Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

This is really weird. Why wouldn't you put in your OP that you're worried about the strange City?

Comment about not seeing the point in going out it's just weird I would also have called reverse on this OR highly controlling twat!

This has got to be a wind up.

This is why there is a mental health crisis. People don’t feel the need to seek help for their non physical medical conditions.

There is nothing perfectly rational about banning an adult from leaving the hotel room at 8.30 in the evening. You are being utterly ridiculous.

Why would you go on holiday somewhere you don't think it's safe to leave the hotel at 8:30pm?

Assuming this is true and not a reverse.

You don't trust your Dh do you. Do you think he's looking at other women (might sneak off to a night club) or that he's got a drink problem

I thought the whole point of going on holiday is to leave the hotel and take a walk around the place you have chosen to go on holiday

It was dark in the UK just after 8pm last night and is obv only get to get darker earlier now .... I'd be making the most of the my holiday in a warmer lighter place to be honest. Not going to bed at 8.30! You can do that in the winter at home if you fancy it.

The point of going on holiday is to experience a new city/ town and explore it! Totally unreasonable for you to demand your DH and DC stay in the hotel room. You need to get the right support for your worry/ anxiety and not project it on your DC - as thats totally unfair!

I see you ‘let them out’ then told them to be home by 10 - again your DH is an adult if he is enjoying the evening with your 10yo this is totally unreasonable!

So the party stops when you decide? Whats the point in spending money on a holiday if you won't let your DH & children enjoy themselves?
Just ask them to be as quiet as possible when coming back to the room but yes - I'd be annoyed if my other half decided to bed early and so we all had to stop our day. Holidays fly by as it is!

Some of the MH 'crisis' is that people are too quick to label normal everyday emotions as MH illnesses. Being anxious is normal. It's part of life, and it doesn't necessarily warrant a trip to the GP.

But why are you the boss?
If you don’t like strange cities at night, don’t go out. Not sure why you get to curtail other people though. Your anxiety is not their problem.
if my spouse tried to control me like that, I’d have told him where to go very smartly.
Way, way, way too controlling.

Unless you're in Syria, I can't understand this. I agree with others, it's selfish. Why go to a "strange city" if you think a grown man can't look after himself and his child?

8:30 is very early for bed on holiday. You can go to bed whatever time you want but making your DH and DC stay in is very unreasonable. I'd go as far as controlling and selfish. Let them enjoy their holiday.

I think she's realised she is BU!!!

Could you explain why it's perfectly rational to be worried about your grown man of a husband leaving the hotel with his child in a strange city?

Presumably you went on holiday there because you were interested in said city, and to make it be less strange to you all? Isn't that the point of a holiday?

I am an early to bed kind of girl, but that doesn't mean that if DH and DD still wanted to do something they couldn't. DH is perfectly capable of looking after his child, whether the surroundings are strange or familiar.

Your not joined at the hip!

I'm very interested in hearing from the 2% of voters who think the OP is NBU, because 100% of commenters are saying YABU 🤔
The OP won't be back, probably too scared 😜

Ok, ok, I got the message.

I was overthinking. DH & DS came back alive and well, and we had a lovely breakfast and are now relaxing by the pool.

😆

Great. Now try and relax a little and enjoy your holiday!

I just worry after what happened to the doctor and Jay?? (young man),

Since DH was a good boy and returned by his 10pm curfew he'll get some pocket money today to buy himself an ince cream!

Oh come on, this has got to be a wind up.

Nah, not buying it. You can’t be serious.