at 8.30pm, even if they weren't planning to stay in the hotel.

C) Just because a city is unfamiliar to you doesn't make it automatically strange or dangerous.

Unless the "strange city" is the Tenderloin in San Fran then no, it's not.

8.30? Surely thats when you go out not go to bed?

Why do the others have to stay in because you wamt to go to bed? Baffling!

You do you but don't dictate to the rest of your family.....and yes 8 30 on holiday and trying to stop others going out isn't ok for everyone

I think if you give a general idea of location this may add helpful context. For example I’m currently in mainland touristy Spain and I’d be happy wandering out alone till midnight. Same if I was on the Algarve. 17 year old dd would also be safe.
would you not compromise and join them as you’re obviously not asleep?

YABVU and controlling why do they need you to "let" them go out..
If you were a man telling a woman this people would be outraged at the control. I don't know many 10 years whose idea of fun is sitting in a hotel room especially if you are going to bed assume you expect them to be quiet too??